Techie Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 The last several days I have been suffering from an injury that the male side of the 99% would have a big problem with. I had been bike riding with my young niece and trying to keep an eye on her to stay to the side of the road. As such, I did not the the pot hole in front of me that caused the bike to jump and slam me in the nether regions. A day later and I developed a thrombosis of the dorsal vein of my male part (NIH description: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2978449/). I have very painful swollen veins. The "funny" thing is I mentioned it to my business partner the other day because I had some difficulty walking without pain at the office. I got this odd grin from him. I saw my doctor on Thursday for an unrelated matter and told him about the injury. I got that same grin which I guess any knowing male would give but information that it will clear on its own over time. Of course, one of the things to be avoided is sexual activity which can exacerbate the problem. Yah, like that will be a problem for me. Of course my neighbor who is single and somewhat sexually active tells me that the swelling should be a hit with the ladies Trying to explain that you are in so much pain as-is that the last thing you would even want to think about is having anything touch you seemed to go over his head. He is one person who would not understand asexuality or my never having had sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Poor guy! We are attached to our balls, aren't we? (Sorry. Couldn't resist) I hope you're starting to feel better! After several days, if they're still causing you pain, maybe you should see your doctor again. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Cat Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Techie, ouch, ouch, ouch. I was a cyclist until I became to ill to ride on the road and now I do the Tour de Living Room. The pot holer hurts both males and females, although you men do have it a bit worse, anatomically. I wish you healing thoughts, my friend. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Ouch, Techie! I hope you feel better soon! I don't know why some people think pain or anything related to genitals is humorous. Cathy, wasn't that Bobby McFerrin? I hope your hike went well! tja, I have been anything but productive all day. :P Deja Vu, it's too bad you did all that driving (with snow) only to find the bird man didn't show up. Blue Cat, I have a blue cat here currently. Right now he's sleeping near the chair I'm sitting in. I've been trying to wear him out playing. I've gotten him to the point of panting, but he still didn't want to give up. The exuberance and energy of youth! He's full grown now, but still quite young. runester, don't think we don't see you lurking there... :lol: Happy Easter to all! (not that I celebrate it, and if I did I would do it as a secular celebration, maybe with a slight nod to the old pagan festival. In other words, with eggs and chocolate bunnies and such.) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cdrdash Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Cathy, wasn't that Bobby McFerrin? I hope your hike went well! You're right Dave, its Bobby McFerrin, but when I googled it Bob Marley showed up and I didn't pay attention to reading the article carefully. I went back and looked at the page and it turns out the person who put the video up there was wrong. Oh well. Thanks for catching the error! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cdrdash Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Another glorious day hiking in the San Francisco Bay area. The wild flowers are simply incredible this month. I had a nice time chatting with friend David going up the steep hill. His news enthralled me and the hill went by quick. Pictures: https://picasaweb.google.com/105234689104952250166/Joe_Grant_4_19_14?authuser=0&authkey=Gv1sRgCJ3Ln8-y84ajpAE&feat=directlink Crossing my fingers that I set the permissions on the photos right this time! Sharon and I added on finding a couple of geocaches at the end of the hike and the two of us ended up hiking for 13 miles! I'm bushed! 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 I'm amazed you had the energy to post the photos! :lol: Lots of wildflowers and greenery! And nice to see Frodo hanging out. :) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Ouch, Techie! I hope you feel better soon! I don't know why some people think pain or anything related to genitals is humorous. I am not really sure why either but I will admit I probably would have grinned too if someone told it to me. I remember an episode of "Two and a Half Men" a few years back where Judd Nelson is guest starring as the ex-husband (Chris) of Alan's girlfriend and this dialog transpires: Chris: I just found out I have a lump on my groin. Herb: Bad place for a lump. Charlie: Tell me a good place. Herb: Someone else's groin. Of course, ha ha funny until it really is you :D 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 I'm sorry, Techie. I wasn't making fun of your situation. It was more of a 'men stick together' kind of thing. :( I wouldn't laugh at something like that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Beautiful photos - your weather was so much nicer than ours today. Didn't get too wet taking the dogs out - mainly my feet and on the last of them (Barney). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 I'm sorry, Techie. I wasn't making fun of your situation. It was more of a 'men stick together' kind of thing. :( I wouldn't laugh at something like that. I wasn't offended. Sorry if I conveyed that somehow. I was just pointing out that I probably would have found my story funny too if someone else was telling it to me. Something only a guy can understand and dread. That Two and Half Men segment is funny unless it happens to you. At some point, hopefully within the next week, I'll be able to look back and laugh too; riding a bike and get slammed in the groin by a pothole. Sounds like something from Benny Hill! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Selatla Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 not yet, but getting there. I'm 48 right now. