Shit People Say to Asexuals... Anyone want to start a project w me?

[VindicatorPhoenix]

The one that drives me crazy is the:

"You can't be asexual, you masturbate."

I hate that one the most because some people feel super confident that they've proved you wrong. However, it's a flaw in their own understanding. -_-

[EdenRose]

"Asexual, like, asexual reproduction?"

Haha I got this one a loooot ! It shows just how well they learnt their biology lessons at the time ! Haha

[Tjm]

And I quote. "Dude, you just need to get laid". So annoying.

[NamTar]

My aunt's friend to me: "You have a mental problem. You think you're perfect and that no one is good enough for you."

I've had variants of this, such as:
"You need to lower your standards," or even:
"I envy you, I wish I had such high standards."

Standards have NOTHING to do with the reason I don't pursue relationships anymore.

[swankie]

As a Christian, I constantly hear:

"This is a blessing."

"God will change the desires of your heart when you're ready."

"God is keeping you from temptation."

"I wish I felt the same way as you, it would be so much easier!"

"You're never going to find someone who doesn't want to touch you."

[Guest]

Them: "so you do not want to have sex with anybody at all?"

Me: "yes"

Them: "So you are just a narcissist."

[MissUnderstood]

"Do you like holding hands and kissing?"

Me: "Yes"

"Then you're not asexual".

Me: "Oh I didn't realise holding hands is the same as sex."

[KanaraKazen]

"Asexual means you only love yourself." (This makes me sad for every other reason)

"You just haven't met the right guy yet." (Oh, I'll meet a guy, but understand I don't want sex)

"Don't worry, when you grow up, you'll understand everything." (I've felt this way my whole life though)

Sadly most of these comes from friends and family...

[Vestal]

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[andreas1033]

"You can't be asexual, you masturbate."

Yep thats one of the most stupid things people can view this as.

You do not need to have sexual feelings to masturbate. To masturbate is just to release energies, and you do not have to be sexually interested in anything to do it.

Masturbation has nout to do with sex, or sexual interests, its about a release of energy.

They think that everyone fantasises about someone while doing it, no.

[CavannaRose]

"But how can you be engaged if you don't have sex?"

"So you and your fiancee are just friends?"

"But don't you miss sex?"

T__T

[oldme]

"You're just a loser"

Yeah, I get this a lot just maybe phrased differently. One reason why I don't have many male friends.

"You're just not trying"

Well, duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh! Of course I'm not trying because I'm not interested in sex!

[New Strawberry 8]

"Everyone's asexual at some point, and then they grow out of it."

My mom still says this to me, a year after I told her I'm ace. Some days she's super accepting, and some days when she asks me to explain exacly what asexuality is, she says I'm just explaining how a little kid feels about cooties so it must just be a phase.

[crazypimpernelfan]

"You're just making it up!"

[LadyPariah]

"You must be fat and ugly, and are just saying that to make yourself feel better."

"You are just trying to be a special snowflake"

"You're going to wind up alone with 100 cats" (which doesn't even seem all that bad actually)

"When did you choose to be asexual?"

"You just haven't been with the right person yet"

"You'll get over it" -said to me by someone who was actually bi

[Guest]

"you are just very uniformed [about sexuality]" Further inquiries just lead to insults because apparently they were talking out of their rear end.

[Viridzen]

Someone once asked me these:

"But who are you gonna love?"

"So are you just gonna have a bunch of cats?"

"So how do you pee?"

Seriously.

[Anthracite_Impreza]

"Would you like me to buy you a vibrator so you can get used to it?"

"Are you a nun?"

[andreas1033]

"You're just a loser"

I love that attitude.

I am sure those that died from aids love that argument, they were real winners, yep sure were.

If you and your sexual diseases are what winners are you can keep being a winner if your eyes. Thats my attitude to those.

[Guest]

"You dont want sex? Let me fix that for you.. person in question starts sex talk etc"

"Dont worry, you will like sex once you gave it a try"

"There is no such thing as waiting for sex after marriage"

"I can give you sex and im sure you will like it"

Humans....

[crazypimpernelfan]

"Are you a nun?"

Oh my gosh, I had never heard that one before! :o

[Vestal]

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[Starflower]

"So you don't have any emotions?"

"You're just a prude. Watching [sexy movie] with me will fix that."

"If you really aren't interested in sex, you're no better than a child."

<_<

[Viridzen]

Oh shirt, forgot this one:

"Well, then I'm c-sexual, because I have Call of Duty sex."

...I used to talk to some effed up people...

[Dreklogar]

"You don't know anything about relationships, you don't want to be in one" (more aro than ace, but still really common) - usually said as an excuse to ignore a piece of advice I'm giving since it's not "romantic" enough (i.e.is pragmatic)

[Xavy]

Someone asked me if Hypnotism will help with my "problem"

[friendlyfriend82]

And I quote. "Dude, you just need to get laid". So annoying.

haha that's a classic.

The one I get the most though is "one day you'll find the right person", that's like the final answer everyone who just doesn't get it gives me. Who knows maybe some day I actually will have a boyfriend/girlfriend but it won't be any typical relationship at all I'll give you that.

[Nyew]

"But you can't be asexual if you had sex before"

"Maybe he wasn't good enough"

"So you're frigid"

"You should try with a woman" (I am a woman)

"You just have a low sex drive"

"But sex is so great, how can you not like sex?"

"That's just close friendship"

"But you'll have to do it eventually" (the guy I was dating, nice)

"Maybe you need to meet the right one"

"And people really believe that?"

"So you don't have genitals?" (whaaaat?)

"Meeeeh I'm not sure you're really asexual" (...)

[Kiss-My-Ace]

"I can fix that!"

[Kiss-My-Ace]

Oh, I sorta "dated" this one kid but we had to break up because I had no interest in being affectionate or sexual. He didn't understand why as I never came out to him but he told me, and I quote, "You should just watch some porn and go to town with it!"