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I Don't Want Sex and That's Okay? How it Feels to Hear About Asexuality!

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Zendaya
On 10/21/2017 at 1:15 AM, BafTripp said:

Hey everybody,

 

My name is Patrick... Or Tripp, if youre so inclined... The thing is I'm not really sure, either if this is the right area, but I'm hoping to maybe get some clarification on this. It's a possibly new, and scary world out there but... Here goes.

 

I haven't done a lot of research, not even close, but I'm not sure where I fall on the spectrum. I do occasionally experience a physical/sexual attraction, but most of the time I engage in the actual act, for my partner's sake. It feels good, but I guess I'm just not into it the way my partners seem to be. They've mostly been very loving realtionships, and I understand that often there's an "expectation" after a certain point in the relationship where sex comes into play, and I've obliged, but this realization is new, and I just need some... I don't know, guidance? Clarification? I *think* I fall in the gray-a scale? Help? Hehe... :/

I think if you want answers you need to repost in the correct forum/area?, which is not here.

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Hyoshiki

Hello, I'm new here and dropped by to say hi!

 

Please treat me kindly, I'm extremely new but at the same time very excited to finally find people who share my experience! I might not be just a crazy person for not seeing why sex is a 'thing' after all :D

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GLRDT
1 hour ago, Hyoshiki said:

Hello, I'm new here and dropped by to say hi!

 

Please treat me kindly, I'm extremely new but at the same time very excited to finally find people who share my experience! I might not be just a crazy person for not seeing why sex is a 'thing' after all :D

Of course we'll treat you kindly! We love newbies! Welcome! Write me any time!

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daveb
11 hours ago, Hyoshiki said:

Hello, I'm new here and dropped by to say hi!

 

Please treat me kindly, I'm extremely new but at the same time very excited to finally find people who share my experience! I might not be just a crazy person for not seeing why sex is a 'thing' after all :D

Welcome and :cake: !

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Skyy

I figured it out when I got my first boyfriend(I felt like I had  to have a boyfriend sometime during high school or that would be sad). I turned down a ridiculous amount of people before that, so many that the first person who asked me out this year was nervous because I have a reputation, apparently, for turning people down.

 

In middle school, I figured that it was too much drama and I was too young for things like that. I didn’t understand how girls in middle school-my  classmates, my peers-could get pregnant before they were even in high school. I still don’t, but I don’t judge them. Anyways, I found myself looking up things like “How do you know if you’re attracted to somebody” and when nothing but how to know if other people were attracted to you popped up, I began having doubts. Suddenly, like a miracle, I found a book in the library called Tash Hearts Tolstoy, And it reminded me of asexuality and here I am. I was so happy!

 

(of course, the first time I heard about it earlier this year, I had a mini-breakdown because everything I thought I knew, I actually didn’t. Something happened, I was convinced I wasn’t, then I forgot about it and remembered later)

 

Anyone else have a similar experience? Just curious. Sorry this is so long! 

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