The General TMI thread

[Wineblood]

You people are no fun :P

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[Alan Degas]

^ I think I know what you mean. The more aroused I get and the closer I get to climax the stronger the pushing out forces get. I got one of those dildo's with rotating "bead" thingamajigs and often the muscles "down there" are so forceful it makes the rotators that run the beads stop. I'm worried that's gonna fry the mechanics in the dear thing soon :lol:

It has never caused any problems with regular sex though. I think it's just normal muscle reflexes and if anything it makes things better for both parties. There has to be some resistance down there, otherwise neither person is going to feel a whole lot.

[Rivan Vox]

I was disturbed until I remember you guys are gray-a. Then everything was okay.

However, this conversation is far too female-oriented. Would it be alright if I added some male TMI?

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[HeidiUK]

This subject will come back in a month or so :P

Thanks for the warning. I'll take a holiday from AVEN ;).

You people are no fun :P

Sorry :(. *Offers Wineblood some very nice *

Would it be alright if I added some male TMI?

Go for it!

And yeah...sexuals in here might be cheating a bit.

How would they be cheating? I don't get that @ all, sorry Birdwing.

[Wineblood]

However, this conversation is far too female-oriented. Would it be alright if I added some male TMI?

Go for it.

I'd like to add that erections are not nice to have in public, quite uncomfortable to hide them.

[Rivan Vox]

However, this conversation is far too female-oriented. Would it be alright if I added some male TMI?

Go for it.

I'd like to add that erections are not nice to have in public, quite uncomfortable to hide them.

Fortunately, at 4 1/2 inches, I'm not exactly obvious even when fully aroused. Fact of the matter is, I wear very tight pants and people still refer to me as female with stunning regularity.

Also, porn and normal depictions are lies. Orgasms are like fireworks, they are just like WOOP THERE IT IS and there it is, on everything.

Weirdest thing about masturbation for me? No pleasure in orgasm. I don't even think of it as having an orgasm. Climax sort of marks the end of the brief bit of pleasure I was having.

Conversely, anal play is terrifically pleasurable. Not old enough to have any toys, but a jumbo-sized sharpie serves admirably. The best experience I've had (sexually) on my own or with anyone is combining the two.

I've tried vibration, and I'm pretty sure that desensitized the head hugely. I'm not sure there's any way to recover that lost feeling. I mean, I get blown and I feel literally nothing. Very saddening, though it's yet another reason for my disinterest in sex.

[HeidiUK]

Orgasms are like fireworks, they are just like WOOP THERE IT IS and there it is, on everything.

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming? (No puns intended! :P) I'd always thought one knew it was on its way.

[Vampyremage]

Orgasms are like fireworks, they are just like WOOP THERE IT IS and there it is, on everything.

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming? (No puns intended! :P) I'd always thought one knew it was on its way.

I usually know when one is on the way but I guess it might be different for everyone.

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[Wineblood]

Orgasms are like fireworks, they are just like WOOP THERE IT IS and there it is, on everything.

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming? (No puns intended! :P) I'd always thought one knew it was on its way.

I usually know when one is on the way but I guess it might be different for everyone.

For me, there are usually a few pre-orgasm feelings, but they're quite short. It's like ......1.......2.......GO!

[Vampyremage]

Orgasms are like fireworks, they are just like WOOP THERE IT IS and there it is, on everything.

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming? (No puns intended! :P) I'd always thought one knew it was on its way.

I usually know when one is on the way but I guess it might be different for everyone.

For me, there are usually a few pre-orgasm feelings, but they're quite short. It's like ......1.......2.......GO!

Actually its usually pretty quick for me too. There are signs that its coming, but usually only fairly shortly beforehand. Sometimes I can manage to delay it for a few minutes though, if I realize its coming.

[HeidiUK]

See, that is interesting, thanks all.

The few times I've 'had a go' absolutely nothing has happened. I don't feel like anything needed to happen beforehand, or even now months later, so I just concluded that I don't have any drive.

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[Vampyremage]

Hmm, see that's weird, I wouldn't call mine fast like that. It's more like...well, I don't really have a good way to measure time. But I always listen to music (because my vibrator with any attachment on sounds kind of like an airplane in ny bedroom) through noise canceling headphones...and timing it with the music is amazing. So, I'd say usually, build up until the bridge to the chorus. By the bridge, or during it, the feelings that one is coming have kicked in. Then somewhere during the chorus it actually happens, though sometimes it's not quite there and I wait until the next chorus (or any solos) to try to get it there. It can be more intense that way, and that's one way I get multiple orgasms in a short period of time with the solos.

I'm not sure what to say about there not being feeling there or whatever for some people... I'm not very sensitive there either. If I'm not doing things just right, it's just like touching any other body part. It took me a while to learn, thankfully with the vibrator I have, it wasn't too much of a learning curve, the thing is epic awesome.

Now imagine that airplane vibrator coming into contact with a titanium piercing and that's the kind of noise I have to deal with hehe.

Without a vibrator I know that I wouldn't masturbate because using my fingers just takes way too long and isn't nearly as pleasurable when I do. With the vibrator, I can orgasm 3 or 4 times within about 15 or 20 minutes then I'm done. Without it, I'd be lucky to orgasm once in that time period.

