Posted 25 January 2012 - 07:27 AM
I definitely think it should be something that's a bit more visible- It's worth at least a mention to a doctor, if only to check and make sure that there isn't an underlying hormonal issue, though there needs to be a clear line between saying that "There are medical issues that affect sex drive" and saying "Oh, asexuality has a medical cause".
And I think there should be something for people who genuinely do not want to be asexual and who are not happy with the idea- if something is causing you distress, it's generally a good idea to try to talk to a therapist or doctor about ways to deal with that distress, either by removing the cause of the distress or helping you deal with it in a healthier manner.
I know that AVEN tries not to tell people they are/are not asexual, but I do think that when people come here there's an overwhelming amount of information leading to the conclusion "Yes, you are probably asexual," and not much is said about medical causes, be they physical or mental. As someone who has been wondering lately if I might have some kind of medical reason for asexuality, or if I might just be actually repressing sexual thoughts, I've found that there's not a lot of information on these things. I know that AVEN is meant to be a resource for people to learn about asexuality itself, but I think part of that is going more into depth about what asexuality is not as well. I know a lot of people here have had things like "oh, there's probably a medical reason", or "you're repressed" thrown in their faces, but there are also people for whom both those things are true, and it would be nice to at least have some direction in which to point them. People often come to AVEN with questions about themselves, or looking for answers, and too often the answer seems to lean towards "Well, you're probably asexual, so welcome!," even if it's not stated that way. Even saying "You might be asexual" can have this effect, because there's no discussion of what the "might not" might be.
I'm not by any means saying that asexuality is something that can or should be "fixed," but there are people who do have treatable sexual dysfunctions or people who are distressed by their lack of a sex drive, and AVEN should be a place for them to at least be pointed in the direction of answers, even if the forum itself doesn't offer them, not to mention that it would be great to hear from them around the forum, to offer a different perspective.
It's a delicate line to balance, because it can lead some people to thinking that "asexuality is treatable,"- which isn't the case. However, medical conditions and distress ARE treatable, and I think it could be helpful to have at least some information and insight into that around AVEN