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Deja Vu Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 My dad was taken to the hospital this afternoon by ambulance after he fell backwards in my sister's garage and hit his head on the concrete floor. He was trying to go up the steps into the house when it happened. He was unconscious for a period of time, and bleeding from the head. The CT scan didn't find anything (thankfully) but they are keeping him overnight anyway. We hope this means there is no brain bleed, which we were/are worried about. The upside of this is apparently the fact he was unconscious will mean he will lose his driver's license (again). Something we have been wishing for ever since he got it back the last time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cdrdash Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Thinking good thoughts for your Dad Deja Vu! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cdrdash Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 OK ... yet another wonderful hike with an abundance of wild flowers and warm sunshine. I must be sounding like a broken record! Pictures: https://picasaweb.google.com/105234689104952250166/Santa_Teresa_4_20_14?authuser=0&authkey=Gv1sRgCIuSjPChu5iJpwE&feat=directlink BTW, I took a bunch of pictures of the cache my friend bykenut made. She got reports it needed maintenance and wanted to see pictures of it. I wanted to find it. So ... I found it and took pictures of it so she can determine what she needs to fix it. The container should not be cut in half as it is. The mystery is how it got cut in half to begin with. Bykenut said it was a whole container when she placed it! Cathy 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Welcome, Selatla! Have some Oh, no, Deja Vu! I hope you're dad will be okay. (but good that it means you don't have to worry about him driving anymore) Another nice hike, Cathy. The poppies and other wildflowers are out in force, eh? That looks like someone deliberately cut the geocache container. My feline guest will be going back home tomorrow. It's been nice having him around (and a good excuse (as if I need one) to be lazy this weekend). 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
cdrdash Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Another nice hike, Cathy. The poppies and other wildflowers are out in force, eh? That looks like someone deliberately cut the geocache container. If it was deliberately cut, the mystery becomes ... why just cut it in half and leave the contents and one half there? What on earth did he/she hope to accomplish by taking the bottom half?? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Who knows. I just don't see how it could've been cut like the accidentally in the position it was in. Unless it was taken out, cut accidentally, and then put back. Maybe someone wanted the bottom part to use as a container for something? (either that or it was ... aliens!) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Finding myself Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Deja Vu : Wishing your Dad well. Hoping for good news. Thinking of you. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 This was my houseguest for the last few days. He's gone back home today. It was nice having him around for a little while. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Deja Vu Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 Deja Vu : Wishing your Dad well. Hoping for good news. Thinking of you. Thanks... Dad is still in the hospital. He thought they would release him today, but the team of doctors (7 specialists) opted to keep him there. His BP was 210 / 93 and they are really concerned. One doctor mentioned a condition that would cause the exact kind of fall my dad had. His test results showed indicators of that condition. I learned what happened - he literally fell over backwards just like a tree would fall. It's not a typical way that people fall but IS typical with this condition (I'm not sure of the name). So we wait and see. I am getting ready to leave town for a 10 day trip to the National Specialty that I've been telling you about. That I've been training for over the past year. I leave Thursday. I hope things are resolved with Dad by then. On another note - went tracking tonight with Trick and came home with little teensie ticks on me and my friend Robin. We think they are deer ticks, the kind that carry Lymes disease. They are so tiny I doubt I could find them on the dog. I should have put Frontline on him first, but he was bathed last night and you have to wait 24 hours before putting Frontline on. So, hopefully that wasn't a mistake. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Deja Vu Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 So Dad went home this morning - after a not so good prognosis. He had something happen with his heart that I don't quite understand, but that puts him at greater risk for stroke or heart attack. A few hours later he is on the floor and can't get up, paramedics are back again. Off to the hospital again. I have to teach two classes tonight so won't be able to go to the hospital. We are hoping the current doctors will take action to stop him from driving. His regular doctor not only won't, but she even went so far as to write a recommendation to give him his license back after he lost it a couple of years ago. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 Sorry about your situation, Deja Vu. What is his regular doctor thinking? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I'm sorry to hear that, too, Deja Vu. Hoping for the best. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Deja Vu Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 So the latest is dad refused to let them take him to the hospital. So the paramedics got him on his feet and left. What a stubborn man he is! If he falls during the night, he'll probably just lie there until morning as my mother (in her bedroom on the other side of the condo) won't even hear him. As to what his regular doctor is thinking --- it appears the answer is "nothing". My sister has been present when she was talking to my dad, and feels he had borderline threatened her into doing what he wanted. Apparently she was responsible for him losing his license before, and something wasn't handled properly. His privacy under the law appears to have been violated in the process. We think he may have threatened to file a complaint. She originally told him when she authorized getting his license back that he couldn't drive at night, on the freeway, or during rush hour. So, the very next day after getting his license back, he promptly headed out for a meeting IN RUSH HOUR traffic, on the freeway, and rear ended another car. He claimed his new shoes were slippery and slipped off the brake. There are several times we've caught him in untruths (or best case, wishful