zusima Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 I never felt it before I've began my yoga practice several years ago. Now I'm completely asexual. I like people but I stopped feeling any sexual arousal. Only sometimes I want a touch. Have anybody experienced anything like this? Or most of the people here are asexuals from the very beginning? Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Most here will tell you they were born that way. Asexuals can feel sexual arousal. Some do, some don't. They just don't act on with other people. Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Ubder that we have a huge variety of asexuals. Link to post Share on other sites
Amcan Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Moving to asexual Q&A Amcan admin Link to post Share on other sites
Guest kos Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 Zusima, there is an important environmental element in my case of asexuality. As it is rather complicated, i would not go into detail; i don't feel like it, to put it simply; i find myself quite detached from the importance of any single thing. Everything blend with each other into an infinite, interlaced fabric. I admire the decorations, i sense the textures, i'm amused by the fabric's web of threads. Link to post Share on other sites
carried in bags Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 i didnt realise until i was sexualy active - then it took a few years to become aware of it and know what it was about Link to post Share on other sites
Luvdisc Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 If an asexual can become sexual, I don't see why a sexual couldn't become asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
Kallan Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 I absolutely believe you can become asexual. Everything in the body is effected by the mind. In this sense sexuality, like all instincts, can be viewed as a mental construct. If this construct were to be eliminated or re-engineered it would certainly be possible. Biology, of course, has an effect on this but it is not all. If I wanted to I could become hetero/homo/bi-sexual. This would be more difficult for me than for some others because I would also have to redesign my entire ethical and spiritual systems, being as both of those currently push me towards asexuality. I certainly have no desire to do that. But yes it is absolutely possible, though uncommon, and difficult to do deliberately. Link to post Share on other sites
Forensic Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I do not believe I could force myself to be homo-hetero-bi-pan sexual anymore than someone could force themselves to become ace. ... what did the yoga have to do with it, might I ask? Link to post Share on other sites
Luvdisc Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I do not believe I could force myself to be homo-hetero-bi-pan sexual anymore than someone could force themselves to become ace. Oh, I thought they meant whether you could become asexual [out of your control]. Like in the way that as an asexual might find themselves becoming sexual even though they never wanted to. Link to post Share on other sites
you*hear*but*do*you*listen Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Hm...I don't know exactly what causes sexual attraction besides the fact that hormones play a large part in it. It's not an area of biology I've really explored. I have this crazy idea that people who experience mild attractions during puberty might become ace after their hormones calm down, but that doesn't appear to be the case here. Of course, there's also often an emotional component to sexual attraction, and that might be changeable, but it would probably involve some kind of dramatic personality change. But I'm just speculating wildly. I don't actually know. Link to post Share on other sites
cijay Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I do not believe I could force myself to be homo-hetero-bi-pan sexual anymore than someone could force themselves to become ace. Oh, I thought they meant whether you could become asexual [out of your control]. Like in the way that as an asexual might find themselves becoming sexual even though they never wanted to. I thought that, too. I don't see that they were asking if they can force themself or will themself to be asexual, more like can it 'morph'. I would say that anything is possible. I can't imagine all of a sudden not experiencing sexual attraction but then people who DO experience it can't imagine NEVER having experienced it. Link to post Share on other sites
Nervs Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I never felt it before I've began my yoga practice several years ago. Now I'm completely asexual. I like people but I stopped feeling any sexual arousal. Only sometimes I want a touch. Have anybody experienced anything like this? Or most of the people here are asexuals from the very beginning? This is the way I have become, I used to be turned on by everything now I'm turned on by nothing. I will spend a lifetime trying to figure out the problem if I have to; although some will say its not really a problem and I tend to agree But I still just want a touch. Link to post Share on other sites
Maxx1128 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 I thought I was sexual until two months ago when I found AVEN, since I always thought about sexual stuff differently than others. Now I identify as an asexual, but in the Gray-A area. I feel sexual attraction sometimes, but I never really feel the need to act on it. If I never have sex, I honestly won't care, since sex is pretty relative to me. Link to post Share on other sites
emmamurphy Posted November 17, 2008 Share Posted November 17, 2008 I'd have to agree that it's possible to become asexual due to the emotional aspects of a sexual relationship. I haven't been involved in a sexual relationship for nearly 7 years now, and to be honest, I believe that my desire to be in one has completely disappeared. The last two relationships I was in ended badly - I won't say I was a 'victim' in any way, but both were pretty emotionally devastating. I'm happy and strong now, but do get lonely from time to time, and can definitely relate to wanting a 'touch' now and then. When a coworker puts an arm around me, I realize just how long it's been since I have even had a good HUG. That's what I miss/want again someday - a closeness with someone, to know someone intimately, to share daily life/decisions/dreams. I desire affection, but could really care less if I ever have sex again. Link to post Share on other sites
Kurai-Tenshi_Niks Posted November 17, 2008 Share Posted November 17, 2008 Yeah, you probably can, i don't see why you couldn't. However, i think that most sexual orientations are inherited from birth.. Link to post Share on other sites
Peach Posted November 17, 2008 Share Posted November 17, 2008 Perhaps... I don't know. Personally I didn't become, I realised. Link to post Share on other sites
metalgirl2045 Posted November 17, 2008 Share Posted November 17, 2008 Some people have said they've become asexual due to medication. Link to post Share on other sites
ProdeFemme Posted November 17, 2008 Share Posted November 17, 2008 Yea, while I don't think sexuals have to tread lightly in fear of waking up ace, I do think it's entirely possible from various factors, I know a couple of older females who have experienced such a decrease in libido they now consider themselves ace. So I think it could happen, sure. Link to post Share on other sites
divinityadieu Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I would think so. I've always been healthy in "those" departments (I feel obligated to not call it sexuality since I'm a minor O.O, it would just sound weird) until last year. My views and I myself changed, and I felt a lack of it. I thought I was just an overly-independent person, which I am. But then I didn't feel like dating anyone, even if I liked them, and I still feel that. Link to post Share on other sites
PROFESSORMEOWINGTONS Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 the literal answer is YES removal of testacles or ovares will stop your body from creating sexual chemicals although this requires surgery i dont even think its legal. However i dont think there is any other true way to do it other than it being congenital Link to post Share on other sites
Mostly Peaceful Ryan Posted November 19, 2012 Share Posted November 19, 2012 This thread hasn't been active for a long time and is now being locked to avoid thread necromancy. if anyone would like to discuss this topic further, feel free to start a new thread about it. GIR, Asexual Q&A moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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