Abbey Normal Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 I own a couple of vibrators and use them semi-frequently. Not because I have to but because I like to. I don't have any sex guilt to speak of, so I don't feel bad about it. As for whether it's normal, I think for many girls it is, but like others have said, girls are less likely to acknowledge they're masturbating (like that girl in Something Positive who called it "cuddling" herself). I think you should do it if you want to and not do it if you don't want to. For me it's purely about self enjoyment. And if it doesn't please you, no reason to bother with it. Link to post Share on other sites
fig Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 All the ladies who don't; you should. All those who don't because they feel bad about it; I can give you a hand. I don't mind touching; I just don't like being touched. Link to post Share on other sites
slatterly Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 All the ladies who don't; you should. All those who don't because they feel bad about it; I can give you a hand. I don't mind touching; I just don't like being touched. Two things wrong with that - 1) They don't have to. 2) A lot of them probably don't like being touched as much as you do. Link to post Share on other sites
fig Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 I'm just trying to define myself here too. But still, they should. It helps one to get to sleep, and if i can quote someone, though I can't remember who, "It beats sitting on cold rocks." Link to post Share on other sites
PeterMacKenzie Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 girls are less likely to acknowledge they're masturbating (like that girl in Something Positive who called it "cuddling" herself) Reminds me of a girl who refused to acknowledge that we were having sex. Her: "We're not having sex." Me: "So, what was that just there?" Her: "Mutual masturbation, not sex" Me: "Hang on, I'm thrusting inside you and it's not sex? :?" Her: "Yes, it's mutual masturbation" :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Peter, that is the most blatant example of denial I have ever heard! :lol: Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Mith Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Mutual masturbation. *scoffs* Why would you deny having sex? I mean, if you're ashamed of something, you shouldn't be doing it. But I am a hypocrite so I guess I shouldn't be talking... :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
PeterMacKenzie Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 She was strange and confusing. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Obviously, Peter. I wonder what her definition of 'sex' is, then. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Abbey Normal Posted July 23, 2005 Share Posted July 23, 2005 Clicked on asexuality but all that pops up is masstroublation :cry: Actually, you clicked on a thread that says, "Is it normal for females to masturbate?" :lol: Abbey Normal, who does it solo Link to post Share on other sites
gymgirl Posted August 1, 2005 Share Posted August 1, 2005 Why would you think that females are not supposed to enjoy sex?Girls have been encouraged not to masturbate, punished for masturbating, and had their clitorises surgically excised to prevent any chance of masturbation. Is this what you advocate? Either I tell you a lie, or I get tarred and feathered, so I will stay quiet. Link to post Share on other sites
mechafox Posted August 2, 2005 Share Posted August 2, 2005 I don't masturbate. Don't really care. Don't really want to. Link to post Share on other sites
Dixie Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 I don't. I really don't see the point in it, but that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Heartilly Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Nobody told me I was supposed to. I mean, after your born, your parents tell you how to go to the bathroom, eat, get dressed, do your homework, etc. Nobody told me I was supposed to masturbate so I didn't even know the concept existed until fairly recently and I still have no desire to do it even though my mom keeps insisting that she saw me doing it one time when I was 6 so I must be sexual and just not realize it. :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
theblackwatch Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 Nobody told me I was supposed to. I mean, after your born, your parents tell you how to go to the bathroom, eat, get dressed, do your homework, etc. Nobody told me I was supposed to masturbate so I didn't even know the concept existed until fairly recently and I still have no desire to do it even though my mom keeps insisting that she saw me doing it one time when I was 6 so I must be sexual and just not realize it. :roll: It's a bit sad to assume those things, based on the actions of a 6-year-old. Male babies get erections all the time, but this doen't mean anything. It is a Work of Nature... About masturbation: I don't feel emberrassed (spelled correctly?) when talking about it on the net, or on the phone, or via sms, but I would be if I were talking to someone directly. It is part the tradition of the Church that we are shaking off: it used to be forbidden, all of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Vicious Trollop Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 My three-year-old niece does it constantly. She calls it 'the thing that makes me happy.' She knows what she's doing. Link to post Share on other sites
theblackwatch Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 My three-year-old niece does it constantly. She calls it 'the thing that makes me happy.' She knows what she's doing. Right, so not only male, female babies (small children) too... Another mystery solved ! Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 My three-year-old niece does it constantly. She calls it 'the thing that makes me happy.' She knows what she's doing. A lot of young kids actually do it. My youngest brother used to play with himself in the bath. Never managed to reac naything since at 4 his body wouldn't but yes we jhave this idea of children being all sweet and innocent but they do masturbate. I never did as a child (though I do sometimes now) which might explain some things.... Link to post Share on other sites
