The Heartless Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 Have sex, dont have sex... just do what you are comfortable with but you can count me out, I dont want any of it. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Karret Posted January 21, 2015 Share Posted January 21, 2015 Man, so long as everyone is of age, consenting and being safe, then they can go do whatever with whomever... just leave me out of it plzkthxbai. X'D Let me in on the sexual jokes, though. Those can be quite amusing. A wA 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
theam Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 From the sex I've had I'd say that I do mind having it. It wasn't a terrible experience, just meh and I'd rather not. However I've never been made love to, if that makes sense. And I'm a little curious about it. Even though I'm a little scared dysphoria issues might become a problem if I ever do decide to give that a go. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gryphon Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 The idea of expecting a sexual being not to have sex is downright oppressive. I myself don't find sex repulsive. It's just too much trouble for me to want to bother with. And I'm not fond of the emotional roller coaster it seems to cause with most people. But if they want to do it, I don't have a problem with that. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
That asexual guy Posted January 29, 2015 Share Posted January 29, 2015 I've had sex. It's no big deal. If I ever met anyone who wanted to have sex and if I really, really liked them I'm sure I would do it again. It's just not a driving force for me. I don't seek it out. It's not something I intentionally look for. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
franticfuzzbutt Posted January 31, 2015 Share Posted January 31, 2015 I've had sex. It's no big deal. If I ever met anyone who wanted to have sex and if I really, really liked them I'm sure I would do it again. It's just not a driving force for me. I don't seek it out. It's not something I intentionally look for. Seconded. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PatheticGirl Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 I can't put my mind to sex. I'm yet to experience a truly committed and love oriented relationship. After that only I would know if I'm sex repulsed or I can be okay with sex with someone whom I love and who loves me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WintersWhite Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 Nobody ever bothered me about what I do in my bedroom, so what gives me the right to bother others about what they do in their bed? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CharmVif3075 Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I am really not against sex, I just don't want it for myself. Even before I knew I was asexual, as soon as someone asked me or talk to me directly about sex, I would get really awkward and unsure what to answer (for example, someone once asked me what was my big sexual fantasy and I was like ?????????????????? idk???). But anyway, about sexual people, I really don't mind! One of my friends I come out to still talks to me about her relationship with her boyfriend and all that it includes, and I'm actually glad she still seems me as the same as I was before I figured out I was ace and doesn't avoid the subject as if it was a dangerous topic or whatever. (btw I read fanfiction. smut included sometimes) And I laugh at innuendos. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Princess of Ruin Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I don't really mind having sex with other people, however I honestly find it boring and a waste of time. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Someone Else Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I can't help but think that a romantic asexual has a much better chance of understanding the idea of "making love without having sex at all." I've never tried it, but I have a notion, a feeling of its existence in my head. A lot of sexuals don't get it, or think they get it and don't. So perhaps, just maybe, I wouldn't mind making love if it could be done without the sex. Whatever that means. ;) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Cairne Bloodhoof Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 I should add to my previous statement that have sex if you want, but please don't scream so the whole apartment building knows you are doing it. Thank you :-) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ObfuscationIEschew Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 Don't mind either. It is part of reproduction. So,...haha Quote Link to post Share on other sites
A-chan Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 Sex could be a way to express how much you love somebody. I would do it if that will make my partner happy. I'm not comfortable with people that make sex just for the pleasure. But what really makes me sick is when sexuals say -"He/She is my true love" and the next day, they broke up and find someone else. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jimerman Posted February 15, 2015 Share Posted February 15, 2015 i have had sex a few times befour, but i got almost nuthing from it. i dont look down on it or anything i just dont get the appeal. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CaptainPugwash Posted February 18, 2015 Share Posted February 18, 2015 I'm knocking on for 30, still a young man but been asexual for all my life..mentally it used to be quite stressful until I turned down that internal diologue of what I thought I had to be. First rule for me was being true to myself and the way I felt. And as they say as one door may close another opens. What I mean by that is there are plenty of other ways to connect in a romantic sense. We live a little differently but I say dons't have to mean less fulfilled. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
little fox Posted February 18, 2015 Share Posted February 18, 2015 Oh. This is actually a very different topic than I thought it would be.I am very new to the idea of asexuality so I don't know a lot about it yet. But I think identify as something like gray-asexual.Which is to say, I have a certain amount of sexual attraction. Never mind what other people are doing, I don't mind havingsex, sometimes I like it and most of the time I would be okay with leaving it alone. Ha ha.I guess that makes me somewhere in the middle of things ? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jimerman Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 i have had sex a few times, but it is just uncomfortable and not appealing to me, besides there are way to many risks involved. if people want to have sex it is like if people want drink red bull, i don't like it but if you do go for it. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mak84 Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 I don't care about sex. Just because I don't have a huge interest in it doesn't mean other people shouldn't. And I actually do like it on some of my tv shows like Grey's Anatomy and Orange is the New Black. Oddly, I find the female couples or characters together more interesting. Like I cannot deny that I found some of it hot. But, I just feel uncomfortable with thinking about doing it myself or reading or watching porn. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
