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coolandcute

Do You Have Preferences When It Comes to Sexual Organs?

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coolandcute

This is a sensitive topic but I am curious if you have any preferences when it comes to sexual organs, whether or not you have had sex?  If you are a male for instance, do you like certain size breasts?  Do you prefer women who are thin over curvy women?  Or is it the opposite?  If you are female, are there certain male anatomies, sizes or colors you are okay with?   

 

I haven't had sex but I did some research and in case I ever have sex in a marriage, I know what I like and dislike.  I found out after I turned 33 that the kinds of guys I feel top aesthetic attraction are more likely to look okay to me in terms of body and male anatomy!  I feel top attraction to some fit, handsome Caucasian white guys and they are less likely to be hairy or have dark anatomy, things I dislike.  I don't need a guy to be "big".  I like medium things in general.  Guys who are physically big or very muscular scare me.  No wonder I don't feel attracted to big or stocky guys.  I feel like they could hurt me.  If I am attracted to a guy's face and body, I am not repulsed by him or at the idea of being intimate with him.  Otherwise, I experience major repulsion, especially if I find the person unattractive.  Then the repulsion really kicks in.  I thank The Creator for giving me awareness and options!  Women haven't had much sexual/asexual freedom throughout history, at least not openly.  I am glad I do.      

   

Sometimes I feel like I look too sexy for some asexual guys.  I would prefer to be appreciated by a romantic partner/husband.  This includes my body and not just my brains.  Also, my beauty.   

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The Terrible Travis

yes, i prefer nonexistent ones

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Elden

My preference is not to see any sexual organs. For me, romantic attraction is 100% based on personality, regardless of looks. Body parts do nothing for me.

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FictoVore.

for me, it's the love I feel that matters more than any specific characteristic.. If I don't love the person then I can't find them attractive. However, once I love someone, they're the most attractive person in the world to me, regardless of their actual physical characteristics.. Everything about them becomes beautiful to me.

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Philip027

Not really.  I prefer the company of the opposite sex in general but it's more so to do with overall "female" personality traits, not to do with the bits they possess.

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swirl_of_blue

I find all genitals visually unappealing, but with body types I have some preferences. Generally liking a person makes them look more attractive in my eyes, but I can also find people aesthetically attractive without liking them.

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Confused.Kitten

I'm not picky with sizes or genitalia. I just want them clean. Oh and in their natural state (with pubes).

When it comes to guys, I might as well describe you my boyfriend x) I like cute guys who can be both though and soft . Love curly hair... but the body part that ends up being my safety shed is the chest. This is why I dont really find "muscly" guys handsome... Chubbyness is also something that I dont find that attractive, mostly cuz I strugle with belly dysphoria when it comes to my body :/

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Nowhere Girl

Yes, definitely. I prefer them to be covered.

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Antihero.
4 hours ago, coolandcute said:

  If you are a male for instance, do you like certain size breasts?  Do you prefer women who are thin over curvy women?  Or is it the opposite?  

I’m a man and there is absolutely no type of women’s body I find remotely aesthetic or attractive at all. I find tits gross and vaginas repulsive.


I am into fellow men and I like masculine well groomed men, I find light features to be attractive and I obviously prefer dicks. As far as ethnicity goes the men I find aesthetically attractive tend to be European [Caucasian] like myself or East Asian.

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[noize:injekktion]
19 hours ago, coolandcute said:

 If you are a male for instance, do you like certain size breasts?  Do you prefer women who are thin over curvy women?  Or is it the opposite?  If you are female, are there certain male anatomies, sizes or colors you are okay with?   

 

uhm. I'm like @Antihero., I'm only attracted to the fellow men. :lol: I can see when a woman is pretty, but women in general are not my "type". that's been said, I don't care about how big their breasts are.

when it comes to these obvious body parts, female ones repulse me, but male ones don't affect me much.

I kind of have a thing for androgynous guys, though. probably because the (cyber)goth aesthetics speak to me the most. I also like some rather masculine ones, like rivetheads. 

also, I think everyone can be beautiful in their own way, but I rather look at tall ones. I'm not short myself, so. :P

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LeDeer

Kinda hard to define... for now I've found aesthetically and/or sexually attractive only not-really-feminine thin girls. I do like curves to some extent (big breasts aren't my thing at all, small ones are fine/good looking, same for bottoms). But I seem to find them attractive only when clothed or covered; nude breasts don't look aesthetically good imo. Also thin androgynous boys aren't too bad, but I have no interest for them. Everything else is indifferent.

