I feel included now. Hurrah!
I actually don't identify as trans, because right now I am still questioning my gender identity. To me, trans implies that at some point a person is going to transition to something else, and until I know whether or not I want to do that, I can't really say "Oh yes, I'm a transperson." Instead, I find it easiest to identify as androgynous/neutrois (depending on whether the person I'm talking to knows what neutrois is, and if I feel like explaining it). I've always figured I was different, but I couldn't put a name to the feeling until I joined AVEN and saw other people using new terms I'd never seen before. Once someone explained it to me, I was like "That's me! Why the hell didn't I figure it out before?!" So now I live within the binary when I have to for work, and the rest of the time (and always in my head no matter where I am) my gender is like Gonzo; whatever.
Obviously I know that there are some transpeople who do not go through transition. It's just how I keep the terms organized in my head. Apologies to anyone if I've offended you, it was unintentional!
Edited by Percy McKean, 21 July 2010 - 04:42 AM.