When did you first learn about sex, and what was your reaction?

[CrazyCatLover]

I learned about sex at age ten. My dad sat me and my sister down and explained it all very biologically. Mom quickly added the part about love. I distinctly remember her saying "You may think it's gross now, but you'll probably want to do it when you're 17 to show someone how much you love them. Before you have sex, talk to me so I can help you make sure you don't get pregnant." I accepted this at face value and dismissed the topic of my own personal sexual desires/lack thereof for another four-five years. Mom and Dad didn't bring up diseases at this time.

When my dad told me the basic mechanics, my immediate thought was "Mom and Dad have never done that!!!" followed immediately by "No, Mom's been pregnant five times."

I also learned about my period that day and was much more interested in it.

[abandoned account]

I was somewhere between 8-11 when I found out the general details from eavesdropping on TV shows. I didn't understand the connection to babies at the time so I thought it was just something weird that people in relationships sometimes did for fun. My thoughts were basically "Ew. Okay I won't be doing that." I didn't think about it much after that. Even after I found out the baby connection at 12 or so I had already decided I wouldn't be having kids (or even getting married) so again I figured it was irrelivent and didn't think much about it, just "Oh, those are connected. Okay then."

[zzzz]

I don't remember my exact age. But, like someone said above, I thought babies were made from kissing. Hah. XD Well, I was pretty young, probably 2nd grade, and a guy kissed me as a joke. (I thought they were supposed to be scared of cooties or whatever at that age!) But I was terrified that I was going to give birth to a baby. LOL. I tried to keep it a secret from my mom for some reason, because I thought I might get in trouble I guess, but I eventually ended up telling her. That's when I was informed that sex existed.

It was in 5th grade, however, that I actually got sat down for "the talk," after accidentally stumbling across porn on Google. Whoops, lol. This time it was a much more detailed discussion. Pretty sure that was seriously one of my most awkward moments. My mom showed me a book. With pictures. I remember sitting there with a face like ... thinking how weird it seemed.

[Cirdan]

Somewhere around the age of 8 maybe? I'd read encyclopaedias and dictionaries for fun so I think that's probably where I picked up the basics. My reaction wasn't "eww I don't want to do that" or a "I can't wait" I think it was pretty much just scientific curiosity. When I learnt about the activities that people could do other than penis-vagina sexual intercourse I was more repulsed and wondering why people would want to do that.

[Enigmatic Soul]

My parents never actually gave me "the talk" ever... And I got exempt from the sex ed parts of my health classes. *shrugs*

[ieatpumpkinpie]

My parents never gave me the talk. We had sex ed in school starting at about grade 5. Before that I'd say I was completely oblivious. I knew about kissing and being naked and that lead to babies, but honestly not much more then that and I didn't really care. My reaction was embarrassment or humourous.

I'd say I didn't completely understand until grade 7 at least when people in school began to talk about it. It was only thanks to books and television that I understood what it was, and how I didn't care for it at all.

[HeidiUK]

When I learnt about the activities that people could do other than penis-vagina sexual intercourse I was more repulsed and wondering why people would want to do that.

Yeah, I get penis-in-vagina because there's a reproductive need for that.

But anything else? What's the point?

[Gloom]

I was about eleven when I first heard of the concept. It came up in conversation with my friends during recess, and they were surprised I didn't understand what they were talking about. So one of my...more blunt friends tried to explain it. She was a little inaccurate and vague with her description though, and I didn't actually get an accurate description of sex until I was 16...

My reaction? Amazed with myself for not knowing that information until that late in my life. Also pretty squicked. And befuddled about why anyone would ever, ever want to do that. Ever.

[SquirrelCat]

I seriously don't remember. I think I was fairly young when I learned what it was, but the only time I can recall thinking and discussing it was in 7th grade, and then I was silently wondering when that sex-drive everyone spoke off was going to show up, 'cause everyone around seemed to have it except me.

[birdnerd]

I don't remember learning the particulars until sex ed when I was 10 or 11. I think initially, I just found it really funny that anyone would do that. It probably took another 5 or 7 years before I figured out that I was supposed to want to do that too, and that I didn't, and was puzzled.

[SolitaryGrimAngel]

I learned about it when I was old enough to read and got my hands on some books about the human body.

I was pretty indifferent to it.

[CornOnDaCobb]

lol.... I first found out about sex by playing Fable 1 when I was 10...

Decapitating enemies with headshots..

Gambling...

Drinking...

and a brothel full of odd contraptions.

The screen would go dark after you accepted whatever they said, accompanied by various sounds... So I guess my first reaction was, "What?! Why am I losing gold when I talk to this lady???!!!!!!". Ah, childhood.

