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SorryNotSorry

Meh... I'd still rather hold out for another year or two. By then I'll finally be able to order my custom-built lovebot and never have to bother with the real thing ever again.

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Squirrel Combat

Some people on these dating sites are sneaky about their relationship statuses. I chatted with one girl for quite a while on a site, and even moved it to here; eventually it petered out and I moved on, but then one day, just on a whim, I looked her up on Facebook and discovered she was married already! I mean her reaction to certain things kind of sort of a little bit pointed to that, I guess--easy to see after the matter--but I was still bewildered.

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Squirrel Combat

A short lesson in history:

Before online dating, there was always the "cold approach", but there were also printed personals, and for those who could afford them, professional matchmakers. All involved some opportunity for crooks and scams.

Sometime between the late 1900s and early 2000s, printed personals faded away while online dating got huge, but it had one fatal flaw: there were roughly ten men to every one woman, because over 90% of women were still thinking like Sleeping Beauty ("use your ESP to seek me out, guys"), but many men were having a field day by catfishing other men---posting fake female profiles, dealing in stolen photos of women, etc etc. One model in Florida (who BTW was married and had a kid) found out her photos had been stolen and used to create over 200 fake online dating profiles.

Finally around 2013, some men decided they had enough. They completely lost interest in meeting women, and a good many lost all trust in women as well. To some on the outside, it looked like a strike, but at that time it hadn't yet become so serious that the rest of us couldn't laugh at it. That began to happen in late 2014.

Now if you check the online dating sites, membership has gone from about 90% male to 90% female. Even the recent shift of "serious" partner-seekers from online dating to meetup groups might not be enough to restore men's ruined trust in the system. For many men, burn us once, and you're history.

Incidentally, I don't apologize for the Sleeping Beauty reference, because it is what it is.

You know something, I'm perfectly okay with that 90-10 ratio. ;)

Sorry, I know that's not helpful...

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WhenSummersGone

Officially done with OkCupid. I know I've said it before but I don't see it getting any better. I can be rejected by some or end up talking to guys who just want sex. Also I find a lot of guys have stopped using the site. So I'm just going to try groups from now on and Match.

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Officially done with OkCupid. I know I've said it before but I don't see it getting any better. I can be rejected by some or end up talking to guys who just want sex. Also I find a lot of guys have stopped using the site. So I'm just going to try groups from now on and Match.

My friend who uses OKC deletes her account and creates a new one every few months because of their algorithm. She said it starts showing her guys she's not interested in because they're the ones looking at her. So creating a new account shows her new people. Sadly, it doesn't do anything about them being sex driven.

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I guess some people can't learn about hornets without getting stung by 'em. :rolleyes:

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InsideTheTombs

I've only had one good/neutral experience meeting an asexual girl off of okc. I've pretty much given up on it myself. I noticed a lot of women have asexual listed in their orientation next to pan, Demi, or other variations which is fine. But then most-if not all of them are very sexually active and aggressive.

Most straight up lie to me, and say they understand and they're cool with it. In the end, all they want is sex. I was close to being molested at one point.

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Do some of you made the experience being contacted by people who are in your opinion too old for you?

I was contacted twice and each time the guy was 13 years older than me. I thought this is a common problem on sexual dating sites.

Maybe I was naive.

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InsideTheTombs

I've only had one good/neutral experience meeting an asexual girl off of okc. I've pretty much given up on it myself. I noticed a lot of women have asexual listed in their orientation next to pan, Demi, or other variations which is fine. But then most-if not all of them are very sexually active and aggressive.

Most straight up lie to me, and say they understand and they're cool with it. In the end, all they want is sex. I was close to being molested at one point.

I just recently did a YouTube video on Asexual Scammers - people who are not really ace, pretending to be.
I'll have to check out your video.

I'm not exactly surprised at the idea of a "scammer". But it leaves me confused, that's for sure.

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geekyartistlady

A guy that I went on a date with from PoF called me a "waste of time" because he paid for dinner (upon him insisting over and over) and I didn't do my "first date duty" of going home with him. Unpleasant experiences like that will make me appreciate the connection with my asexual partner/husband in the future even more, but man, people like that stink.

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