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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:17 PM

I honestly can't remember when or how I learned about sex, but I guess I was 9 or so. In retrospect, I probably learned most of the details from the show Gundam Wing, ahaha. I was a huge fan of it at the time and went online to find fanfiction, and, well, if you're familiar with the show at all, fans really like to create explicit yaoi pairings D:

Or maybe I learned from The Sims. They had a love-bed that came with one of the expansion packs where you could "WooHoo" and create a baby. My mother never really understood what the ESRB ratings meant.

I was pretty repulsed by it and, like probably all kids, convinced myself that my parents had only had sex three times ever, just to produce my siblings and me :'D I got over the whole 'ick' factor and started viewing it with a sort of detached curiosity around 14.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:24 PM

8th grade... :P I guess I just plain never thought too hard about it before then, cause when I heard someone talking about how you needed to put your thing INSIDE of another person, I was like whaaaaat.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:25 PM

I first heard of sex when I was 7 or 8 but didn't really know what exactly sex entailed until I was 10. I was like "Wait... people actually want to do that? I'm going to want to do that one day? How odd." I accepted the fact though. I imagine my 10 year old self would be much relieved to find out she grew up to be asexual.

Funnily enough, I remember my best friend and I talking about it and how long we wanted to wait to have sex. She said 18, I said 21. Neither of us said until after marriage. I approached it with a mindset of wanting to be old enough to at least somewhat deal with possible consequences and to have the emotional maturity for it. I think I was an interesting 10 year old.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:25 PM

The usual things, from about 8-9 years old and upwards.
School, parents, friends, rumours, gossip, TV, and on and on.
I wasn't repulsed or bothered or confused, but I couldn't understand the big deal. I just accepted it in some kind of that's-life-but-don't-expect-me-to-be-bothered kind of way.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:41 PM

I was twelve. I'd heard of it before that, but in my head, it was just some vague thing that not many people did, and I wasn't aware until then that it was the way children were produced. When I found out how it worked, I was so freaked out over the fact that someday I might have to do this, and I cried for a long time.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 08:52 PM

I think I was about 11-12 when I first heard about it. At first, I was really curious. I remember thinking "what is it, and how, exactly, would you go about doing this?" And then enter sex ed in middle school :blink: I remember the teacher telling us how to take precautions for sex and how it should be between two people who love each other and all that. But never how to do the actual action. It was really confusing for me. And then I was reading some fanfiction online, and it said "lemon" in the description. Me, being the curious almost-teenager I was, clicked and started reading. I have never been more mortified in all my life. I was completely repulsed by this action for a long time, but now I'm mostly fine with it. :unsure:

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:01 PM

I was 14, and it was squicky.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:01 PM

I don't remember how old I was, but I knew what mating meant (I saw cats do it several times). I didn't realize it was the same thing as sex, until I was about 7 or around that age that when I asked my grandma "What is sex? Can you eat it? Is it a cookie?"
(in our language the word for sex sounds similar to the word for cookie). She was like :blink:
Then she explained to me it's the same thing as mating, and I went "People mating? EEEEEWWWW!" :lol:
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:04 PM

I knew some of the details for a long time. But I didn't know the full deal until about one or two years ago. I still find out more and more repulsing things about sex.
To be honest, I've become more disgusted with it as I got older.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:17 PM

i was actually horrified. I was maybe 9 or 10

Especially when my mom went into details about it and then everyone who was around me I kept imagining it happening.

It was a bad time...then i became a tomboy and wanted no period or no bras.

I almost wanted to be a boy.

but yeah...dark times.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:21 PM

I have absolutely no clue.

I had a book called 'where do babies come from' when I was little, but I have no idea what it covered.

Maybe I gradually realised, because I certainly don't recall an epiphany moment.

Maybe I also thought it would never effect me personally. Which it hasn't so far.

I still find out more and more repulsing things about sex.
To be honest, I've become more disgusted with it as I got older.

I totally agree with this.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:28 PM

Aged 11 in year 7 in school.

I remember thinking at the time that this was something I would never, ever partake in. My father, with a bemused look in his eyes, assured me that almost every kid initially reacts like that.

