Incredibly Ace Moments

[Sockstealingnome]

In middle school this one gel wouldn't stop bothering me about who my crush was and she didn't believe me when I said I didn't really like anyone. She told me to just choose someone, so I said this one boy who went to my church and some other girls thought were cute. A year later, one of her other friends asked me if I still liked him and I was totally baffled because I had never been physically attracted to him in the first place

Is gel a new slang word I don't know?

[peanut-butter-cloud]

I remember in middle school, someone asked me who I liked, and I kind of floundered around for a minute and picked the first guy who came to mind, who happened to be a friend of mine who I spent lunches with, teaching him English. :p It's such an awkward question.

[Wolfjackle]

In middle school this one gel wouldn't stop bothering me about who my crush was and she didn't believe me when I said I didn't really like anyone. She told me to just choose someone, so I said this one boy who went to my church and some other girls thought were cute. A year later, one of her other friends asked me if I still liked him and I was totally baffled because I had never been physically attracted to him in the first place

Is gel a new slang word I don't know?

Don't think it's new, just a slang for girl in some dialects. No odder than gal, when you think of it!

[Hobbes!]

Pronounced with a hard "g", if that helps. g-el, rather than j-el

[CarCar123]

I always understand dirty jokes and stuff. Occasionally not but that's because I'm blonde haha. But generally I don't bring up the sexual references because my mind isn't "in the gutter." And if someone says something that could be taken sexually, I mostly don't think of it until someone says it.

I used to not know when people were flirting with me. My friends would just say, "OMG! That guy liked you. He was flirting!" And I was like, "no he was just being friendly." So I observed a lot and now I can tell when people are flirting or just being nice usually. I just don't like to assume the wrong thing.

[5_♦♣]

In middle school this one gel wouldn't stop bothering me about who my crush was and she didn't believe me when I said I didn't really like anyone. She told me to just choose someone, so I said this one boy who went to my church and some other girls thought were cute. A year later, one of her other friends asked me if I still liked him and I was totally baffled because I had never been physically attracted to him in the first place

Is gel a new slang word I don't know?

It's probably a typo.

[Mycroft is Yourcroft]

Non-lib moment rather than an ace moment, but:

I was watching the final episode of Cardcaptor Sakura (a kid's anime that I love) on the telly while the family I live with was out (I'd decided not to go because I wanted to watch in peace :P ), and I was just putting it away, turning the tv off, when the mother came home. She must've glimpsed me messing around with it because when she came into the room she said "Ooh what were you doing in there that you didn't want me to see?". I being clueless as usual said, laughing rather self-deprecatingly that I was finishing my kiddie TV show :P

She looked as though she didn't believe me and said "We're invited to dinner, but I suppose you'd rather stay here...?". It was around that point that I realised what she thought I'd been doing all that time, and I hastened to say that of course I'd come O.O

Watching kid's shows rather than masturbating with porn when your family is out. #NonLibMoments

[mikbuster]

Non-lib moment rather than an ace moment, but:

I was watching the final episode of Cardcaptor Sakura (a kid's anime that I love) on the telly while the family I live with was out (I'd decided not to go because I wanted to watch in peace :P ), and I was just putting it away, turning the tv off, when the mother came home. She must've glimpsed me messing around with it because when she came into the room she said "Ooh what were you doing in there that you didn't want me to see?". I being clueless as usual said, laughing rather self-deprecatingly that I was finishing my kiddie TV show :P

She looked as though she didn't believe me and said "We're invited to dinner, but I suppose you'd rather stay here...?". It was around that point that I realised what she thought I'd been doing all that time, and I hastened to say that of course I'd come O.O

Watching kid's shows rather than masturbating with porn when your family is out. #NonLibMoments

You may want to avoid the word "come" when she already assumes you were "cumming" :lol:

[sound_the_bugle]

I, feeling like my really very inactive libido has been made more active within the first few days of taking birth control, google "birth control libido spike." All I found were things about birth control killing libido and one question asking if there's a birth control out there that increases it.

I wanted it to stop... and to know if there was a way to get rid of it... because honestly, my libido is a major annoyance and the only person who might possibly appreciate my having a more active libido lives across the country, so it does no one any good and just provides more irritation.

