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Janus the Fox

This might not be for this thread, or even this site for that matter.

OK, I am now extremely interested in having a same and opposite sex encounter, im begining to wonder that sex cant be all that bad can it?

At the moment I must refrain in doing any experimenting until I can get my medical and psycological all clear, and other things like my family and education are out of the way at least. Why in hell is this sexual stuff feel like a top prioity in my life?

But saying that there is this naging demon in my head just to go wild. I am mentally preparing for these encounters, but the social side of things are impossible, I still have no attactions for any particular gender and no real romantic attraction, yet my mind is telling me again that socialising and sexual contact is easy.

I still have no idea to fulfill these urges, it is difficult to maintain social contact without losing interest, I dont want a relationship in particular until I have identified the romantic curisoity, it is really is just a sexual curisoity. I have no friendship contacts and I particually dont want friends either out of extreme trust issues from past experiences.

I will never guess that I "bloom" like this, all be it quite a stunted bloom, I believe that this is the last step (or one of many) to finding out who I am, or not. How my mind has morphed in these past few months is quite remarkable, weather getting the experience will confirm my bisexual tendensies, find out im stright or find out if sex is not really for me.

I am in no rush for finding out yet, just to get my thoughts down on paper, has anyone else had these curisoity urges fulfilled and discovered for sure who they are? I you have not fulfilled the curisoity (for medcal, personal or other reasons) how do you deal with it? If my head convinces me to go wild, is there any other precausions other then protection? I may post a few more questions based on feedback.

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Hi there,

Have you tried going to a gay club? When I was younger, I was not very self-assured, I was also very inquisitive of all things, sex being only a minor part. For me, I wanted to be with fellow musicians, so started hanging out where they chilled and became part of the artistic family.

I could suggest this approach for yourself; though going to gay clubs, instead of musician hang-outs:) I am sure you would make friends eventually. But, oh dear, be aware, there is a humungous amount of prejudice and bitchiness on the scene(in the UK anyway). Also, a lot of people with asexual or indeed, gray-asexual sensibilities, maybe extremely uncomfortable with the actions and the mindset of some people on the scene. Being touched inappropriately does happen.

I have had many a heart to heart with people over the years. I remember years ago one boy wearing makeup and flirting with all the other boys, I saw him recently and he had got married and had children and finally found himself. One of my other friends also gave her girl-friend in and settled down with a guy and two children.

For me, it seemed important for them to have that journey to help understand themselves better and to make a more informed choice. Though of course, that may change again for them in the future. To me, everything about life does seem so truly fluid.

In fairness, I have a lot more experience with straight people turning bi or gay. I do lose track sometimes.

I do hope, if you go, you may find some friends, but be prepared, it can wear you down, but I always get a re-tread from that special love and bond I feel from the wonderful friends, the scene has gifted me. I do hope, you too are gifted with that same happiness and that your journey is a rewarding one.

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Janus the Fox

Hi there,

Have you tried going to a gay club? When I was younger, I was not very self-assured, I was also very inquisitive of all things, sex being only a minor part. For me, I wanted to be with fellow musicians, so started hanging out where they chilled and became part of the artistic family.

I could suggest this approach for yourself; though going to gay clubs, instead of musician hang-outs:) I am sure you would make friends eventually. But, oh dear, be aware, there is a humungous amount of prejudice and bitchiness on the scene(in the UK anyway). Also, a lot of people with asexual or indeed, gray-asexual sensibilities, maybe extremely uncomfortable with the actions and the mindset of some people on the scene. Being touched inappropriately does happen.

I am planning to go to a gay and a stright club. The only problem, the only exclucively gay club in my area is long gone, my town is practically dead on the night life side. I will have to do some research into if local bars do gay nights.

That prejudice is the one aspect that frightens me to death, homophobic violence is a common feature in deprived areas in where I live. I will have to be friendly but vigilent otherwise I could be in a position to be date-raped, this and inappropiate sexual contact will not help my socialising difficulties.

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I just discovered that I am bisexual,but the idea of having sex with a girl kind of drives me up the wall just thinking about it.I do crave cuddles and kisses,but no groping please.my suggestions is just go for it if it'll make you happy.

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