But, at 23, I think he has finally acknowedged that my first reaction will be my forever reaction. Totally O/T but I absolutely love my Dad for standing up for my aceness, even if he doesn't fully 'get' me, or my sexuality. He's a totally awesome father and I'm blessed that he is so understanding.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:30 PM

I knew from a young age, thought it was disgusting, and successfully convinced myself that my parents had it twice. I was 5 when I found out how it happened, thanks to my aunt corrupting my innocent mind. I forgot about it for a few years, then it all came back in Middle School when the people that called themselves my friends decided to further corrupt my mind to understand innuendos and all that fun stuff.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:38 PM

i was prolly 9 or 10 and was having fun looking through the family's medical encyclopedia. there was a nice illustrated diagram of how sex worked. i don't really remember my reaction at that moment but it definitely fascinated me. then i discovered the joys of the internet and porn ( parents should have put parental controls on the browser) and it kind of disgusted me. i've moved back and forth between fascination and disgust ever since.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:45 PM

I donīt remember exactly how old I was. 8-10 maybe? And it was easier for me to accept that thereīs something like this when I was a child than itīs for me now. I was a child and I knew Iīm too young to have sex and I assumed I will want to have sex when Iīll be an adult. I assumed I will not see it as something weird and uninteresting. Of course, I didnīt know how real sex looks like. All I knew were only pictures and text which was ment for children and my mom explained it to me a little. I didnīt know there are more practises than penis-vagina sex, I didnīt know how weird noises some people make during sex, I didnīt know how important sex is in a relationship for the huge majority of people.
When I was a child sex seemed weird but not so weird like it seems to me now. I wasnīt even so repulsed by it. Just not interested. But I would be happier if I stayed as little informed as I was in my childhood.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:53 PM

As a small child, I was disgusted upon learning that the penis actually goes inside the vagina. :lol:

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 09:57 PM

think i was pretty young. i dont actually remember the first conversation or revelation; more over a series of educational conversations...

although, i'd never heard the word 'sex' consciously and wondered until i saw a kid write 'sex is good' on a window and i went 'mummy, who is sex??' :lol:

dont think i was disgusted. i think i was just indifferent, detached, curious and questioning. i challenged [my very christian family orientated] mother why gay marriage was wrong when i was 7 or 8. it was around this time that i started to make life very even more difficult for the person who tried to stuff me into a dress. oh the glories of the age of reason. didnt have much girly clothes to begin with, let alone choose to wear them i dont think :mellow:
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 10:24 PM

I first found out through the Human Growth and Development unit we went over in 4th or 5th grade. I was 9 or 10. I had heard the word used before then, but I didn't know what it meant and thought it was a word I wasn't supposed to say or hear.

I was disgusted, devastated, and scared.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 11:15 PM

In 4th grade, we were supposed to be given "the talk" in school, so my mom explained it to me shortly before we had that lesson. She just drew diagrams of the female and male anatomy and said what they were basically for. My reaction was, word for word: "Ew--they're rubbing butts!" ...My reaction has not changed much since then. :lol: Actually, when I came out as ace to my mom, she told me she had been afraid my aversion to sex was because of those drawings, haha. (I assured her it wasn't.)

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 11:38 PM

When I was 8 years old a 9 year old boy showed me the word sex in the dictionary and all the other 9 year olds were giggling and saying 'she's too young to know!!!'
I looked at it and said 'Yes, sex...' And everyone seemed shocked that I didn't care. I was more shocked that they cared so much. So even at a young age I was indifferent.

On a holiday when I was around 7 years old, my sister and I were in a park. A stranger pushed my sister on the swing but ended up leaving looking uncomfortable and I proudly told my mom I'd been standing there with my hands on my hips glaring at him making sure he wasn't touching her bum or anything.
I was aware at that age and I believe at, at least 6 years old of the existence of rapists and often observed people to make sure I could avoid being at risk or any others being at risk. I used to look out for those who might be a sexual threat to my mom and brother and sisters also.
I was aware of sex early on in a rape sense.
I don't remember any talks on them, or how things were explained to me. but I know anything I heard at school wasn't new. And as none of us remember being told about it by our parents we assume we'd gotten told at a very, very young age. It's odd though.

