Why don't I have crushes?

[Flump222]

Okay, so I consider myself ace, because I don't experience sexual attraction directed at anyone, I do still get aroused though, but it's not accompanied by a desire to do sexual things with anybody. However, I've only had one romantic crush in my life (I'm 15), and it ended a couple months ago, and it only lasted about a few months. When I liked her, no desire to do the "bedroom boom-boom" was ever present, but after it ended, it made me think why I don't really feel attraction too often. That was probably the first time, to my knowledge. I don't really perceive other people my age as "attractive" and ever since the crush ended, I've never felt the same way again (that was only a couple months ago, though). So, is it normal to not have crushes if you're ace? I'm pretty sure I'm not aro, because I am open to romantic relationships, maybe kissing, etc. Is this normal if I'm ace?

[TheAP]

Maybe you could call yourself grey-aro if you rarely experience romantic attraction. And yes, it is common for asexuals.

[Galactic Turtle]

Around 15 is when most of my friends started getting their first crushes. Or at least... crushes strong enough to mention at the lunch table. I tend to be quite oblivious with these things. I'm 24 and haven't had a crush and don't desire a romantic relationship so ID as aromantic. On the other hand I might just be really hard to impress. Either way the result is the same lol.

 

 

[Janus the Fox]

Pretty much the same way, I can't really distinguish ever having a crush at all at that age, with probable one that was more of an aesthetic crush than anything for a girl at around 16.

 

My current relationship may have skipped the crush phase and went into a more complex love for a guy at age 29.

 

Totally normal not having crushes, possibly most don't, maybe only experience a small number of them and maybe when in a relationship, the crush phase for others may never happen for that duration.