[validusernam]

I was about 8, and at first was completely perplexed by the idea that two people would want to do such a thing. In fact, I would have been 12 or 13 before I had even the slightest idea that 99%+ of the human population found this a desirable thing to do. I was probably even puzzled by sex and sexual behaviour for years later than that, but that's just me, oblivous :D

[Guest member25959]

Probably at some point between 11-13, in SexEd. :P My memory is really bad, but from what I remember, I wasn't interested in it, at all.

[Batman's Ace]

I never got the talk, either, to my relief. I picked up an anatomy book when I was about 9 and found a really simple drawing that showed only the relevant parts. I didn't understand what the picture was of, so I asked my mom for an explanation, but she basically told me "later". Eventually I worked it out for myself. Then I was appalled, and for several years was completely repulsed by anything related, including pictures of ancient mother-goddess statues and anything that might remotely (really really remotely) be considered phallic imagery. Eventually I learned to ignore it. It wasn't until college that I learned there are more details than just "this goes here".

[Soraiko]

I've known sorta where babies come from since I was really young and have practically always known that I never wanted kids. As I got older and my mom sorta explained it I was just kinda "Meh." and didn't really pay much attention. Now really thinking about it and knowing what it basically entails. It sounds gross and really unappealing. All I can think now is "People want to do that? It sounds painful and sticky." I never really touched a condom until a few weeks ago when my college was giving them out. I didn't open it but I all I could think was "Ewwwwwww! It's squishy!" and I "left" it on a table I knew people sit at all the time. Now I know for pretty much I fact that I don't want it for multiple reasons no matter how many people apparently don't believe me.

[MadRat]

lol.... I first found out about sex by playing Fable 1 when I was 10...

Decapitating enemies with headshots..

Gambling...

Drinking...

and a brothel full of odd contraptions.

The screen would go dark after you accepted whatever they said, accompanied by various sounds... So I guess my first reaction was, "What?! Why am I losing gold when I talk to this lady???!!!!!!". Ah, childhood.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Aloren]

Ha geez the fable one makes me feel old at 26....

I learned for sure what it all was and why in 7th grade. We learned only the relevant female menstruation stuff in 5th.

I remember having a vague idea from reading books too old for me like Anne Rices vampire books. I did not read her Mayfair Witches which has more detailed sex scenes till a little later. Also from movies. There was this one scene no idea what movie but the guy and girl were in a bunk bed or hammock in a garage. Showed nothing below the waist or any humpy type moving so I though for awhile the guy just lays on top naked. I did not really fully understand PinV till 7th grade science.

[Radioactive Goat]

I think around the age of 9 or something I dunno, I don't remember.

I bet everyone had some level of curiosity because babies have to come from SOMEWHERE.

[HeidiUK]

I bet everyone had some level of curiosity because babies have to come from SOMEWHERE.

The stalk. They come from the stalk.

:lol:

[redmaia]

I'm pretty sure I knew about sex before I went to primary school, because I know I knew about it when I was in primary two (grade 3?). If I had any reaction, it was "Oh, right."

And then I told my friends about it. I don't think I realised how embarrasing some would find it. Edit: Or that they wouldn't know already.

[Gloom]

I think around the age of 9 or something I dunno, I don't remember.

I bet everyone had some level of curiosity because babies have to come from SOMEWHERE.

Until I was about 17, I thought babies just kind of popped out of a woman's belly. I'm not even joking. I mean, I knew about the sex part, but I had never even thought about birthing. I'm sure if I had cared to think about it I would have realized that's impossible.

By the way, that revelation was extremely squicky too.

[birdnerd]

I was never interested enough in babies to inquire directly into their origins. I did want to know, circa age four, why the neighbor kid got to pee standing up.

[Aloren]

I think around the age of 9 or something I dunno, I don't remember.

I bet everyone had some level of curiosity because babies have to come from SOMEWHERE.

Until I was about 17, I thought babies just kind of popped out of a woman's belly. I'm not even joking. I mean, I knew about the sex part, but I had never even thought about birthing. I'm sure if I had cared to think about it I would have realized that's impossible.

By the way, that revelation was extremely squicky too.

!trigger warning those grossed out by child birth!

Well they kind of do with a c section which is pretty comon now. (I have done both) They have to cut you open first but then they do kind of pop the baby out... Ha xD yes one of the few asexuals to give birth now horrifies the rest. Sorry.