As for sexual organs, I find penises gross, while vaginas are.... ok? I don't mind? Can't tell for sure? In a way, the idea that females don't have anything down there reassures me, and having sex with a girl doesn't sound that bad. However I can't say "I like vaginas", it's more "I don't like penises so I deal with vaginas because they are the only other option available".

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Stheg

I'm bi, but I prefer not to see unclothed body parts. I'm not even a fan of skimpy clothing. On a scale of importance in determining who I find attractive, body parts are at the bottom of the list and intelligence is at the top. 

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Rhaenys

I'm female and I'm a boobs girl like that's the first place I'll look in a woman. I find the round porn star boobs to be attractive. I like curvy and chubby girls cause they feel so nice when u hug and cuddle them.

 

I have to be in a certain mood to want to see male genitalia tbh.

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miettaisace

1.well if you are gonna have biological children with someone its important to me and id say most people that they would be attractive and have good features because i wouldnt want an ugly baby. so id look for a strong jaw, good cheekbones, small nose, blonde...and youd wanna make sure there genitals arent all fucked up looking because just cause im ace doesnt mean my child would be and i wouldnt want him to hate his genitals.

 

2.also id say if you care about appearance then you probably would care to a degree even if you ont be having sex with the person

 

3.now if the genitals are yours the question is why do you not like them...? is it embarrassing or grossing looking i mean what is it because if youre never gonna be naked in front of someone ever in your life why do you really care. you gotta ask yourself that.

 

4.if youre ace and have sex then its probably an issue youd face if you date someone with ugly genitals or youre the one with the ugly junk but if youre ace and dont have sex i dont see why its a problem unless its effecting you physically. 

example my cousin had a really really long labia...stretched out it was 4 inches long so she had them cut short, what im saying is that when she walked it hurt her so that to me makes sense its practical. 

 

5. Now personally if i dont find the person attractive then i wont be interested in involving myself in there life...they have to be hot basically because i rely on my aesthetic attraction cause i dont love people other than my grandma and mother. 

 

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FictoVore.
3 hours ago, Rhaenys said:

I find the round porn star boobs to be attractive. 

The correct term for those types of boobies is generally 'fake' :P

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Nowhere Girl
22 hours ago, LeDeer said:

However I can't say "I like vaginas", it's more "I don't like penises so I deal with vaginas because they are the only other option available".

Just mentioning: it's NOT "the only other option available". The third option is "neither". That's my choice: I don't think I could touch either (even though for me the scariest thing about sex is being seen or touched naked, I'm just way too uncomfortable with nudity to go through this), so I don't want to have sex with either vagina-owners or penis-owners.

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Stray

When it comes to preference, they can look okay. :3 Honestly, just indifferent about them. Clothes, accessories, and body paint(rock music roots here) are extremely aesthetically pleasing for some reason XD. Don't care much for what's underneath it all, lol

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Deus Ex Infinity

I don't have any preferences. I even woudn't take my cloths off for anything but jumping out ouf the window first.

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Kersenne

Can't say I have any preferences, and espacially not when it comes to sexual organs. When I think about it, I find every person that looks healthy pretty and beautiful, so I guess that would be my physical preference: to be healthy^^ 

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Gloomy

I don't like genitals or naked people, and since I'm probably aromantic I have no interest in relationships at all, but I am aesthetically attracted to some women and a select few men(I'm a woman btw). I like thin women, but I also have a thing for women with some curves(as in a slim waist but bigger breasts and hips). Although I don't want to see women naked as I said, I do like how they look in lingerie or skimpy clothing. When it comes to men I have a thing for emo looking guys, but that's about it.

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m4rble
On 11/30/2017 at 1:27 AM, coolandcute said:

This is a sensitive topic but I am curious if you have any preferences when it comes to sexual organs, whether or not you have had sex?  If you are a male for instance, do you like certain size breasts?  Do you prefer women who are thin over curvy women?  Or is it the opposite?  If you are female, are there certain male anatomies, sizes or colors you are okay with?   