[Maelstrom_17]

My favorite is when people wonder why I'm not gasping in amazement when a guy with their shirt off walks up. (especially if they have abs) I never understood what kind of fascination straight girls (and possibly gay guys) have with them.. I do know that straight girls think that it makes men strong and able to protect them.. although I know that if one focuses too much on their abs one can't actually develop the strength to beat someone up.

[Fate Amenable To Change]

Hm, I can think of a few.

1. When I was 14, I used to play pretend with my brother (then 12) a lot. We'd paint something on cardboard, and pretend it was the real thing. One day, I'd 'created' a Gameboy that way. Of course, it wasn't an actual Gameboy, so I needed a different name. I figured "Playboy" would be a good one.

My little brother looked extremely awkward and had to explain to me why that wasn't appropriate. And when I say explained, I mean he said it was a 'dirty magazine' and I totally didn't get what he was talking about. I must admit that I only realized what it meant when I was 18 or so.

2. My final year in high school (I was 18), we had some sort of biology class about reproductive health. I had to ask what masturbation was. Although I'd vaguely heard of it before, I had absolutely no idea what it was in practice, and figured that was something I should maybe know.

[peanut-butter-cloud]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

[miauw]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

Huh. I remember a friend of mine once breaking down completely in front of me, because she hadn't had any in a year or so. Her self esteem was in pieces as a consequence and she was a nervous wreck. I tried really hard to be sympathetic, all the while wondering what the big deal is, trying to remember if it was two or three years (or who knows, maybe more) since I had had sex last and struggling with the idea that I was apparently supposed to have a problem with that. I guess being ace has its advantages, even if it doesn't make me a good and understanding friend to loved ones experiencing sexual frustration. If she had said a week I probably wouldn't have been able to stop myself from laughing.

[littlepersonparadox]

First off your not the only who closes there door to watch kiddie cartoons. Ok so my most recent ace moment. I'm kissing a guy I am kinda comfortable with and he reaches around me and I feel my shirt to up a little bit. My first thought was yay scratchback! As in someone literally an I mean the proper definition of literally scratching my back. And then he turned his hand south and I was disappointed due to lack of scratch back goodness. He did stop and asked what I wanted before he went to far and he gave me the scratchback then. Plus he let me just do nothing but hug him and fall asleep :)

[Sarcastic Bob]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

Huh. I remember a friend of mine once breaking down completely in front of me, because she hadn't had any in a year or so. Her self esteem was in pieces as a consequence and she was a nervous wreck. I tried really hard to be sympathetic, all the while wondering what the big deal is, trying to remember if it was two or three years (or who knows, maybe more) since I had had sex last and struggling with the idea that I was apparently supposed to have a problem with that. I guess being ace has its advantages, even if it doesn't make me a good and understanding friend to loved ones experiencing sexual frustration. If she had said a week I probably wouldn't have been able to stop myself from laughing.

To be honest I'm with you here. I mean, I can understand being a bit irritated, but actually breaking down? Either people are a lot more sex crazed than I thought they were, or she's got some genuine issues she needs to sort out.

[tarutaru]

Non-lib moment rather than an ace moment, but:

I was watching the final episode of Cardcaptor Sakura (a kid's anime that I love) on the telly while the family I live with was out (I'd decided not to go because I wanted to watch in peace :P ), and I was just putting it away, turning the tv off, when the mother came home. She must've glimpsed me messing around with it because when she came into the room she said "Ooh what were you doing in there that you didn't want me to see?". I being clueless as usual said, laughing rather self-deprecatingly that I was finishing my kiddie TV show :P

She looked as though she didn't believe me and said "We're invited to dinner, but I suppose you'd rather stay here...?". It was around that point that I realised what she thought I'd been doing all that time, and I hastened to say that of course I'd come O.O

Watching kid's shows rather than masturbating with porn when your family is out. #NonLibMoments

I love that anime/manga too, but I'm a bit embarassed to admit it. I'd probably do the same thing. O.o

[SDBookFan]

I was playing Cards Against Humanity with my friends. That all know I'm ace, and will explain the not so bad stuff, and let me know when to avoid looking up a term. Anyway,, the card comes us as 'Who would you bang?' I was a little annoyed, but then I realized I had a blank card, so I wrote "No one, gross! Why would you ask that?" My friends all knew it was me, and thought it was hilarious. They immediately started urging the Card Czar to pick my card.

