nataliex Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 hi guy, this is my first post and I don't know much about asexuality, but I just wanted to ask you all what age you were when you realised you were asexual? Thanks! X Link to post Share on other sites
Forensic Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 18-19ish... first time I realized that normal people my age DID care about sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Kimmy Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 It didn't fully dawn upon me until this past weekend, honestly, and I'm 22. But I realized something was "wrong" with my not wanting to do sexual things with a guy I truly liked at about 18. If I had been at all aware of asexuality back then, I probably would have come to realize it closer to that point since I'd had some small thoughts that maybe I just wasn't attracted to anybody but just didn't think it was possible for someone to be like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Apollo Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 14 ish. I suspect my (near) lack of romantic attraction made my asexuality more obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
Forensic Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 14 ish. I suspect my (near) lack of romantic attraction made my asexuality more obvious. I dunno... I'm pretty aromantic... I just thought everyone was like me. :redface: Link to post Share on other sites
riddle_me_this Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 I think I was in tenth grade. I felt as if I lacked any romantic interest towards anyone. Now that I'm in my second year, I still am curious, although now I 've had sexual thoughts without disgust as I did in high school. However, I still kind of find the action odd. Link to post Share on other sites
ily Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 I was 20. Link to post Share on other sites
knout Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 20 or 21. You might want to check out the other topics on that particular matter : http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=41689 http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=36016 http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=34153 And those are not exactly the same but still aiming in the same direction : http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=40709 (That's basically the same as the other one but was aimed at older aces) And last but not least, if you've had the choice : http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=40236 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Nightfire Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I was about 16 or 17 when I asked myself why I had no desires to be romantically and sexually open. 18, I began to do my research and discovered that I'm asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
nope Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 14 hereee, i lacked any form of romantic or sexual attraction, did my hw and tadum, I am here Link to post Share on other sites
GarcianSmith Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 18-19 It's been the fast several months. Link to post Share on other sites
Luvdisc Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I've known my whole life ^_^ I learned and confirmed myself with the term a few years back. Beginning of high school I guess. I always used it kind of in an unsure way. Link to post Share on other sites
TheMelbourneMethod Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 16, 17... I'm not sure when it became a certainty and stopped being conjecture, to be honest. Considering all the crap I went through junior year, I'm more comfortable putting the number at 17.5. I discovered AVEN at 16, however, so whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
ZogJhones Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 around 13-14. Link to post Share on other sites
switchtocolours Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Around when I started highschool. I figured something was wrong with me when I realized I was the only one I knew who didn't care about sex, and wasn't sexually attracted too... err... anyone. I just considered myself 'nonsexual' or something for awhile until I found out about asexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
FallenAngel Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 4 months ago. i was, and still am, 16. Link to post Share on other sites
KayleeSaeihr Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 The day I found AVEN tbh... So 25? Before then I just thought of myself as an autistic that didn't like sex. I thought it was part of my autism...Probably is, but at least it has a name of it's own if it's not ;) Link to post Share on other sites
PiF Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Knew at 12 I didn't like need or want sex Found out at 44 what my reasoning was called Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 For the first 60 years I thought I was just weird; now I know I'm weird and asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
tribectia Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 i always knew i wasn't interested in sex, but i always thought that all girls were like that and that only guys were interested... i learned i was different from all my friends when i was 17 and one of my friends got pregnant, sadly had a miscarriage, and then got pregnant again b/c she wanted sex so badly that she didn't use contraception and some of my female friends said they could understand what she meant (and i couldn't). Link to post Share on other sites
stripe Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 still a bit unsure if I am, but the age I first realised I didn't want sex and didn't 'like' people was about 16. only a few weeks ago found out there was asexuality beyond the type of reproduction! I'm 18 now. Link to post Share on other sites
Matt Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 14 (ish) and 18. I set aside questioning what my sexuality was (or wasn't) the first time, and later on I had settled for the "I'm too busy and I want to avoid sex before marriage" reason. It didn't really sink in how much sexuals want sex at that point either. Link to post Share on other sites
tk218 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I was around the age of 11 years old it was so hard for me,because of my friends but it's ok now. Link to post Share on other sites
Beardless Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I realised my peers weren't still to grow up and be sexual when I left secondary school, 16. At that point I realised everyone in school-based dramas was younger than me. Link to post Share on other sites
nataliex Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 thanks everyone! I'm 17, and I thought it might be odd to think of myself as asexual if other people hadn't until later on! X Link to post Share on other sites
Zeeboe Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 26 - And this was just a few weeks ago when I discovered this. Link to post Share on other sites
Angelnoir Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 With 20 years when I discovered AVEN but that was because this forum here gave my situation a name....but basically, I first realised that I was different sexualitywise when I was 18 and fell in love and I talked about it with a friend of mine and she was like "what you do when he wants more?" and I was like "what? why?" And she was like "What's wrong with you? Did you have some kind of sexual trauma during your childhood?".. . I said "no" (since I didn't) and then she told me "that this is what a relationship happens to involve,too" and I didn't understand why and I just said "if you say so"..haha, :lol: I'll remember that day forever..... Though before.... with 15 years of age I played games with a guy and all my friends thought that I wanted to hit on him in a sexual way, and I felt embarassed 'cause that never ever met my mind, I only wanted to play some games like "who's the fastest runner" :lol: ...that was also another hint which made me think about myself very much. After this day when I was 18 years old, I somehow encountered such similar stances in music and literature which were my only comfort that I'm probably not alone until I found AVEN with 20 years..... Link to post Share on other sites
Glyn Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I've still got questions regarding if I am asexual (long story!) It was back in 2007 when I first heard the term, but didn't look into it properly. However, it wasn't until August 2008 that I REALLY started questioning, and then I found AVEN - and was totally blown away just how many people felt the same way as me. Short answer: I was 32 years old when I found AVEN and other Asexuals... I'm 33 now. Link to post Share on other sites
alienentity Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 I have felt like this from as young as I can remember. The thing is I thought I was "weird" especially when I was in my teens any my peers started getting interested in sex. But then I found this place a couple of years ago and stopped feeling weird! Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Probably in my early teens but ddin't know what thw word for it was until I was 22. Link to post Share on other sites
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