Jcole132 Posted October 8, 2017 Share Posted October 8, 2017 Okay, so for starters I know this is something I have to figure out for myself, but I am very confused. So I am 21 and asexual. I have a boyfriend, but for a long time I have been thinking that when I see a pretty girl that she is pretty. I'll even catch myself looking at girls butts, I think because I'm envious that I don't have a big butt myself lol but I don't know, I don't think I am gay or bi, I just think girls are pretty. I'm so confused because of course I'm not sexually attracted to girls (or my boyfriend for that matter, but I do love him) but I don't know...I'm lost Link to post Share on other sites
ThatHuman Posted October 8, 2017 Share Posted October 8, 2017 I'm an artist/writer - and I fear sometimes people get the wrong idea when I intensely watch them... I don't do that because I like them or something, I'm usually thinking: "I wonder what kind of life that person has, are they happy? Are they sad?.. What if they need help with something - and nobody knows..." or I am just really interested in the way they present themselves... People are interesting, what can I say? I don't know - thought this little story may help you Link to post Share on other sites
JMichael Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Aesthetic attraction, i.e. appreciating a well-formed human is different than sexual attraction. It's more like the sense of awe you might have at a beautiful sunset or a work of art. If it's a desire to build a friendship or other emotional bond, than the noticing might be something else. Link to post Share on other sites
daisylove Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I find girls attractive but when it comes to the idea of having sex with them its EEEWWWWW like I'm a 12 year old and they have cooties. There's just zero interest in that way. Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Moved from Questions about Asexuality to Romantic and Aromantic Orientations. TheAP Questions about Asexuality co-mod Link to post Share on other sites
kaysir Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Hey, now, most people can recognize whenever other people are attractive. Doesn't mean they're attracted TO them. Do you want to touch those girls' butts and possibly make 'em blush? Do you want to kiss or caress their pretty faces? Or do you just think "wow, she's pretty. Ooh, she has a nice butt."? Like you, I think you're straight. Link to post Share on other sites
Jcole132 Posted October 9, 2017 Author Share Posted October 9, 2017 Lol thanks guys XD Link to post Share on other sites
kittyblomu Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Yep; I think what you're experiencing is simply aesthetic attraction. I will never openly check out a girl (or a guy) but I'll think to myself, "Well s/he's not hard to look at" and move on with my day. Also, if you are asexual, you are not straight. You could be romantically attracted to the opposite gender (in which case you might identify as heteroromantic asexual) but you can't be straight and asexual, as heterosexual (straight, because that is a sexual orientation as well (hence 'heterosexuality')) refers to being sexually attracted to the opposite gender and asexual refers to having no sexual attraction towards any gender. They contradict each other. You could call yourself a straight asexual, I guess, but that's kind of confusing haha. Link to post Share on other sites
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