テト Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 Even though I'm not sexually attracted to anyone and personally don't want to have sex or do anything sexual with anyone either, I still -I guess- enjoy sex expressed in my OTP's and stuff. Like I'll draw them engaging in sexual acts and like, "how cute" etc but I personally lack any sexual desire. It's rather confusing and frustrating when I try to explain this to a person who isn't asexual. .-. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
QueenWS Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I don't mind sex, it's not like I hate it (which someone thought/thinks I do). It's just that I don't need it and don't necessarily want it. I do not look forward to having sex in a relationship its the last thing I'd think about. People make it seem like you must have sex in a relationship and bad sex can affect it but I honestly think it's well... I just don't believe it and I have my doubts on anyone who claims to have interest in me but still says sex is important in an relationship. Whenever I have a discussion with someone about it I seem a bit aggressive towards the topic because I completely disagree which makes them think I hate sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lain-heart Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I myself don't see any problems with sex. But as virgin, I can't say I like it or not. I'm telling myself, that everything would be fine, if I find a person I care and love, I just haven't seen none yet. So, I have no sexual attraction towards others, and no romantic attraction towards anyone. But still think, sex and love is great things. Probably. Or probably, not. Somehow I doubt, that revelation will shatter me. That's uncertainty, that bothers. Constant state of uncertainty about thing, I know nothing about. Unconfortable, but certain truth is better in my opinion, here. I should wait and look how it turns out. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
News_Junkie Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 My own personal feelings on sex is that it's great when you're with the right person. Like another form of intimacy, basically. But for me it's not something I would necessarily rank above a really good conversation in which you're really connecting with someone emotionally or intellectually. Sex for pleasure's sake with someone I don't know very well isn't something that I find particularly enjoyable. Even kissing someone I don't know too well is down right boring for me. But sex in a relationship I'm very committed to would certainly be important—but not a dealbreaker, if that makes sense. Cuddling > sex in my book. ;) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WünderBâhr Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 Any men out there who are legitimate Asexual (not gay but neutral to lean straight) get a T level (testosterone) test and have no visible bodily side effects such as hair loss or muscle atrophy or trouble gaining muscle mass? Weird question huh? I'll explain: I'm trying to figure out what T level I need to shoot for that might possibly reduce my sex drive to I guess what I assume would be Asexual level norms. (If there is such a thing) I understand the differences in preference to male or female. So I'm looking for someone knowledgeable from the lean straight to absolute neutral spectrum. I really do not want to lose masculinity and want to work out with shown results but I am a Christian and so I am looking to not aggrivate libido(which ironically goes up when I train) In other words I'm looking to steer clear of what I understand is sin yet not destroy what I believe to be by God's design AND be able to gain strength. And was hoping for a T level sweet spot that would address my goals. So if there is anyone who as undergone this test I would sincerely thank you for any insights. God bless. Just a note: Having a certain level of testosterone does not equal to nor guarantee a certain amount of sex drive/lack thereof. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Baskervillain Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 its physically pleasurable but other things are more so for me, i don't mind sex but i don't pursue it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Caehlim Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Personally I find it fascinating. I love the diversity of human interests and that people can find all these interesting ways to connect with one another. While it's not something I want to do, I fully endorse it for other people and I'm glad that they get an enjoyment out of it that I don't manage myself. I even write erotic fiction as a hobby. Strangely enough I find that not desiring sex myself makes this easier. It gives me a detached viewpoint and a more neutral outlook so that I can write about it without getting too completely involved. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
iamaoife Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'm fine with other people doing what they want, and probably more people should be, because if we accept others they're more likely to accept us. I completey agree, I'm all for everybody minding their own business :) of course both sexuals and asexuals should do the do if they want to! The one thing I don't get is why our entire society has to revolve around it (as has been commented before). ​ 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike D Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I don't mind it at all...don't fear it, don't hate, am not disgusted by it. I just don't have any particular drive to seek it out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stonehengegirl Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Personally I find it fascinating. I love the diversity of human interests and that people can find all these interesting ways to connect with one another. Ditto! I enjoy reading scientific studies about sex. While I'm not interested in seeking it out, I have enjoyed sex in the past. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 to me sex is like... hm... pepto-bismal. I rarely get an upset stomach, and when I do I don't need pepto-bismal. but I could take pepto-bismal and it would help. xD basically, I am a libido'd asexual.. when my libido acts up, I don't need sex, but sex would be a valid remedy for my misfortunate experience xD (well under the correct circumstances of course xP) 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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