[Honey_Badger]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

Huh. I remember a friend of mine once breaking down completely in front of me, because she hadn't had any in a year or so. Her self esteem was in pieces as a consequence and she was a nervous wreck. I tried really hard to be sympathetic, all the while wondering what the big deal is, trying to remember if it was two or three years (or who knows, maybe more) since I had had sex last and struggling with the idea that I was apparently supposed to have a problem with that. I guess being ace has its advantages, even if it doesn't make me a good and understanding friend to loved ones experiencing sexual frustration. If she had said a week I probably wouldn't have been able to stop myself from laughing.

To be honest I'm with you here. I mean, I can understand being a bit irritated, but actually breaking down? Either people are a lot more sex crazed than I thought they were, or she's got some genuine issues she needs to sort out.

Well, given how sexualized women's self worth is in today's society, she probably felt that the reason behind her not having sex in that long had something to do with all the people around her not seeing her as attractive, valuable, or lovable, and that is likely the actual problem and cause of the breakdown. (Not that I know anything about this person, but in general when people see having sex as a marker of their self worth, you can get problems like this without the actual lack of sex making them break down.)

[Wokgran X]

Non-lib moment rather than an ace moment, but:

I was watching the final episode of Cardcaptor Sakura (a kid's anime that I love) on the telly while the family I live with was out (I'd decided not to go because I wanted to watch in peace :P ), and I was just putting it away, turning the tv off, when the mother came home. She must've glimpsed me messing around with it because when she came into the room she said "Ooh what were you doing in there that you didn't want me to see?". I being clueless as usual said, laughing rather self-deprecatingly that I was finishing my kiddie TV show :P

She looked as though she didn't believe me and said "We're invited to dinner, but I suppose you'd rather stay here...?". It was around that point that I realised what she thought I'd been doing all that time, and I hastened to say that of course I'd come O.O

Watching kid's shows rather than masturbating with porn when your family is out. #NonLibMoments

I love that anime/manga too, but I'm a bit embarassed to admit it. I'd probably do the same thing. O.o

I like anime/manga too, but.... I find myself having to stop the episode and minimize very often, since there are indeed some sexy/fanservice parts in some of them and most of what i watch is filled with blood/gore scenes that would freak people out.

It's complicated indeed. It would be even more complicated to explain how i'm watching those for the gore and not for the fanservice.

(Some anime examples [Trigger warning: Search them at your own risk, they might be too extreme for some people]: Elfen lied, Black Lagoon, Gokukoku no Brynhildr, Akuma no Riddle, Zetman, Another, Higurashi, Umineko, Fullmetal Alchemist and the list goes on and on... )

[Mauve]

When I come across sentences like these: "I love you as a woman loves a man" OR "I love you as a man loves a woman"

What does that even mean - "how a man loves a woman"?! I didn't get this for the LONGEST time and then it finally hit me...

:o Oh.

My bad

[Fate Amenable To Change]

Realizing how pathetic it was that I didn't understand the joke here until reading comments:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=295791500586692&set=a.227466304085879.1073741828.227465474085962&type=1&theater

What's the joke? I don't get it.

It means he has a very, very tiny dick.

Quoting from more than a week ago, but... do most sexual people actually get this joke? I kind of 'got it' because I'm currently browsing this thread, but if I'd seen it in any other situation I'd probably just wonder for a bit about the biology of why one hand works better than the other. I mean... the only way I can see people always getting jokes like this is if sex is somehow always somewhere in the back of their mind.

[Zash]

Realizing how pathetic it was that I didn't understand the joke here until reading comments:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=295791500586692&set=a.227466304085879.1073741828.227465474085962&type=1&theater

What's the joke? I don't get it.

It means he has a very, very tiny dick.

Quoting from more than a week ago, but... do most sexual people actually get this joke? I kind of 'got it' because I'm currently browsing this thread, but if I'd seen it in any other situation I'd probably just wonder for a bit about the biology of why one hand works better than the other. I mean... the only way I can see people always getting jokes like this is if sex is somehow always somewhere in the back of their mind.

I think that was a broken link, the poster came back later and posted the proper link.

[miauw]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

Huh. I remember a friend of mine once breaking down completely in front of me, because she hadn't had any in a year or so. Her self esteem was in pieces as a consequence and she was a nervous wreck. I tried really hard to be sympathetic, all the while wondering what the big deal is, trying to remember if it was two or three years (or who knows, maybe more) since I had had sex last and struggling with the idea that I was apparently supposed to have a problem with that. I guess being ace has its advantages, even if it doesn't make me a good and understanding friend to loved ones experiencing sexual frustration. If she had said a week I probably wouldn't have been able to stop myself from laughing.

