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Bellaitalia

Okay so during puberty I got aroused very easily watching images of sex in movies etc..but then there was a time period where that was completely non existent. (I did not have enough estrogen/progesterone and therefore I didn't get a period on my own..had to take pills every 3 months..from 18-22 years). Anyways, now I find that my sex drive is veryyyy high and during that time of the month when I am ovulating, I am VERY aroused easily. what makes me nervous is that I get aroused by images of naked women or if I notice that a woman has a perfect body. I definitely get aroused watching porn. I have never WANTED to watch porn until now. I am just curious if you experience this as well and to what degree? I only get aroused by men if they "touch" me in a certain way and it has to be with someone I really like. the male body from the waist below doesn't attract me.. Bc I think hair is disgusting pretty much..I'm still trying to figure out what my orientation is..all my life I thought I was straight but just timid and afraid of sex

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herpaderderderderder

*shrugs* No, it doesn't happen very often to me. Sometimes it'll happen just when talking to my boyfriend. But meh, I don't worry about it too much. I still don't want sex, so arousal isn't something that concerns me.

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I never become aroused for no reason, so I don't think I have an actual sex drive. But sometimes if I watch and listen to something sexually explicit, like, oh I don't know, half of the episodes of Game of Thrones, even if it doesn't appeal to me and even if I'd be uncomfortable or worse if I was personally in that situation, I can become somewhat aroused. It's annoying and confusing, because my body is kind of acting on its own against my wishes.

Additionally, if I'm intimate with a guy, and he initiates the move from cute to sexual intentions, I will also get aroused. But it won't happen if we're just cuddling and hanging out, because I won't make that transition on my own, I just don't get that way.

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I can get aroused without any reason :lol: so I think it´s only a matter of libido which wants me to take care of it.

When I touch myself down there :redface: I can get aroused because it´s sensitive part of body.

I don´t get aroused by sex scenes in movies or porn. In fact, porn is 100% turn off for me. :wacko:

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belovedless

the male body from the waist below doesn't attract me.. Bc I think hair is disgusting pretty much..

Would it attract you more if the man shaved?

Also, I am never aroused by people. I can get aroused whenever I want by books and my own daydreaming (never involving people I know, usually just imaginary stories).

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I am never aroused by people. I can get aroused whenever I want by books and my own daydreaming (never involving people I know, usually just imaginary stories).

Same here. But it hasn't happened in a while anyway.

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maryjanewatson

I have no idea. I am not exactly sure what arousal feels like, so I have no idea if I ever have been or not. I could have and never even known it.

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Empty Chairs & Tables

My SO seems to be incredibly amused by the fact that it takes very little for me to be aroused when with them. Otherwise, though, I do not think I often (if ever?) become aroused. Even with my SO, I cannot quite tell when I am aroused without physically "checking" or being told by my SO, and I do not go around "checking" to see if I am aroused throughout the day. (The thought of doing so amuses me!) I do not become aroused when watching or reading sexually explicit things (at least not that I am aware of), nor does touching myself arouse me (not that I have tried much in that area). Thinking about my SO does seem to at least minimally arouse me, even when they are not physically present. I still consider myself to be non-libidoist, as the arousal is purely physical and never connected to sex in my mind (and I do not want/need to "take care" of anything). I do not think it is so much a "libido" thing for me (arousal, I mean), but rather a physical reaction preparing for the possibility of sex (my SO is not asexual, and we do have sex, so my body is not incorrect in thinking that it should prepare for sex).

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Nope doesn't really happen to me. Try not to worry about the attraction to women though, if thats what makes you happy, embrace it.

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Bellaitalia

The thing is, I read online that studies have been done that show women are aroused by sexually explicit photos of other naked women and not men. (Meredith chivers) but I have never felt this arousal before until now..and I do get aroused by men but not simply just pictures..I have to have feelings for them. I believe I am demisexual...I just have never had a relationship before. since a lot of you haven't been aroused or it happens quite rarely, maybe I just have a high sex drive??

