gray-a girl Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Personally, I don't like kissing, especially the saliva swapping variety. But I wonder, does dislike of mouth on mouth kissing fall under aromantic or asexual? Hence my question if asexuals kiss. (not counting pecks on the cheek of course.) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
banoffeepie Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I don't get the desire to, I've done it of course and I guess that when I was a young man I did it so much... but it was just 'what you do' and I was trying to look normal. It never occurred to me to question why I was doing it if I didn't want to. There are asexuals who have sexual activity, and even want to do certain stuff from time to time so we're back to the - it's a spectrum reply I guess. I certainly can't imagine aros doing it but there's always someone with a slight variation on the textbook behaviour. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
straightouttamordor Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I like kissing but not French kissing. Your actually having mouth to mouth sex to me when tongues are weilded. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
roland.o Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 (edited) Some do, some don't. Exactly 42%, but I'm not telling you which... ;-) Here are two threads about kissing, I'm sure you can find more. And sometimes it's discussed in other threads, too. http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/160694-kissing/ http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/155972-the-essence-of-kissing-your-favorite-💋/ Stumbled on another one, quite recent: https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/162151-why-do-people-actually-kiss/ Edited October 9, 2017 by roland.o one more link Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Prufrock, but like, worse Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Are humans vegetarian? 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Regular chaise kissing makes me cringe. French Kissing? No bloody thank you. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
QuantumEcho Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Never kissed someone so I don't know Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanzanite Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Hypothetically, probably. Granted, I've only been kissed once a long time ago, but I don't count that as a genuine kiss. Maybe someday I'll try it (or any other kiss for that matter). Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MaxIsSocallyAwkward Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 It really does depend on the person. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
A shard of glass Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I don't like kissing at all... I'll tolerate it when it's with someone really special... But I have a bit of a phobia of saliva... Yes this means I don't like oral sex that much either. But they really have to be special for me to want to kiss them at all, let alone French kissing :/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Confused.Kitten Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Only in the heat of the moment. Otherwise is kinda weird 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NerotheReaper Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 No french kissing for me it is just not my style, I will kiss someone if they are really special to me and I really like them Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Strange But Not a Stranger Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 I didn't like it. I have only been kissed by one man though, so I have no idea if it's because of him that I did not like it, or if I dislike it in general. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Makes me throw up my cookie snack >< Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SoGoPsychotic Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I don't even like to hug people Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Salted Karamel Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Kissing can be a sensual pleasure as well as (or instead of) a sexual pleasure, so it's entirely possible. Do asexuals like being hugged? Some do, some don't. Aces who happen to be touch-averse are probably far more likely to fall into the "nah" category. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
InariYana Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I much prefer the no-tongue variety, but French kissing is okay, unless there's too much drooling and too much excited tongue action Then it's just awkward and "ehh take this chunk of meat out of my mouth!" Some people kiss in an aggressive way, which they would probably call "passionate", and that is the worst. I agree, kissing does not need to be sexual, it can give plenty of sensual pleasure - just like the one you can have from a great massage, when you're melting away in aaaahhh but with no sexual excitement. I love being kissed on the neck and arms Kisses on feet are amazing too. I enjoy giving people the same kind of kisses too. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Yatogami Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I hate it, but my fiancé loves it. >.< Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kersenne Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I don't mind kissing, as long as it doesn't last forever and is gentle and nice and doesn't go any further. But I think I only like kissing because it makes me feel close to the person I'm kissing, not because I feel anything from it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that kissing does not disgust nor arouse me, I just like it the way I like cuddling Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Groobly Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I like it. I don't know why, but I just do. Or, I guess better put is I'm fine with it. Though, just being close to the person I care about, like cuddling, is the best. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 Not me. (and I'm neutral on close-mouthed kissing) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fuzzipueo Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 On 10/9/2017 at 3:42 PM, Hey you in the corner said: Regular chaise kissing makes me cringe. French Kissing? No bloody thank you. Like this. And to make it worse, for me, I had a hard time accepting kisses from my niece when she was a little one - and those are innocent kisses! I don't get why anyone would want another person's tongue in their mouth, the idea just makes me go 'ew'. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mychemicalqpr Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I haven't tried it. I'm not sure. Sometimes it sounds gross, but sometimes I'm in a mood to consider it. It might be an autochorrisexual thing though, as even then I don't really think about it with me. 48 minutes ago, Kersenne said: But I think I only like kissing because it makes me feel close to the person I'm kissing, Same here. The idea that there's supposed to be anything else to it is still a bit mysterious and confusing to me. If kissing wasn't romanticized the way it is, I don't know if I would still have any desire for it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
darkwinterbird Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 Horrible, horrible... 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 An ex tried to initiate it when I kissed them, eugh no. Dunno if it was just that guy or french kissing as a whole, but I'm not trying again any time soon. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Éadweard Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I don’t. Questions like this serve no purpose. It’s asked under the assumption that ALL asexuals must feel the same way. The correct question is do YOU like to French kiss? I’m sure there are some gay, straight and bi people who don’t care for French kissing either. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
GreenTune Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I haven't kissed anyone yet but I'm definitely not repulsed by it, I actually would love to do it with my future partner. It just seems like passionate cuddling for me. I'm an asexual heteroromantic. French kissing is like a limit for me, I don't want to go any further, it already feels like a bit much, but as long as our clothes stay in place and kissing is only on the lips, it's a nice thought, only with someone who I'd be in a serious relationship for a long time though, when I think of doing that with people I only have a crush on, I cringe. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 2, 2023 Share Posted April 2, 2023 I would rather cuddle and watch a movie instead of kissing. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted April 2, 2023 Share Posted April 2, 2023 Possibly those of us who don't like it -- or kissing in general -- are missing some nerve endings in our lips/mouth that other people have. I don't mean that in the way that people say that asexuals are "missing" something. Well, maybe I do, because from how other people act when kissed, I certainly think that I'm missing feeling something that they feel. All I feel is disgusted at the messiness. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted April 2, 2023 Share Posted April 2, 2023 Damn, almost-six-year-old thread... 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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