6Unmentionable9 Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Let me start off by saying, I don't experience romantic attraction (i dont think? i experience infatuation tho, which tricked me into a relationship a couple times) ,, i have no desire to care for someone or be closer with them or anything like that.! so! i guess it's a bit like demi? i become close with a person, and then this starts up. i guess an idea is "demisensual"?? its like ... i want to be in a non-romantic relationship with my best friends , where we cuddle + kiss + hold hands and all that fun stuff, but nothing more. its not a romantic feeling its just ?? !! WOW !!! i LUV my fWEnds!!!! i want to spend my entire life with my bestest buddies !!! and usually i also think about marrying them for the benefits of it. its my 2 best friends, one male one female , and i dont feel like i could have one without the other ,,, ive always explained it as platonic polyamory?? what do u guys think Link to post Share on other sites
Rynn Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Have you heard of the term queerplatonic? Link to post Share on other sites
6Unmentionable9 Posted October 21, 2017 Author Share Posted October 21, 2017 Just now, Laurann said: Have you heard of the term queerplatonic? yes i have ! i wasn't sure if this would qualify, since i always imagined queerplatonic as essentially just being incredibly close friends, but not interracting in a way that would suggest "relationship". Link to post Share on other sites
Rynn Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I don't think queerplatonic really has a strict definition. People use it for different types of relationships. The definition that made most sense to me is broad and vague, but I think that's the point of the term: A non-romantic relationship that's of an intensity usually reserved for romantic relationships. "When is a relationship romantic?", is then the question. Well, when there's romantic feelings involved. That's another one of those vague and subjective terms. Do you think what you're describing qualifies? You know more about the relationship you're in than me, so you tell me. Link to post Share on other sites
6Unmentionable9 Posted October 21, 2017 Author Share Posted October 21, 2017 32 minutes ago, Laurann said: I don't think queerplatonic really has a strict definition. People use it for different types of relationships. The definition that made most sense to me is broad and vague, but I think that's the point of the term: A non-romantic relationship that's of an intensity usually reserved for romantic relationships. "When is a relationship romantic?", is then the question. Well, when there's romantic feelings involved. That's another one of those vague and subjective terms. this is ,, rlly helpful thank u ?? 32 minutes ago, Laurann said: Do you think what you're describing qualifies? You know more about the relationship you're in than me, so you tell me. I think it would yes ! but ah , i am not actually in a relationship with them... im unsure that they would feel comfortable with such a thing, and they both have crushes of their own but thank u so much !! i wasnt sure that that was what i could call it Link to post Share on other sites
amiadancer? Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 That is pretty much exactly how I feel, just without the kissing part. I never really knew what to call it either, because when I described it as queerplatonic on this website I was told that it must mean I had romantic feelings for these people, when I really really don't. It's actually really nice to know that someone out there feels the same way that I do. I wish I was brave enough to talk to my friends about it but it seems so far off from what's considered normal that I have no idea how they're react to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Hilana Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I feel like Queerplatonic explains one of my long distance relationships. We've had a close, best friendshipish bond for about 13yrs, but I have no romantic feelings for him, no attraction whatsoever, not even aesthetically. The only complication is that we have sexual conversations. He is Bisexual, and has a very high sex drive that his wife doesn't always meet the needs of. (Yes, she knows about me) Since talking about sex is stress relief for him, I role play with him and sext with him. I do enjoy it, and will often use it to masturbate as its like fantasy or porn. In that sense its like friends with benefits, but with no romantic attraction at all. We've never met in person, but if we did, I don't think I would want to have sex with him as I feel no attraction to him. So Queerplatonic is the best word I can find to describe it, we're more than friends but not romantically involved. 6Unmentionable9: I would also look into the word "Squish". I could be wrong, but seems like that term may be helpful as well, if I remember correctly. Link to post Share on other sites
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