Taaka Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Hello - Im new here..... married for 12 years. Last 5 years without any sex. Found out last year that my husband watch porn, but do not want any sexual activity with me. He watch porn 2-3 times a week.... It that typicall for a asexuall ? Thx for any reply Link to post Share on other sites
JJButterworth Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 There are some asexuals that do watch porn. On the other hand, asexulaity is the lack of sexual attraction so just because your marriage became sexless does not mean your husband is asexual. There are many reasons why a marriage becomes sexless. What I suggest you do is talk openly about it, ask him if or was ever he is sexually attracted to you or anyone for that matter. If he is asexual, I assume that he is of the romantic variety and loves you in the way that any romantic partner would love their partner, so keep that in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Taaka Posted March 14, 2012 Author Share Posted March 14, 2012 There are some asexuals that do watch porn. On the other hand, asexulaity is the lack of sexual attraction so just because your marriage became sexless does not mean your husband is asexual. There are many reasons why a marriage becomes sexless. What I suggest you do is talk openly about it, ask him if or was ever he is sexually attracted to you or anyone for that matter. If he is asexual, I assume that he is of the romantic variety and loves you in the way that any romantic partner would love their partner, so keep that in mind. We have talked about it, and he know i dont like it. He do want's us to be together, but dont what any sexuall contact with me or any body else (according to him).......... Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I"m one of them that does it. I just find it um interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
JJButterworth Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 There are some asexuals that do watch porn. On the other hand, asexulaity is the lack of sexual attraction so just because your marriage became sexless does not mean your husband is asexual. There are many reasons why a marriage becomes sexless. What I suggest you do is talk openly about it, ask him if or was ever he is sexually attracted to you or anyone for that matter. If he is asexual, I assume that he is of the romantic variety and loves you in the way that any romantic partner would love their partner, so keep that in mind. We have talked about it, and he know i dont like it. He do want's us to be together, but dont what any sexuall contact with me or any body else (according to him).......... Well, there are many romantic relationships involving a sexual and an asexual. In these relationships, the sex becomes an issue and there three ways to solve it: the two of can agree to make the relationship sexual, keep the relationship sexless or, find a third person(s) to have sex-only relationship with the sexual. You have to find what works for your relationship and go with that. As for the porn issue, I don't not know what to say about that but I can understand your frustration with him watching porn. Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 To answer the question, I don't watch porn, myself. Most asexual people I know seem to be that way their whole lives, and don't just suddenly become that way. I think maybe something else is going on... Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Old_Tired_Heavily_Armed Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 There are some asexuals that do watch porn. On the other hand, asexulaity is the lack of sexual attraction so just because your marriage became sexless does not mean your husband is asexual. There are many reasons why a marriage becomes sexless. What I suggest you do is talk openly about it, ask him if or was ever he is sexually attracted to you or anyone for that matter. If he is asexual, I assume that he is of the romantic variety and loves you in the way that any romantic partner would love their partner, so keep that in mind. HOLY CRAP...never be so cavalier as to suggest discussions that might lead to the truth. Marriages want the truth? Marriages can't handle the truth. (with apologies to Jack Nicholson..."A Few Good Men." At least wait until the children are grown before you go discussing the years of built up resentments that, when brought to the surface, result in a hostile and protracted divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Blunderbuss Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I don't. ... Finished. Link to post Share on other sites
Jack Havock Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 I'm like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Old_Tired_Heavily_Armed Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Read all of B F Skinners works...that should fix you right up. and drink a lot of vodka and watch a lot of Fox News. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Girl Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 HOLY CRAP...never be so cavalier as to suggest discussions that might lead to the truth. Marriages want the truth? Marriages can't handle the truth. Sometimes they can. Link to post Share on other sites
Midnight Lady Posted March 14, 2012 Share Posted March 14, 2012 Even when I was in my last relationship, I preferred porn to the guy, because it was much more easy and no complications/drawbacks at all: a few minutes - and done! So, it is very individual for everyone. For some people, porn is not a big deal, for some people, it is a no-no in relations. Link to post Share on other sites
G4RRYs Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 Some do. I have porn, but it rarely gets used. I keep thinking about getting rid of it actually. Link to post Share on other sites
*Moon* Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 Some do. Some don't. It is a preference from person to person. It is always best to speak with him directly to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
