man Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 First of all, I'm sorry if it's a wrong section for a thread like this. So my problem is that, I just don't like guys, males. I don't wanna be friends with males. I just don't like their company. I don't like to pretend like I'm strong and musculine. I don't like to get drunk. I don't wanna pretend like I'm insterested in all those talks about girls. I don't wanna waste any money. I don't like sports, with some exceptions only. I don't wanna talk about sports more than a minute per week. I don't like cars. I don't like video games and movies. I don't like to talk about the job. I don't wanna talk about respect, and politics. I don't know if I make any sense though. I hope I do. I'm not gay or bisexual. Not homophobic, but for some reason it feels like if I had had gay/bi friends I would've gotten sexual offers. I'm sorry, if I just offended anyone. Sorry for such a long intro, but there's something else. I can't make friends with women either. They are always being so nice when we meet each other, on a new job for example. And I know it will end bad in the end. It always goes by the same scenario. First two weeks they are super nice, but I don't ask them out for a date, and then they act like they are enemies with me. And I'm alone again. I thought I would friend with asexuals, but there are no asexuals where I live. That's it. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Ennis Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Well, I feel sorry for you. 'Tis a tough situation. On the other hand, not all males are like the ones you described above. There's quite a few who are different, I'm sure. The problem is that the quiet ones are almost invisible and hard to find. You've told us what you don't want, but what do you want? What do you seek in a friendship and what are your interests? And how might you find someone who shares them? You might feel alone in this world, but be assured you aren't. Many are going through the same struggle right now and not everyone is as happy and flawless as they may appear to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 I'm sorry but Asexuality isn't connection to any specfiic gender in particular you know? There are ceratinly a lot of people here who'd like to be friends with you though. You might even have a look at the "Meet-Up Market" to find a local ace gathering in your area. Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 24 minutes ago, Julian of Norwich said: You've told us what you don't want, but what do you want? What do you seek in a friendship and what are your interests? And how might you find someone who shares them? I have a job, like most people do. I'm writing songs in a free time. It's hard to say what I seek in a friendship, it just feels like I need some people in ma life. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 13 minutes ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: I'm sorry but Asexuality isn't connection to any specfiic gender in particular you know? There are ceratinly a lot of people here who'd like to be friends with you though. You might even have a look at the "Meet-Up Market" to find a local ace gathering in your area. this. also, asexuality is not a gender. here we have guys, girls and the variety of nonbinary people and I can't say any of us is like you described. also, do you rhino you're universally attractive so every gay/bi person would end up wanting to have sex with you? Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 13 minutes ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: I'm sorry but Asexuality isn't connection to any specfiic gender in particular you know? There are ceratinly a lot of people here who'd like to be friends with you though. You might even have a look at the "Meet-Up Market" to find a local ace gathering in your area. I didn't mean to offend any guys here. I've described most of the guys I've met. Thanks for the advice regarding the meet-up market. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, man said: I didn't mean to offend any guys here. I've described most of the guys I've met. Thanks for the advice regarding the meet-up market. I know. You didn't offend anyone really. No worries *hugs* I just wanted to point out what being ace is meant to be. You're welcome! I'm always glad to help. Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 6 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: also, do you rhino you're universally attractive so every gay/bi person would end up wanting to have sex with you? Didn't say that. I just feel insecure when I think of such friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 6 minutes ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: I know. You didn't offend anyone really. No worries *hugs* I just wanted to point out what being ace is meant to be. You're welcome! I'm always glad to help. thanks. I wish I've met more people like you guys Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, man said: thanks. I wish I've met more people like you guys It's never too late *smiles* You're here now! Link to post Share on other sites
Podsnap Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 If you live in New Jersey you can stop by and I'll make you a cookie dough smoothie or a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or whatever you want. I don't have any friends either. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 7 minutes ago, man said: Didn't say that. I just feel insecure when I think of such friendship. okay, I was just curious. you can be sure it's not an ultimate case, too. there will be people like this, but also there will be people who are as far from it as possible. if you don't give the person a chance, you'll never know if you didn't miss out a potential great friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 11 minutes ago, podsnap said: If you live in New Jersey you can stop by and I'll make you a cookie dough smoothie or a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or whatever you want. I don't have any friends either. Awwww..just look at that How cute is that? Just give it a try! Link to post Share on other sites
roland.o Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 You're writing songs? Thats great! Do you perform in public, maybe at an open stage location? Do you have people you like to jam with? Maybe start a little band? I suggest to pick something you like, and turn it into a hobby you share with other people. Join a book club, archery, whatever. Meet people not based on whether they could be your friends. Meet them based on a common interest, on something you do like to talk about more than a minute per week. That will keep conversations going. And if some of those acquaintances become friends, just the better. Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 15 minutes ago, podsnap said: If you live in New Jersey you can stop by and I'll make you a cookie dough smoothie or a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or whatever you want. I don't have any friends either. Thank you, I'd love to try it. I'm from Eastern Europe. It's a bit far from New Jersey Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 18 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: if you don't give the person a chance, you'll never know if you didn't miss out a potential great friend. I'm sure, everyone deserves a chance Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 2 minutes ago, roland.o said: You're writing songs? Thats great! Do you perform in public, maybe at an open stage location? I wish I could. I'm not that level though. Trying to save some money so I can afford some vocal lessons Link to post Share on other sites
roland.o Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 3 minutes ago, man said: I'm sure, everyone deserves a chance Yes, everyone deserves a chance. But nobody has time to give a chance to everyone they meet. It is OK to be selective, and to focus on people you're most likely to connect with. So look out for common interests. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 35 minutes ago, man said: I'm sure, everyone deserves a chance I'm glad you see it :3 btw, what music do you like? Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 oh and if you're from Eastern Europe, then you can't be that far from me. Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 4 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: I'm glad you see it :3 btw, what music do you like? Mostly electronic and metal, and more Quote oh and if you're from Eastern Europe, then you can't be that far from me. maybe Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 39 minutes ago, roland.o said: Yes, everyone deserves a chance. But nobody has time to give a chance to everyone they meet. It is OK to be selective, and to focus on people you're most likely to connect with. So look out for common interests. Nods. That woud be a good thing to start with Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 sure. oh and from what you mention, do you like industrial music? Link to post Share on other sites
man Posted October 20, 2017 Author Share Posted October 20, 2017 14 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: sure. oh and from what you mention, do you like industrial music? sister machine gun counts? Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 5 hours ago, man said: sister machine gun counts? it's industrial rock, so yeah. kind of does count. Link to post Share on other sites
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