Why do i find the idea of sex disgusting?

[xscoutx]

Ah! I'm so glad to have found this thread. There were always certain aspects of sex that totally grossed me out but nowadays i find it all disgusting!! Cuddling is nice, but the rest makes me nauseous!

[Alexandria]

I really understand how you feel! I just feel like there's something "disgusting" about it...and I know I definitely don't want anyone touching me like that, ever. I agree that cuddling is nice, and even kissing...but making out, even that kinda grosses me out! I can tolerate it in a relationship, but I'd probably be really bad at it... X'D

[Rania]

I find the idea of sex okay but thought of ever doing it just grosses me out. Repulsive! I don't understand the drawcard, why sexuals will do the strangest of things, it just makes me go ewwww. The idea of it though in a loving relationship and the expression of love and affection doesn't seem so bad, yet in practice I can't fathom it. Never have, doubt I ever will!

[Phendrana]

I am 22 years old, female, I am considered; forgive me for being bigheaded, very good looking. I have not lacked in male attention since the age of 15, have no history of sexual abuse or anything even verging on the sort, yet somehow the very idea of sex makes me sick. I have only recently (a month or so ago) had sex for the first time. It was not any foolish ‘I am madly in love with him’ kinds of thing either. He’s a lovely guy that cares a great deal for me. Before this I have always had an adverse reaction to the idea of sex, never going beyond kissing and sleeping in the same bed as other guys. If things even hinted on going further I stopped them. Not through any belief that sex should be with ‘the one’ or anything, simply because I did not want to and that was that. I had hoped that once I found someone I would feel comfortable enough with to have sex, the aversion would go away. Unfortunately it’s still there. I find sex disgusting, the twelve year old ‘ewww that’s grouse’ kind of disgusting. I do not know how to handle it or how to solve it; in fact I don’t even know what is wrong with me to begin solving it. And the idea that I have had sex with my boyfriend makes me feel, forgive the cliché, dirty. Like what we did was wrong. But my family is not particularly religious; there are no beliefs in ‘no sex before marriage’ and no particularly strong opinions. My mother has a strong dislike of ‘easy’ women, but my mother being judgemental of ‘sluts’ cannot be enough for my to be like this, can it?

This is me almost exactly.

I'm 24 and female. I prefer to be modest as well, but in this case I must also say I am considered very good looking and all that follows socially. I don't think physical appearance is really related to any of this, it just makes you feel like you stand out more. I've never had sex, never wanted to, and find it very repulsive. Not just sex either. I dislike the idea of even just physical contact (when used in a sexual or relationship-type manner, including holding hands. I like friendly hugs though! ^_^). None of this was learned from anyone or anywhere - I'm atheist and was not raised with any religion nor was taught to be atheist, so no religious influence; my parents gave me the freedom to have any opinion I pleased on all topics. Also no history of abuse.

As for something being wrong with you or sex feeling wrong: do you want to have sex or do you feel like you just should? If it's the latter, I'd say don't put so much weight on something that other people think is right. Don't let other people dictate what you do. We all learned about peer pressure in school, this is just a grown up version! Do what makes you happy. If that means having sex, by all means. I can't offer any advice on how to make it more enjoyable, but there is nothing WRONG with you. You are who you are. [/end of sappy cliche advice]

[cthuvianace]

I agree with the person who said that the idea of sex is fine, but the thought of doing it is quite unpleasant. For me, I look at sex (and masturbation, but that's another story) the same way I look at things like maths.

Some people get it and really enjoy it, but I don't, and have no desire to, because for me, the pay-off isn't worth the trouble it takes to achieve it.

Sex isn't so much disgusting for me, but more of just off-putting because it's boring, and, in my opinion, a huge waste of time.

Cuddling is absolutely awesome though! :D

[Kurai-Tenshi_Niks]

I have the same feeling..the idea of putting a guy's most disgusting body part inside my most disgusting body part

seems wrong. I know it's natural, but I can't help but feel queasy over it..I don't want to be impaled :(

[Dee Calico]

The one and only time I had sex, I vomited during :S

It's just really disgusting, through and through. It feels disgusting and sounds disgusting and it makes you feel disgusting and it makes your partner so so so disgusting. Sex was sooo much different from what I was expecting! Everyone should keep their clothes on xD

[SpadeofAces]

I am 22 years old, female, I am considered; forgive me for being bigheaded, very good looking. I have not lacked in male attention since the age of 15, have no history of sexual abuse or anything even verging on the sort, yet somehow the very idea of sex makes me sick. I have only recently (a month or so ago) had sex for the first time. It was not any foolish ‘I am madly in love with him’ kinds of thing either. He’s a lovely guy that cares a great deal for me. Before this I have always had an adverse reaction to the idea of sex, never going beyond kissing and sleeping in the same bed as other guys. If things even hinted on going further I stopped them. Not through any belief that sex should be with ‘the one’ or anything, simply because I did not want to and that was that. I had hoped that once I found someone I would feel comfortable enough with to have sex, the aversion would go away. Unfortunately it’s still there. I find sex disgusting, the twelve year old ‘ewww that’s grouse’ kind of disgusting. I do not know how to handle it or how to solve it; in fact I don’t even know what is wrong with me to begin solving it. And the idea that I have had sex with my boyfriend makes me feel, forgive the cliché, dirty. Like what we did was wrong. But my family is not particularly religious; there are no beliefs in ‘no sex before marriage’ and no particularly strong opinions. My mother has a strong dislike of ‘easy’ women, but my mother being judgemental of ‘sluts’ cannot be enough for my to be like this, can it?

Welcome to Aceland baby!

No, all joking aside...I too find everything about sexual relations repulsive. Unless I am interested in bearing a child someday, I will not engage in such activity. And oral sex and all that? Absolutely unacceptable. That is filthy and it can only lead to pron addiction and eventual brain damage. Just look up Dr Lasha Darkmoon's research on pornography and brain damage. Everything sexually depraved is tied to all else depraved. And it just so turns out that excessive masturbation accompanied by porn addiciton does as much harm to the frontal lobes of the brain (frontal lobe atrophy) as heroin and meth.

Thank God I'm Ace. ^_^

[gallantpotato]

i do not find sexual relations repulsive but they do make me pretty uncomfy. i do not think oral sex can cause pron addiction but who knows.

[Member54880]

Nothing wrong with finding sex repulsive, but it's seriously elitist to think less of people for wanting sex. I'm not sex-positive, but I know that most people do not meet the fate you describe, but it is tragic when sex, drugs, or anything else overtakes a person's life. There are many factors that can cause any of those things to overtake someone's life, so it's very inaccurate to pin it all on that thing.

[Lia]

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