LostPenguin Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 my mom keeps insisting that she saw me doing it one time when I was 6 so I must be sexual and just not realize it. :roll: My mother was the same way until I told her I was asexual. But back when I just showed no interest in anything, she held it up as proof. Except apparently I was a baby when it happened.. like.. younger than 1. I have no memory of this, obviously. I don't masturbate. Can't. But I never really went out of my way to try, either. Link to post Share on other sites
Ashura Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 Yes, in my opinion, women do it just as much as guys, just aren't so open at disclosing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Wild Seven Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Lady Heartilly: I've stolen my parent's money when I was 11. But it still didn't make me a thief to this time. That you've done something once soo long ago doesn't mean you should be the same all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Wild Seven Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I think that lately for me masturbation is off-topic. I don't do it. Even I woke up two mornings with hand somewhere, I didn't feel inclined to continue when I realized it. I think that maybe between masturbation made by sex drive (physical) and masturbation that was created by mental processes/ mental interest there is a difference.... I feel much better when I have no sex drive manifesting in fully conscious state of mind. I don't care about the uncounscious unless it gets me into trashy situations. I feel it is such a bless not to be bothered by it.... as not being bothered by *any* sexual thoughts. I can spend more time thinking about power and such things that too seem to rule the world, yay. I think that children* don't do it for it being something sexual, they don't realize it is *sexual*, just realize it is *physically pleasing*- one more argument as to why NOT to label things- we imply to something sexual connotations, but what if the truth is just that that something is physically pleasing and nothing more? Why to bother with "this is sexual" and "this is not sexual touch"? *by that sentence, I am remembering at my own childhood and think about what I have seen in my brother when he was younger. Not too many people to count, I know. Link to post Share on other sites
Hermathena Posted September 14, 2010 Share Posted September 14, 2010 I do it all the time since I was a little girl and the fact that I enjoy masturbating so much whereas I dont enjoy at all having sex with some else is why I label myself as asexual-autoerotic . Link to post Share on other sites
WhenSummersGone Posted September 15, 2010 Share Posted September 15, 2010 I've been doing it since I was 12, even before I knew what masturbating was. I enjoy it quite a lot but it's still not something I do every day. Just whenever I'm bored or very aroused and I have to deal with it. I'd much rather masturbate than have sex. Sex is useless to me Link to post Share on other sites
4square Posted September 15, 2010 Share Posted September 15, 2010 According to my human sexuality class, about 98% of males and 75% of females will masturbate in their lifetime. It is perfectly normal and it is even good for you according to several studies. Link to post Share on other sites
Parth Posted September 15, 2010 Share Posted September 15, 2010 Anyone else notice a 5 year gap between posts in this thread? Yowsers! Link to post Share on other sites
Ever Dream Posted September 16, 2010 Share Posted September 16, 2010 Masturbation is normal in general and healthy :lol: About 99% of my female friends masturbate or have masturbated in the past. Female masturbation is just as normal as male masturbation except men are more open about it because they think of sex more than women do and female masturbation is more intense than male masturbation :P Some women masturbate out of boredom or to just relieve stress :P And about the clothes thing, I never really felt anything from my clothes before...? They say that when you sneeze, you get 1/4th of an orgasm xD So I guess everyone orgasmed in the world :lol: But yeah, I'm a woman but I never masturbated in my life because it never appeals me, it disgusts me and I'm just scared, which is pretty sad >.> Lol. For someone who has never masturbated before, I have had a few girls come to me and ask me about masturbation :lol: It's a bit awkward to ask an asexual to be your untrained sex therapist :P Link to post Share on other sites
littleMe Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 It is very different for me because I go to church and they tell us we shouldn't masturbate but I am 20 years old and I like to masturbate and get an orgasm but afterwards I feel bad that I do it but I still do it anyways because it feels good .in my mind it is normal for me to masturbate Link to post Share on other sites
GoldenLillies Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Yeah it's completely normal for girls to masturbate. I know that all my friends do it though it's completely normal if you don't want to do it either. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Lia Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 This thread hasn't been active for a long time and is now being locked to avoid thread necromancy. If anyone would like to discuss this topic further, feel free to start a new thread about it. Lia Asexual Q&A Mod Link to post Share on other sites
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