thinking) about what has happened. Including this latest incident where he claimed his cane slipped on the stair. That's not true at all. My brother in law was RIGHT there and said he was actually standing still on the bottom step and suddenly fell straight backwards, stiff as a board. He hit his head on the concrete and was unconscious for awhile. When he came to, he said he didn't remember anything, but he later told the doctors an elaborate story of what had happened - including details about what he hadn't remembered earlier. My mom is so afraid of his anger that she rides with him even though she doesn't think it's safe to be in the car with him. She knows they might both be killed, but apparently that's not as scary to her as his anger. We kids jump through amazing hoops to make up reasons we should drive them and it works part of the time. My dad's regular doctor has repeatedly ignored our pleas and reports of how he violated his verbal agreement with her (the doctor). Including the story about his freeway accident and another time when cops found him slumped over in the driver's seat on a freeway entrance ramp late at night. It was a diabetic coma. Because it was a "medical" issue the cops were not allowed to report that incident on his driving record. Anyway, the doctor's response continues to floor us, which has been to tell dad that we reported him, making him mad at us, and then she has done nothing more. We went so far as to check into whether we can sue this doctor for medical malpractice if he is in an accident and hurts himself or someone else. We are prepared to do that if necessary. But now with several new doctors - including cardiologists and neurologists - we are hoping THEY can convince his regular doctor to pull that driving plug. I'm sure this all sounds like my dad is a really evil person. He isn't. I love him deeply, and he has always been there for me. I'm glad I can be there for him now, and pay him back for all he's done for me. Still, he has changed and isn't the man he used to be. He used to be a very kind, gentle man who cared about others. He used to say he never wanted to be a burden to anyone and when he got old he hoped we'd all put him in a home where he couldn't wreck our lives. I would have said - 5 years ago - that giving up his driver's license would not have been an issue. I really do not think his mind is still as intact as it once was, at least not his reasoning ability and maybe not his interpretation of reality. I'm sorry this is so long. Thanks for bearing with me. I know I'm not alone (especially among our generation) in dealing with elderly parents and the challenges that brings. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 Sorry about all that drama, Deja Vu! My grandfather gave up driving voluntarily when he knew he couldn't handle it any longer (but he was always both a lover of cars and a stickler for safety along with good care and maintenance). My own parents are both relatively young (late 70's) and cognizant of their own limitations (so far only physical ones). How long that will continue only the future knows. But I know the physical issues alone can be worrisome at times. Best wishes! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Deja Vu Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 Sorry about all that drama, Deja Vu! My grandfather gave up driving voluntarily when he knew he couldn't handle it any longer (but he was always both a lover of cars and a stickler for safety along with good care and maintenance). My own parents are both relatively young (late 70's) and cognizant of their own limitations (so far only physical ones). How long that will continue only the future knows. But I know the physical issues alone can be worrisome at times. Best wishes! Thanks Dave! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodSprite Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 Dear Deja Vu, My parents are both gone now but I completely know what you are going through and send you best wishes for an easier time with all this. I can recommend that you should keep talking to people for both personal support with a stressful situation and as a means to find practical resources. Our parents aging is a challenging time - seek help. Stand in the doorway with your arms folded to actually get results. And for yourself, find something that makes you laugh. :-) E 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I'm sorry about the continuing troubles with your dad, deja vu. It's so hard when the person you've known and loved all your life changes so dramatically; though you don't stop loving them. It's good that you feel able to come here and talk about it, safe in the knowledge that we'll listen. It's frustrating that we can't do more but hopefully it will help. Your mum is getting the worst of it, though. At a time when I suppose she was looking forward to spending more time together enjoying things after working hard all their lives, she's now worried about upsetting your dad. I worry about my ability to continue driving - in the UK we have to get a doctor's agreement that we're still able to after the age of 70, but that seems to mainly consist of 'Do you think you can?' 'Yes' 'OK' When driving home in the early hours at night (I've been finishing at 5am) I've realised I can't judge the distance between my car and the kerb properly but I'm changing my shifts so I work days from next week. Means less money but I'm finding it impossible to sleep during the day now so getting increasingly tired. Sleeping at night is also difficult because my brain thinks I should be working :( . I had them check my night vision at my last eye test and they said it's fine so maybe it's just I'm losing confidence in my abilities. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Finding myself Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 Deja Vu: Really sorry for the situation that you are in. Supporting elderly parents is very stressful, however much we love them. I too feel that it is a really good thing for you to unload with your friends here on AVEN. Feel free to do that. Thinking of you loads. Tanwen: It sounds like changing to day work is the right thing, but difficult when it means reduced income. I hope that you quickly settle into a good sleep routine. Thinking of you. Take Care. I am feeling a little overwhelmed this evening with being alone i.e. without Mum or Dad to chat to on the phone. Such a huge transition for me. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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