Eureka. Immense. Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 “A reality is just what we tell each other it is. Sane and insane could easily switch places...if the insane were to become the majority...You would find yourself locked in a padded cell...wondering what happened to the world.” – In the mouth of madness << Does anyone else like this movie? Sorry, as I was writing this I totally had a celluloid flashback. Anyways here's the quick n' gist of it: I used to think the people around me were totally bonkers. When puberty hit, it hit like a maelstrom and my friends around me were doing things (often destructive) that made absolutely no sense to me. I was so busy in high school with homework and clubs and volunteering that I didn’t “have time” for boyfriends. I honestly thought that I had to save my friends from themselves and would often drag them to different club meetings, into the city to see independent film screenings, around our neighborhood to organize teen safe spaces….just everywhere. And they in turn often asked me why I wouldn’t date anyone. Why don’t you like anyone? Don’t you want to lose your virginity? One afternoon a close friend loaded a pornographic video clip and told me to watch it. She asked if it “turned me on”. I felt nothing but shock and a little disgust which she mistook for condemnation and righteousness until I explained to her that I'm sex positive and that she should watch all the gross porn she wanted The very next day I gathered my friends up and told them that we were forming a kind of girls club because they obviously needed some distance from all the boys because they were warping their minds We’d make triangles with our fingers and connect them then yell “Hoohas unite” in the halls before class. I kid you not! We were such dorks. I was the person that they all confided in and even though they were the ones having these experiences and I was an outsider... or at least felt as much. My friends called me a “saint” and told me I should become a nun if I were to ever become religious. They’d tell me the awkward stories of their first times and how they regretted it and wished they waited like me… I wouldn't have admitted it then but I felt a bit of regret that I wasn't going through a "coming of age" and hitting milestones like i thought they were. I was positive all throughout high school that I was just a "late bloomer" and that I was lucky because I could focus on other things. Then I told myself that I was just waiting for the right person—that their stories of lost virginity must have traumatized me in some way. Then at university I started to meet people who identified openly as gay or bisexual and learned about other sexualities such as pansexual and even asexuality. Everyone seemed to want to know my particular label. I still hadn’t met anyone that I could imagine myself having sex with and so I thought that maybe, just maybe, asexuality fit. I told my mother about it and she said something like “yep that sounds like you, dolly.” :} I had to think back on anyone I’ve ever found myself drawn to…. 3 people in my entire life so far. Just 3 people I had considered for romantic relationships. And when I thought really hard…I couldn’t recall a single moment that I desired a sexual relationship with any of them. And so years later I still identify as Asexual because it seems to be the right fit. It’s really great to join everyone on here. As they say around here: mannaseo bangawoyo! Nice to meet y'all. Link to post Share on other sites
paperbackreader Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Hwangyong! :-) I hope you have a nice time here. Here's some cake to welcome you. PS: Sorry, but “hoohas unite” made me giggle as 'hoohas' is an informal term to mean disruption here; what does it mean to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Eureka. Immense. Posted November 15, 2017 Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 32 minutes ago, paperbackreader said: PS: Sorry, but “hoohas unite” made me giggle as 'hoohas' is an informal term to mean disruption here; what does it mean to you? It's what we called our nether regions It was meant as a rejoicing of womanhood. Link to post Share on other sites
Lia Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Hello there, and welcome to AVEN! As part of my welcome to you, I'd like to point out some important threads that might be helpful in your first few days here. The Terms of Service is here. We recommend you read it over, and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to send either myself or any other administrator or moderator (the "admod" team, as we're called) a message. Also, there's a handy forum called Site Info, which has some useful information including a thread outlining who moderates which forum. If you ever need something done in or have questions about a specific forum, please message the mod of that forum. And if you have problems with the site in general, or any single member, please message any admod. The following are also nifty links to take a look at: Welcome Lounge Mini Manual | Welcoming 101 | Quick Guide to the Forums | Asexuality FAQ's Again, welcome to AVEN and I hope your stay is everything you hoped! Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Welcome! It's great to hear how accepting your friends are, that porn thing was weird (who shows other people their porn?!?) but it's aonderful to see how good you get along with everyone Link to post Share on other sites
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