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Is it normal for aces to become "more ace"?


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So, I'm aro ace. I masturbate and watch/read porn (though without any sexual or romantic attraction). What's weird is that overtime, since finding out what I am, I feel as though I am becoming "more aro ace". Quotations because who's to say someone is more asexual or aromantic than another.

 

To clarify what I mean, lately I've become really really picky when it comes to porn, and just a while ago I found some people aesthetically attractive, but nowadays, it's like I don't even know what attractiveness is. I'm starting to feel more and more indifferent to people's physical appearance. Masturbation hardly interests me anymore, I just do it just because, literally no reason at all, though back then I liked it.

 

I just find this sort of weird, maybe someday I won't even have a libido or find people pleasing to the eyes at all, which would be ideal, but it's sort pf got me curious. Like maybe at some point, when i was younger, maybe I wasn't aro ace. Idk

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Hello Keiko,

Has this change occurred gradually or suddenly and does the shift in behavior upset you? 

It is possible for tastes to change over time.

I rewatched the animes, Wolf's Rain and Trinity Blood, only to discover my once favorite characters irritated me the most. 

Cheers, J

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thats possible, but I've never heard of it being normal... Then again, I've never been normal myself ;)

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Apathetic Echidna

I did read that once you have labels for your experience you can govern yourself to fit your label, I don't know if this was a conscious or subconscious thing. It is also possible that as you get older things can clam down, but that is not a universal thing and it really depends on what area of life you are in. 

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I don't know if it's normal, but the same thing happened to me. I 'became more ace' after having realized I was ace and I'm currently 'becoming more aro' I think. Part of it might be just being more comfortable with not wanting/being repulsed by 'normal' stuff, but I always associated the 'becoming more ace' thing with puberty and hormonal changes to be honest. I do think I was already ace during puberty but less of a checks-all-the-boxes ace than I am now if that makes sense?

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I think it is quite normal for all of us to change gradually. At some point you may realize that you are now different than before. Or that the cup is now full or that you are now a bit bored with something you liked before.  Sometimes you reach a point where you have to put your foot down and state that you are not like that anymore. Question is whether it is something important and affecting other things/people in your life or just a matter of “funny, once I didnt like mushrooms. Now I do”

 

I think, that my wife waited for the circumstances to be perfect so that she could be more sexual and less stressed about it. Then she realized that she wasnt sexual. 

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