AVENguy Posted July 18, 2002 Share Posted July 18, 2002 Ok, so maybe I'm being a bit harsh on TLW today (see my post in the philosophy n' politics forum.) I'm eagerly open to debate and discussion on this topic if you disagree with my views, but I think this is a tad regoddanmdiculous (which is to say nihilistically antisexual. I apprecaite that these are, to some extent, legit problems that sexual people have to go through, but it seems like they're blown out of proportion here..) Blue text is my comments When I signed my True Love Waits card, I thought, "How difficult could this really be?" That was 2 years ago when I was 14. Now that I have a girlfriend, I have since realized that it's not so easy to stick with my commitment. Can you give me any tips about how to avoid temptation and make the right decisions about sexual activity? Help! Jackson Dear Jackson, Stu: I know where you are coming from, man! The abstinence road isn't an easy one. No, no it's not.Along with all the sexual temptation out there comes the ridicule from other guys. Sometimes you may think you can't handle it. Jillian: But don't give up! One thing that will help you with temptation is to set some boundaries in your relationships. Stu: Yeah. Imagine playing a football game with no boundaries or rules or referees. It would be a total disaster! That's why boundaries are important with girls too. Silly Stu, everyone knows that girls don't play football... Jillian: Stu, does it ever end with you and the sports analogies? Anyway Jackson, make your list of boundaries and then share them with your girlfriend. If she has any to add, then that's great!'Cuz boundaries fucking rule. One boundary might be to agree not to be alone in a house together. It's always smart to have someone else close by to keep you both accountable.Unless of course you're the CEO of a major coporation or the departement of Homeland Security... Stu: Like a referee!My god. Jillian: Sure Stu, like a referee. Another good boundary is not to lie down together on the floor, couch, bed-anywhere!In fact, just to be safe don't lie down at all.color] Stu: It may seem a little strange talking to your girlfriend about this type of stuff, but it is worth it."Now I know it's weird to discuss sexuality, us being in a sexual relationship and all.." These guidelines will help to keep you away from tempting situations. Jillian: One boundary could be that you pray before each time you will be with your girlfriend. God'll clean that heterosexuality right up...Starting out with God as your focus will get you on the right track. Stu: Another good boundary to have is to avoid prolonged kissing. Sound familiar?Sexual acts are progressive,Like prison reform meaning one leads to another. Kissing leads you to desire to do something more. Your body will want to go onto the next step. Jillian: God designed us that wayyes, yes he did, but He meant for these progressive sexual acts to be kept within marriage. ...like we keep hockey on an ice rink? Stu: Jackson, you also would be wise to set up some personal boundaries. Guys need to set boundaries on what we look at and talk about. Keeping your mind pure ...thinking only what I tell you... is a crucial step toward sexual purity. Don't fill your mind with pornographic images from the Internet, magazines, or television. Avoiding the "guy talk" about sex will also help keep your mind away from thoughts and images that lead to temptation. Guys, don't talk to each other, it could lead to sex. It's like lying down. Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted July 18, 2002 Author Share Posted July 18, 2002 Ok, sorry. That didn't work so well. Highlight the text to read my comments... Link to post Share on other sites
nemesis Posted July 18, 2002 Share Posted July 18, 2002 LOL! Some of your comments were really funny. "Now I know it's weird to discuss sexuality, us being in a sexual relationship and all.." "God'll clean that heterosexuality right up..." "Guys, don't talk to each other, it could lead to sex. It's like lying down." Their advice seems a bit extreme. It's like assuming that this guy has no self control at all. Nor does his girlfriend. I could be mistaken because I don't actually need the self control, but seriously, is it that difficult to avoid having sex?? That they can't look at it, talk about it, think about it, that they need a chaperone? Link to post Share on other sites
quarridors Posted July 19, 2002 Share Posted July 19, 2002 Just another one of those things that makes me feel like I'm a space alien. The idea that you need a pep talk and a large amount of prayer to keep your powers of resistance strong. I don't understand religion or sexuality and when I try to think about both in combination I come up with worrying thoughts that would probably offend half of everyone... Link to post Share on other sites
nemesis Posted July 19, 2002 Share Posted July 19, 2002 Unlikely. I actually love to hear what people think of religion and any relationship you find between religion and sexuality would be interesting to hear about. Even if I don't agree I wouldn't be offended, though I can't speak for everyone else who is here. Link to post Share on other sites
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