I guess people might want to link my first education of sex with my sexuality. But I wasn't really sex repulsed. I was repulsed when putting myself in such a situation and even now find it hard to imagine sex in a non-rape situation. but I didn't care much about consensual sex between others, I just didn't see why anyone would want to do it and assumed I might understand when I'm older. (I never assumed I'd want to have sex when older though. I personally thought, what I now know to be demisexual or gray were what everyone else was actually like).
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 11:42 PM

I was 14, and it was squicky.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 11:48 PM

I was maybe 9 or 10 and we were getting those little talks at school about it. I went home got the S encyclopieda out and read about it. I found those pictures of the human body and look at both male and female parts and was like OK that looks sick. I was like no thanks not for me. My mom was telling my sister who was 12 at the time and wanted to know and I just had to run out of the room going no no no no no.

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Posted 17 October 2011 - 11:55 PM

It was towards the end of 7th grade year. You see, I have this often horrendous ability to tune into people's conversations without meaning to, even when I'm in the middle of reading or doing work. And this is what I heard had been written in the back of the social studies textbook "Lolololololol look what it says in the back of my book! A mans ____(no words said here) goes in a girls _____(no words said here)! Lololololololololol...."

Up until that point I thought babies were made when a boy and a girl kissed(just kissed on the lips) and had this whole plan of how that would work in my head. Keep in mind that aside from my 5 year old brother I had never seen a penis, so that didn't even factor into my equation. This was due to the fact that my father had told me all my childhood to Never kiss a boy on the lips. Of course my child mind decided that the reason Must be that it makes you have babies.

I was horrified, and much like Ikonikangel and Safaia, my disgust has only grown stronger as I've gotten older.

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Posted 18 October 2011 - 01:14 AM

I can't really remember a time when I didn't know about sex though I suppose there must have been one. I remember being with friends and playing barbies at 7 or 8 and when my older friend was with us that was one of the topics. I had a pretty open and honest father so it's always been a part of my general understanding if the world.

I don't remember having a strong reaction in any direction about sex. I was taught sex was wonderful and sexuality was a beautiful thing to be embraced so that's pretty much how I thought of it. I always figured eventuality I would want it too but that strong want of it never quite devopted. When it didn't I then decided that everyone must just be exaggerating how much they wanted it and enjoyed it and didn't realize until much much later that that wasn't the case.

To this day I still think sexuality can be a wonderful thing as can sex for those who want it. I just happen to be one of the few who doesn't particularly want it.
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Posted 18 October 2011 - 01:23 AM

Probably around 1st or 2nd grade. My friends were quite knowledgeable of sex back then so they'd always talk about it, but we didn't know all the details we just knew it was something that people did for fun and two make babies. It wasn't until 5th grade that we got the official sex talk on puberty and sex.

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Posted 18 October 2011 - 01:33 AM

I knew all I needed to know before I finished elementary school. Dictionaries, encyclopedias and google are great sources of information.
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Posted 18 October 2011 - 01:34 AM

The whole thing was very gradual so I really have no idea. The earliest I "knew" of sex was when I was in 2nd(?) grade from reading a book about chickens or something & of course it went into reproduction. It had a very detailed illustration of it on one page when a couple of guys walked by & acted all disgusted. I had no idea what was weird about it :huh: I didn't see sex, I saw an egg being made.
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Posted 18 October 2011 - 02:56 AM

Hmm, not exactly sure. Probably around 7. I remember knowing it entailed putting something into another, but I was oblivious to the female organs down there. I actually recall looking it up in a dictionary (which listed biological sex. I was like "what? Hmm, there must be another meaning not in here."). Anyways, I thought it was a bit strange and only slightly repulsed by the idea that my parents had to do that for my siblings and I. So can't say I had much of a reaction. I was much more disgusted for a few weeks when I found out in 6th grade that erections were caused by blood (as I had a substantial experience with them by then.).
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