The idea to time it with the music is an interesting one. Do you find that you need a certain atmosphere to be successful Birdwing?

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[Vampyremage]

Interesting. I don't usually have to be in any sort of right mood to enjoy it, but that might have something to do with the differences between the sexual and asexual mind. I usually don't fantasize and when I do its focus is around my 2 fetishes. I've always read about how many women need to have that correct mood in order to be able to masturbate or have sex successfully and that's always confused me just a little bit.

When it comes to masturbation, I'll just sometimes do it when I'm bored and because its fun. While I do have a small libido, I usually masturbate more often than my libido makes me feel like I need to. I can go a couple months before it starts acting up and I would guess I masturbate usually anywhere between a couple times a week and a couple times a month just depending on how often I have the house to myself and how bored I am.

When it comes to sex, the right mood can help my experience a little bit, but not significantly. What helps more than anything is just not having it for a long period of time then its easier for me to put to the back of my mind the (relatively small amount of) repulsion I feel in order to enjoy it. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't work quite so much, though regardless I've decided I'm happier without having to worry about it.

[Cirdan]

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming?

I can certainly tell it's about to happen. During arousal feelings will gradually get more intense but with some periods of more or less tension. Usually I'll realise a few seconds beforehand that I'm approaching the point of no return - and once I've passed the point of no return I have to keep the stimulation going for a bit longer or rather than a full orgasm with ejaculation it will dribble out with no orgasm.

[Wineblood]

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming?

I can certainly tell it's about to happen. During arousal feelings will gradually get more intense but with some periods of more or less tension. Usually I'll realise a few seconds beforehand that I'm approaching the point of no return - and once I've passed the point of no return I have to keep the stimulation going for a bit longer or rather than a full orgasm with ejaculation it will dribble out with no orgasm.

Once I've past that point and I stop, there's no real orgasm and just a dribble of semen. It's once that point is reached that I give it everything, makes all the difference.

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[Wineblood]

So which is it, guys - keep stimulating for orgasm, don't, or it possibly varies between guys?

Yes, keep going. It might vary but I don't understand how not stimulating it would be better.

[Guest]

^ I think I know what you mean. The more aroused I get and the closer I get to climax the stronger the pushing out forces get. I got one of those dildo's with rotating "bead" thingamajigs and often the muscles "down there" are so forceful it makes the rotators that run the beads stop. I'm worried that's gonna fry the mechanics in the dear thing soon :lol:

I don't use vibrators much (for reasons discussed below), but when I have, I definitely have muscles strong enough to stop the rotating. I don't even turn on the rotation bead thing anymore because it literally does nothing.

But I don't use vibrators clitorally for 2 reasons. 1) someone mentioned how they have an orgasm, but its more like the end of the road feeling and less like amazing fireworks. That's how orgasms are for me with vibrators. I will come, yes, but essentially I go from "ooh that feels good" to "ouch too sensitive" in a matter of a minute, with no real explosive "yay i'm coming!" in between.

and 2) vibrators really will decrease your sensitivity. If you are used to coming the exact same way every time, and that way includes some that can provide a level of stimulation that no human can replicate, you will have trouble getting off with another person. Like, a lot of trouble. I actually intentionally masturbate in ways that may happen in real life (stopping and starting, etc) so that my body is prepared for that when it happens.

I've slept with people who have very, very specific ways of making them come, because that's how they've always done it themselves, and that's fine... once you learn how to do it to them, its smooth sailing... but it is a tad boring.

So which is it, guys - keep stimulating for orgasm, don't, or it possibly varies between guys?

Yes, keep going. It might vary but I don't understand how not stimulating it would be better.

I have a boy question. To what extend to you continue to touch after you orgasm? I've watched enough porn to see that guys, at least in porn, tend to continue stroking/ squeezing for a bit afterward. For me, I'm way too sensitive for any touch afterward. Same or different for the fellas?

[Wineblood]

So which is it, guys - keep stimulating for orgasm, don't, or it possibly varies between guys?

Yes, keep going. It might vary but I don't understand how not stimulating it would be better.

I have a boy question. To what extend to you continue to touch after you orgasm? I've watched enough porn to see that guys, at least in porn, tend to continue stroking/ squeezing for a bit afterward. For me, I'm way too sensitive for any touch afterward. Same or different for the fellas?

It does get really sensitive after orgasm, about 20-30 seconds after. From what I've seen in porn, they keep going on the shaft most of the time when it's the head that's mega sensitive. I don't know about others, but i do it over my foreskin so sensitivity after isn't that much of a problem for me.

[Naosuu]

Oh my o_o; I've always found manual stimulation kind of... uncomfortable? I think I've only achieved orgasm with fingers once or twice. I have pretty sensitive skin, so I actually found out the vaginal fluid irritated my fingers! :lol: I've tried in the shower (which is when the first one happened), but the water will kinda wash away the lubricant and it gets uncomfortable.