[Blunderbuss]

The thing itself has never been a big issue to me, really, rather how my friends tend to do it, with whom (people they had only known for 5 minutes) and everything around it. About four or five months ago I got to hear a conversation of my classmates who told each other about what all they had already done with whom and how often and how long and basically normal things for sexual people but I was horrified actually, shocked about what I heard and that I didn't even get it the time it happened. Many things of what they told me went on before my very eyes and I didn't even suspect anything there. I've been in a kinda traumatic state for many weeks after. Still not completely over it... After listening to their stories I definitely knew I was asexual and I haven't had doubts ever after.

[bradbury]

I'm trying to dig really deep into the dark pits of my brain, but I can't find anything about how I came to know about sex...

As far as I know, my parents never gave me "the talk," and when we finally came to the chapter on human sexuality in our biology textbook, I was 13 and I don't think I really learned anything I didn't know yet at the time. To be fair, I wouldn't be surprised if I figured everything out on my own by just reading about it, seeing as I was quite the curious kid.

[Nymzie]

You guys had sex ed SO EARLY I didnt have sex-ed until 9th grade.

I have always been a REALLY crude person. I knew all the words for sex, but I had no idea what they would mean. I would just spout them out every other minute. And I would hump things but I didnt know what humping was, just that it was gross and funny. I would always do that thing where you make a circle with two fingers on one hand and then stick another finger through it but it wasnt until high school that it finally clicked what that symbolized. When Scary Movie came out I would constantly pretend to be giving blow jobs, but I didnt know that meant sucking on a penis. I would just hide behind a seat and move my head up and down and then stand up and slyly wipe my mouth. My friends loved it ^_^ I was 13 when that movie came out. OH and I remember I learned what a virgin was in 6th grade, because some guy asked me if I was one and I said no and he started cracking up. So I looked it up in the dictionary.

My cousin spent a summer with me once, when I was 11 and I learned a LOT from her. She is REALLY sexual. She told me about how her friend got raped 6 times by the same guy and we were both jealous because that must have meant she was REALLY good if the guys kept coming back. Then I told my mom how I was jealous and she had a talk with me.

[Vampireseal]

I don't remember how old I was, but I knew what mating meant (I saw cats do it several times). I didn't realize it was the same thing as sex, until I was about 7 or around that age that when I asked my grandma "What is sex? Can you eat it? Is it a cookie?"

(in our language the word for sex sounds similar to the word for cookie). She was like

Then she explained to me it's the same thing as mating, and I went "People mating? EEEEEWWWW!" :lol:

Oh dear, that's exactly what I thought too! I had read of animals mating in the 3rd grade and knew the process, and to be honest, I was already wondering if humans mated and why I had not heard of them doing so. I had heard the term "sex", but I paid little attention to it. I figured humans were doings some sort of artificial means of reproduction. I regarded animals mating in the same way that I did the mother cat eating her offspring's feces and placenta--something that was gross, but an animal grossness, and certainly, definitely, no civilized humans did that.

Then when I was 10 my mother explained sex to me. And I thought "Really?, we put a man on the moon and we can't figure out a way to avoid mating like animals? Huh?" It took me a little while to understand in her conversation that humans LIKED to mate. I had not expected that one. After that, I pretty much ignored the topic of sex, and just got used to the idea, but I never, ever, ever could visualize myself doing it. I still don't. And really, that's the most baffling aspect of sexuality to me. I get the idea of sexual feelings, but I could never see how hanging around someone of any sex, opposite or otherwise, would just bring those feelings on. Humans aren't any more "sexy" to me than rocks or logs.

I also never could see how "gay" sex was somehow magically terrible or worse than "straight" sex, since as my mother had already explained, straight people perform oral and anal sex as well. It all just seemed the same to me. The only thing that grossed me out very much was when she explained coprophagia or oral sex and that a few people liked it. That's really the only thing that completely disgusted me.

[Michiyo]

Well when I was 4ish I thought that babies came from a woman and man loving each other then one day the woman threw up a child when they wanted one o__o As weird as that sounds, it's 100% true

I learned about real childbirth in 4th grade on a field trip somewhere... we saw pictures of the baby growing but never how it was made per-se.

Then in 6th grade when health was a semester long instead of a quarter long, we had Sex Ed. I think this is where I learned how sex worked and such... I think I was drawing though and didn't really hear much of it :lol:

[corvalis]

The only thing that grossed me out very much was when she explained coprophagia or oral sex and that a few people liked it. That's really the only thing that completely disgusted me.

wait wtf why was your mother telling you about coprophagia? Ew. I've heard about that in medical literature and stuff, but that's, erm, not really not something I would include in a standard sex talk...