I'm not hetero enough for this- help!

 

Just kidding, I think the most attractive body type for men is a more wiry body type. Being too muscular is usually very unattractive to me, but you can pull it off if you have a great face.  A little bit of pudginess doesn't hurt as much as some people think it would. 

 

I think both skinny and curvy women can be very attractive.  

 

As for genitals, they really aren't that great no matter what type they are. They usually look better on someone than in isolation though. 

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TopHatCat

I don't get anything from peoples' bodies (aro ace), but I do find an artistic appreciation in the female form-more than the male form. I myself am female, and for some reason female physiques generally seem more graceful and beautiful. Maybe I'm biased. :P

 

I also find male genitalia to be extremely disgusting (no offense to those who have it). Even though it's less convenient when going to the bathroom, I definitely prefer the privacy and elegance of female genitals.

 

I don't get why people are obsessed with females that have bodies resembling males, i.e. flat and completely without shape. Any level of curviness is better, that's what make their bodies look so graceful.

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Lonemathsytoothbrushthief

When it comes to my own, my preference is none. When it comes to others' I don't care what you have down there cause I'm not comfortable with sex anyway ^_^ but...if I become comfortable with sex, then I still wouldn't care but my orientation would pretty much be sapphic. All girls and non binary people are cute, and that's my romantic preference anyway. ^_^

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coolandcute

TopHatCat:

 

I don't get why people are obsessed with females that have bodies resembling males, i.e. flat and completely without shape. Any level of curviness is better, that's what make their bodies look so graceful.

 

 

I really agree with this!  I am a curvy female.  I used to be very thin.  I like being curvy but I hate being shamed for it or even called fat if I cover up in loose-fitting clothing.  If I dressed for my hour-glass figure, I would get too much unwanted attention or even groped.  No thanks.  Besides, dressing conservatively is my style.    

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TopHatCat
1 hour ago, coolandcute said:

TopHatCat:

 

I don't get why people are obsessed with females that have bodies resembling males, i.e. flat and completely without shape. Any level of curviness is better, that's what make their bodies look so graceful.

 

 

I really agree with this!  I am a curvy female.  I used to be very thin.  I like being curvy but I hate being shamed for it or even called fat if I cover up in loose-fitting clothing.  If I dressed for my hour-glass figure, I would get too much unwanted attention or even groped.  No thanks.  Besides, dressing conservatively is my style.    

EXACTLY! As someone who's ace, aro, and a dapper tomboy I have to be really careful about what I wear because my shape would throw a wrench into it.

 

I like to imagine that there'll be one time in my life where I'm required to wear a fancy evening gown (and I won't be treated differently because of it in said scenario) so they'll finally be useful for something, at that point behold by curves! But until/after then I will keep them tucked away under college-professor-style clothing.

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roland.o
On 12/1/2017 at 10:16 AM, FictoVore. said:

The correct term for those types of boobies is generally 'fake' :P

I've also read "bolt-ons" :P

 

I have a scientific mind and enjoy the beauty of naturally flowing lines. When boobs defy gravity too obviously, they destroy the harmony of the view.

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FictoVore.
5 hours ago, roland.o said:

I've also read "bolt-ons" :P

 

I have a scientific mind and enjoy the beauty of naturally flowing lines. When boobs defy gravity too obviously, they destroy the harmony of the view.

Yeah I much prefer natural breasts myself also ^_^ and I totally don't mind if someone likes those types of fake boobies, as long as they identify that it's clearly fake breasts they like. Sometimes I think some people believe porn stars just have this particular type of large very round balloon-like breasts when that's actually extremely, extremely rare (I've never seen a natural pair like that). Any natural larger breast is actually going to hang downwards (even if they're not 'saggy') because the weight pools at the bottom, and they're much more squishy than firm when they get up into the bigger sizes, whereas the porn boobs often look a bit like balloons full of concrete haha!

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Flower Boy

Honestly? I don't think I do. It's the weirdest damn thing because this always comes off as some "holier than thou" shit but people who have been around me can confirm it; I develop preferences for others based on how they make me feel.

I don't even have any set aesthetics for people, or a set type for romance, or platonic relations, I develop a love for their appearance if they have overall made me feel nice.

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