Member35062 Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 I am just about to turn 18 and have been asexual my whole life. Trust me when I say I have never had a single desire to watch porn and have never tried to do it on purpose. When I used to explain to my school friends that i was asexual they quickly whipped out their phones and said what do you think of this (porn). I always was repulsed and instantly ran away. I just can't take it and practically have a phobia of sexual organs. My mum even told me that she had been emailed porn and wanted me to see it. I said no then returned to my room to do my homework. All of a sudden I hear the door rattle behind me and realized that my mum had been watching me for 10 minutes to see what my reaction would be when I saw it... I never did and she became very confused. It's driving me nuts! What's the big deal with looking at a few buldges??? Link to post Share on other sites
Vdougie Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 I'm asexual, and I look at porn from time to time. I have no desire to have sex with anybody. Since, I have a libido, I look at to help me get off when my libido increases. Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted March 17, 2012 Share Posted March 17, 2012 I've used porn out of curiosity, mostly LGBT stuff but discovered that it really don't do anything for me, and that's why I don't use it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Solthar Posted March 18, 2012 Share Posted March 18, 2012 Meh, some of it can be funny as hell at first, but it quickly becomes boring. I can quite happily live without it, but if I come across it I don't freak out. I guess my general reaction to porn is a general indifference tinged with mild curiosity. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivi Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 i watch it because i like the feeling of being aroused but i never want to act on it and i watch it maybbeee four times a months sometimes not at all. Im not sure if that might help with your question. Link to post Share on other sites
CornOnDaCobb Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 www.reddit.com/r/earthporn (SFW) With some sensual music, it fulfills all my needs. Link to post Share on other sites
zerogirl Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I watch yaoi hentai. I did watch a brittish porn once and while it did nothing for me, the begining was funny. Basically the funny part was the british detective finds a girl whom needs a detective to bring her g-spot to justice in the intro. After that the dvd is really boring and gross. Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I watch yaoi hentai. I did watch a brittish porn once and while it did nothing for me, the begining was funny. Basically the funny part was the british detective finds a girl whom needs a detective to bring her g-spot to justice in the intro. After that the dvd is really boring and gross. When you said "British Porn", all I thought of is Family Guy... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=weijnvNCxqY Link to post Share on other sites
ignoranceisn'tbliss Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I watch yaoi hentai. I did watch a brittish porn once and while it did nothing for me, the begining was funny. Basically the funny part was the british detective finds a girl whom needs a detective to bring her g-spot to justice in the intro. After that the dvd is really boring and gross. When you said "British Porn", all I thought of is Family Guy... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=weijnvNCxqY Lolz I tried to get into porn.....didn't really like it I've never really liked seeing genitals...and after a while porn gets really repetitive. I did find that I do like to watch people playing with their boobs :lol: I do, however, consistently search for new content in my fetish. I generally avoid any visible genitalia, but if I find something with enough of what I'm looking for I can ignore genitals. So you could say my fetish is the equivalent of another person's porn, except people would probably find mine much stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest member25959 Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 Some do, some don't. Personally, I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Em_BR_Ace Posted March 25, 2012 Share Posted March 25, 2012 I always watched porn but never wanted to have actual sex. I always were that way, though. I have sex drive, but no attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
mockingjay29 Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Porn can be addicting. I used to watch it a few years ago, but then I just stopped doing it. I was fine afterwards and don't have any intention to go back. I think your husband is heterosexual. I don't know, he just doesn't sound too much of an asexual to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarcastic_Morteo Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 I found porn when I was really young and still watch to this day. I just don't feel attracted to anyone I meet. Link to post Share on other sites
B.W. Battle Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 Some do, other dont, and their are those down right disgusted with sex scenes in movies, everyones different as is their comfort levels. I use to be partial to Hentai/Ecchi back when my sex drive was over the roof as a young teen but now I've settled down a bit. Most people(at least my male friends) I know tend to go the same way no matter their oreintation or fetish. Maybey most of us get Desensitized to it after awhile. Personally, I still struggle whith porn sometimes It's not that I want to have sex it is just this crazy libido of mine dosen't want to settle down and certain material helps me get through it. It more of an annoyance then anything else. Is anybody else going through something like this too? Link to post Share on other sites
Rosanquette Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 The few times I watched porn was out of mere curiosity, never desire. It did nothing but disgust me. But not all asexuals feel that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Starr Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I like to watch jgv porn from time to time and have found myself attracted to some of the actors but I never wanted to have sex even up to this day. Link to post Share on other sites
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