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The thing is, I read online that studies have been done that show women are aroused by sexually explicit photos of other naked women and not men. (Meredith chivers) but I have never felt this arousal before until now..and I do get aroused by men but not simply just pictures..I have to have feelings for them. I believe I am demisexual...I just have never had a relationship before. since a lot of you haven't been aroused or it happens quite rarely, maybe I just have a high sex drive??

Naked women do NOTHING for me, this study is either a bullsh*t or it was done with lesbians. :lol:

You might have higher libido but I think it is rather the opposite way - you have normal libido and many people here have very low or none.

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cold_moon_rising

I can get aroused without any reason :lol: so I think it´s only a matter of libido which wants me to take care of it.

When I touch myself down there :redface: I can get aroused because it´s sensitive part of body.

I don´t get aroused by sex scenes in movies or porn. In fact, porn is 100% turn off for me. :wacko:

I very much agree. In fact, though sex scenes in romance books might be arousing at times, boring and tedious at other times, I often find sex scenes in movies to just be boring and awkward...even when I'm alone. Though that might because I feel that it should affect me sexually but does not. (I'm new to this whole exploring asexuality thing :unsure: )

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No. Never did, and too old to start a bad habit now!! :lol:

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Great Thief Yatagarasu

Yes, although I have to go out and look for things to trigger it. Mostly, pictures or stories of attractive men shagging other attractive men. My life is the best. :D

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I can get aroused by the idea of a sexual act but not by picturing me doing it or an actual person in my mind...if that makes sense.

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I rarely experience sexual arousal. In fact, I can only think of two times for sure that I have been sexually aroused to the point of wanting some sort of sexual outlet. It's weird, because I desire emotional intimacy with people like it's my job, and sometimes I want physical closeness (like holding hands or cuddling), but it is rarely sexual in nature. And being sexually aroused is a strange feeling to me. >.>

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I experience physical arousal sometimes just due to biology, but I'm only actually in the mood sexually with someone else if there is an emotional investment. Sexual activity for me is linked to emotional closeness ie intimacy. I'm a a woman in a man's body so perhaps I shouldn't have posted, and I despise the term female, it sounds terrible to me.

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I have no idea. I am not exactly sure what arousal feels like, so I have no idea if I ever have been or not. I could have and never even known it.

Same thing here, though if arousal is one of those things you "just know" when it happens, than I've never experienced it.

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I do get aroused more when I'm ovulating I think. Where usually I have no sex drive at all, it looks like a little bit of it appears once a month, but not a lot (maybe like 5%...).

But whenever it happens, I don't really give it that much thoughts, because I blame it on my body and not exactly on my sexuality. I do get aroused (especially if intense romantic feelings are involved), but I never intend to react on this arousal, and I still don't really think about actually having sex...

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The Ice Queen

I can get aroused by reading a particularly descriptive scene in a book, but that's about it. And that's not consistent. Never visually though... pictures/videos do nothing for me. Even when aroused, I still don't want to have sex with anyone, nor do I fantasize about the characters in the book.

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the male body from the waist below doesn't attract me.. Bc I think hair is disgusting pretty much..

Also, I am never aroused by people. I can get aroused whenever I want by books and my own daydreaming (never involving people I know, usually just imaginary stories).

I am rarely aroused by people (I can count on one hand. . .). When I was menstruating, I definitely became aroused much more easily and enjoyed masturbation.

Interestingly, I once became very aroused during a beautiful drive through a lush countryside. The friend I was with laughed at me, because I thought I had menstrual cramps; I'd never felt arousal before. I was in my early thirties at the time.

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It's annoying and confusing, because my body is kind of acting on its own against my wishes.

Ah, yes... I feel the same way.

I don't get sexual arousal, except in really specific cases... and even then there's no desire to actually have sex.

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