VConfused94 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 After posting about sexual attraction and reading some awesome responses, it got me thinking a lot... maybe some people are just very “picky” about who they are attracted to?! For example, some may find a whole lot of people sexually attractive, whereas others may have a “type” that they are attracted to. People who question their sexuality may just be more selective... thoughts?! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nate-1234 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 It just seems a little too unlikely. Before I found out I was asexual I thought I was bisexual because I was romantically, aesthetically, and sensually attracted to a few males and a few females in my lifetime. That carried over as me being biromantic. So, given enough time you are bound to find people you are attracted to and with enough experience you can look back and see who you were attracted to (sexually, sensually, or romantically) to help figure out ones sexuality. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fuzzipueo Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 While I do have aesthetic attraction to men and I do prefer guys with dark hair, eyes, etc., that's about it. Otherwise, I'm just not really interested. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
StartedWithAQuestion Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 I honestly think it depends on the person. Some people may have a type and therefore be seen as picky, others might not. As far as my attractions go, there are two women I've felt an attraction toward because of a bond formed on an emotional level over a long term timeframe without care for aesthetic attributes, and the two relationships I've been in I've been able to find a physical attraction "in the heat of the moment" but haven't really looked for anyone otherwise. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nate-1234 Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 16 hours ago, fuzzipueo said: While I do have aesthetic attraction to men and I do prefer guys with dark hair, eyes, etc., that's about it. Otherwise, I'm just not really interested. I agree with everything you said here besides the eyes. While I prefer brown or hazel eyes, I like them to be a medium shade because 1) I find it really attractive to see their eyes go from light to dark especially when I imagine me and a hypothetical crush being sensual 2) I can see his eyes dilate which I also find very attractive 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Attraction is not about "being picky". "To be attracted to sth/so" is a passive term for a reason one doesn't get to choose who they're attracted to. (That being said, being picky is a good thing in my book.) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
crazypimpernelfan Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I think anyone of any sexual attraction can be picky. So, no, I don't think asexuality has anything to do with being picky. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Salted Karamel Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Not to say that asexuals are "just super picky," but if you're so "picky" that you've literally never been attracted to anyone in decades of life on Earth as an adult, I think you can safely call yourself asexual without wondering if maybe that's incorrect because you could "just be super picky." 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SallyBlackwater Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I don't think my lack of sexual attraction is due to being picky... I've had crushes (very few, I'll admit that) and while maybe having a desire to kiss and cuddle them, doing anything sexual with them never felt appealing.... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MrDane Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 On 10/1/2018 at 12:10 AM, VConfused94 said: After posting about sexual attraction and reading some awesome responses, it got me thinking a lot... maybe some people are just very “picky” about who they are attracted to?! For example, some may find a whole lot of people sexually attractive, whereas others may have a “type” that they are attracted to. People who question their sexuality may just be more selective... thoughts?! I stand by my choice of life partner as it brings quality in the long run. I therefore do not pick. I eat up and clean my plate before going for seconds or looking for dessert. To stay in the same kind of wording, then my wife is never hungry, never interested in opening the oven to get a sniff. I, on the other hand, are both tempted and could nearly always do with a little snack, but I keep waiting till proper dinner time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
EggplantWitch Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I have still yet to run into anyone I've found sexually attractive in my almost 21 years of life, so maybe I am super picky. But in my opinion if I've still yet to find someone like that out of the thousands and thousands of people I've met and seen in my lifetime then I'm not really functionally any different than someone who is "genuinely" asexual. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Koto Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 I've thought about whether or not I'm "too picky" too... What if I'm both? Is there any hope for me!? XD Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Éadweard Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 Everyone is picky. When we say straight people are attracted to the opposite gender it doesn’t mean they are attracted to everyone of the opposite gender. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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