I usually just use toilet paper to stroke the outside I find my imagination more powerful, so the physical sensation just kinda accentuates whatever's going on in my head. Fantasizing about "real people" never did it for me. Usually it's a fictional scene with fictional people and I'm usually one of those fictional characters (sorta like a persona!). I'm seriously considering getting a dildo just to experiment, but I'm wayyy to shy to walk into an adult toy store. I'm also nervous about buying one online because sometimes my parents look at my credit card bills. ><;;; "NAOSUU WHAT WAS THIS PURCHASE YOU MADE?!" "O_O Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh................ it's for my friend? :D "

I definitively agree with the continued motion after the orgasm cue. I can tell and I've tried stopping after that and continuing, but it has been really meh. There are the muscle contractions but no orgasmic feeling.

[glass weegie]

is it wrong that im reading this like a dictionary to get more info on sexuals? anyways, i have literally nothing to contribute to this :lol: continue your informing... i mean posting

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[Naosuu]

So like...not picking on you specifically, but...

For all you women who have actually orgasmed from manual stimulation...and have also done it with some sort of vibrator...

Are there different "levels" of orgasm? Because yeah, I can get little "ooh yay" feelings with manual stuff, but it's nothing like the "MY BRAIN IS DRENCHED WITH JOY" feelings from my vibrator, where like...a ton of muscles down there just start firing all crazy on their own and I feel the need to grab onto my headboard or sheets from the "OMG" feelings and I seriously can't help but make noise.

So...can you get to that level from manual stimulation, or is it just "ooh yay" sorts of fluttery happy feelings? Because I've never gotten past little tingly sorts of "whee!" feelings. I've never had the uncontrollable muscle firing, but I've gotten like...back arching and toe curling from it. But it doesn't feel intense, it's just sort of "eh whatever".

I've yet to feel the "AAAHHH OMG AAOSHOAIHOIAUGDUABOUb GOTTA GRAB ONTO SOMETHING OHHH GOODDDOUDHOBRIARGBIUABRUIAB" orgasm, so we're in the same boat. :lol: If I do make bodily movements (usually in the shower) it's sort of to help me stay in my persona. But is it really mind blowing? No. I think I've only had one intense orgasm, but that was also because I was particularly into whatever I was fantasizing about. Usually they range from "meh" to "wheeee".

There are definitively different intensities between orgasms. It usually just feels like an intensified "Wheeee" when I orgasm. Although, according to my friend K he told me partnered sex is 10x more intense than solo.... although I take this with a grain of salt. :P

1. I've never been into an adult toy store either...:P And I've had plenty of opportunity, I know where several of them are...

2. Most of these places that sell stuff are super...what's that word?...confidential?...about it. I've ordered a bunch of things online and all the boxes just said my name and, rarely, the company name (which is...ah! discreet! that's the word, discreet). Other times it was just my name and address and the package number. It doesn't say anything like "OMG LOOK WORLD GUESS WHAT'S IN THIS BOX THIS PERSON ORDERED A DILDO YES THEY DID." And on my credit card bill it's got the same discreet name. I think the stuff I got on Amazon was something like "Healthy and Active" :lol:

Really?! That's actually a really great relief.... I did a quick search and I found some possibilities. Thanks a bunch for telling me, now I don't feel so scurred! :)

EDIT: I forgot to mention, but the bolded part has me cracking up every time I read it. My parents kept asking me what was so funny... :3

[HeidiUK]

If I'm not doing things just right, it's just like touching any other body part. It took me a while to learn, thankfully with the vibrator I have, it wasn't too much of a learning curve, the thing is epic awesome.

Thanks Birdwing!

I know a very close friend of mine said that 'one just needs to get the hang of it', but I think as someone with no drive whatsoever, I am just not going to 'get the hang of it', because for me, there is nothing to 'get the hang of'.

Anyone else have my experience? (Maybe the TMI thread isn't the best place to ask this .)

Do you mean there's no warning that it's coming?

I can certainly tell it's about to happen. During arousal feelings will gradually get more intense but with some periods of more or less tension. Usually I'll realise a few seconds beforehand that I'm approaching the point of no return - and once I've passed the point of no return I have to keep the stimulation going for a bit longer or rather than a full orgasm with ejaculation it will dribble out with no orgasm.

Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to answer that for me, Cirdan. Very interesting to know.

is it wrong that im reading this like a dictionary to get more info on sexuals? anyways, i have literally nothing to contribute to this :lol: continue your informing... i mean posting

I feel like you Weegie!

This TMI thread is really helping me understand a lot of things I used to just draw a blank on.

EDIT: I forgot to mention, but the bolded part has me cracking up every time I read it.

Hehe, I didn't quite laugh, but I had to have a grin to myself.

for Birdwing amusing us.

[kochouran]

Penetration tends to give me cramps. Not necessarily in a bad way, but more of a "yeah, you're going to push on me, I'm going to push back!" obstinate muscley way.

You've got me wondering if that's partly why I have trouble with sex in the beginning. I know I get really tense, but even when I'm telling myself to relax, he gets...uh, stuck.

Also, does anybody else get bad cramps during deep penetration? Every time I try certain sexual positions, I get a feeling like a stomach ache, and that kinda kills the mood. -_-