To be honest I'm with you here. I mean, I can understand being a bit irritated, but actually breaking down? Either people are a lot more sex crazed than I thought they were, or she's got some genuine issues she needs to sort out.

Well, given how sexualized women's self worth is in today's society, she probably felt that the reason behind her not having sex in that long had something to do with all the people around her not seeing her as attractive, valuable, or lovable, and that is likely the actual problem and cause of the breakdown. (Not that I know anything about this person, but in general when people see having sex as a marker of their self worth, you can get problems like this without the actual lack of sex making them break down.)

I think it was a combination of crippling self worth issues and genuine sexual frustration, one leading to the other in a vicious cycle. She thought herself fat and ugly (which she was definitely not in my opinion) and was apparently very sexual, so she did indeed miss having sex. I can't empathize with either of her issues - I don't care about sex at all and the idea of basing my self esteem upon whether or not other people find me sexually attractive or their opinion of me in general, is completely mind-boggling to me. I can never understand the extent to which people let sex or the lack of it rule (or ruin) their lives...

[sound_the_bugle]

Realizing how pathetic it was that I didn't understand the joke here until reading comments:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=295791500586692&set=a.227466304085879.1073741828.227465474085962&type=1&theater

What's the joke? I don't get it.

It means he has a very, very tiny dick.

Quoting from more than a week ago, but... do most sexual people actually get this joke? I kind of 'got it' because I'm currently browsing this thread, but if I'd seen it in any other situation I'd probably just wonder for a bit about the biology of why one hand works better than the other. I mean... the only way I can see people always getting jokes like this is if sex is somehow always somewhere in the back of their mind.

Yep! Just like Zash said, that's a broken link. The correct one is further up the page, and if you look at the correct one, it makes sense. (Here, I'll post it again... this link is going to be everywhere on this thread...)

[Fate Amenable To Change]

Yep! Just like Zash said, that's a broken link. The correct one is further up the page, and if you look at the correct one, it makes sense. (Here, I'll post it again... this link is going to be everywhere on this thread...)

Ah, that explains it. It's just childish instead of impossible to get, then. :P

[littlepersonparadox]

I still don't get the joke from the posts.

[Maelstrom_17]

Realizing how pathetic it was that I didn't understand the joke here until reading comments:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=295791500586692&set=a.227466304085879.1073741828.227465474085962&type=1&theater

What's the joke? I don't get it.

It means he has a very, very tiny dick.

Quoting from more than a week ago, but... do most sexual people actually get this joke? I kind of 'got it' because I'm currently browsing this thread, but if I'd seen it in any other situation I'd probably just wonder for a bit about the biology of why one hand works better than the other. I mean... the only way I can see people always getting jokes like this is if sex is somehow always somewhere in the back of their mind.

Accurately explains the majority of the population of people. Most people do have sex in the back of their mind very, very often. Both men and women.

[Honey_Badger]

I was just watching TV, and one of the characters was complaining that he hadn't had sex in a week. Oh my god, the horror!!!! Is a week seriously that bad? Is a week seriously a long time to go without sex for normal people? I just couldn't help rolling my eyes.

Huh. I remember a friend of mine once breaking down completely in front of me, because she hadn't had any in a year or so. Her self esteem was in pieces as a consequence and she was a nervous wreck. I tried really hard to be sympathetic, all the while wondering what the big deal is, trying to remember if it was two or three years (or who knows, maybe more) since I had had sex last and struggling with the idea that I was apparently supposed to have a problem with that. I guess being ace has its advantages, even if it doesn't make me a good and understanding friend to loved ones experiencing sexual frustration. If she had said a week I probably wouldn't have been able to stop myself from laughing.

To be honest I'm with you here. I mean, I can understand being a bit irritated, but actually breaking down? Either people are a lot more sex crazed than I thought they were, or she's got some genuine issues she needs to sort out.

Well, given how sexualized women's self worth is in today's society, she probably felt that the reason behind her not having sex in that long had something to do with all the people around her not seeing her as attractive, valuable, or lovable, and that is likely the actual problem and cause of the breakdown. (Not that I know anything about this person, but in general when people see having sex as a marker of their self worth, you can get problems like this without the actual lack of sex making them break down.)

I think it was a combination of crippling self worth issues and genuine sexual frustration, one leading to the other in a vicious cycle. She thought herself fat and ugly (which she was definitely not in my opinion) and was apparently very sexual, so she did indeed miss having sex. I can't empathize with either of her issues - I don't care about sex at all and the idea of basing my self esteem upon whether or not other people find me sexually attractive or their opinion of me in general, is completely mind-boggling to me. I can never understand the extent to which people let sex or the lack of it rule (or ruin) their lives...

Well, I can get the "self-esteem crippled by society," thing, because I've taken some psychology and attended a high school full of girls (and guys, but society has is out to get women's self-worth) who had problems with both thinking they didn't look good enough to be liked or respected, or with self-esteem because of what other people said about their looks, as well as their intellect, fashion sense, and everything else under the sun.

Personally, I try not to let other people bother me, because I've been down that road of hating myself because of what people say, and that was honestly the bulk of my teenage years. I had to leave town, most of the people I knew, and have a mental breakdown before I stopped giving a shit what people thought of me, though. I don't know if it's generally easier for guys to get out of that spiral of judgement because they don't have the same expectations burying them, or if 90% of my struggling was PTSD having a tea party in my brain, though.

[miauw]

Personally, I try not to let other people bother me, because I've been down that road of hating myself because of what people say, and that was honestly the bulk of my teenage years. I had to leave town, most of the people I knew, and have a mental breakdown before I stopped giving a shit what people thought of me, though. I don't know if it's generally easier for guys to get out of that spiral of judgement because they don't have the same expectations burying them, or if 90% of my struggling was PTSD having a tea party in my brain, though.

This sounds like a horrible experience. And, well, I guess it makes me a complete bitch for being unable to understand other peoples' self esteem problems, stemming from the perception of the people surrounding them. I always built and maintained my sense of self worth on my own, never needing any validation from others (i.e. to be told that I am pretty or smart or sexy or whatever) and never really caring if someone didn't like me because they saw me as unattractive or unlikeable or anything. I have at certain points struggled with low self esteem and severe bouts of depression, but it was because I couldn't meet my own expectations of myself (I tend to expect a constant 110% of myself, unhealthy as this is), never because of others, except for a few chosen family members who instilled the aforementioned high expectations in me.

I have never struggled with thoughts of being seen as unattractive, ugly or fat (being way too thin is another thing though...). I assumed I was that way because I never really wanted or cared if people found me (sexually) attractive - it wasn't important to me how people saw my looks, since I never cared one bit about how others look. It translated into not being bothered by what people think of me. But maybe it is just the way I am and not really rooted in me being ace.

Food for thought for me.

[sound_the_bugle]

Personally, I try not to let other people bother me, because I've been down that road of hating myself because of what people say, and that was honestly the bulk of my teenage years. I had to leave town, most of the people I knew, and have a mental breakdown before I stopped giving a shit what people thought of me, though. I don't know if it's generally easier for guys to get out of that spiral of judgement because they don't have the same expectations burying them, or if 90% of my struggling was PTSD having a tea party in my brain, though.

This sounds like a horrible experience. And, well, I guess it makes me a complete bitch for being unable to understand other peoples' self esteem problems, stemming from the perception of the people surrounding them. I always built and maintained my sense of self worth on my own, never needing any validation from others (i.e. to be told that I am pretty or smart or sexy or whatever) and never really caring if someone didn't like me because they saw me as unattractive or unlikeable or anything. I have at certain points struggled with low self esteem and severe bouts of depression, but it was because I couldn't meet my own expectations of myself (I tend to expect a constant 110% of myself, unhealthy as this is), never because of others, except for a few chosen family members who instilled the aforementioned high expectations in me.

I have never struggled with thoughts of being seen as unattractive, ugly or fat (being way too thin is another thing though...). I assumed I was that way because I never really wanted or cared if people found me (sexually) attractive - it wasn't important to me how people saw my looks, since I never cared one bit about how others look. It translated into not being bothered by what people think of me. But maybe it is just the way I am and not really rooted in me being ace.

Food for thought for me.

I'm much the same as you, miau. The only people whose opinions of me ever mattered to me were close friends or certain family members. And they never had the super high expectations for me that I had for myself.