JCur Posted October 2, 2017 Share Posted October 2, 2017 I'm 20 years old and I am trying to figure out who I am. I have been doing some serious thinking about my sexuality, and I have come to the following conclusions about myself. 1. I watch far too much porn and masturbate far too much. 2. I often hit on girls when drunk. 3. I have no burning desire to have sex, I am very happy with my current 'dry' spell. 4. Sex is massively underwhelming for me and I don't enjoy it all that much. I suppose a metaphor for my sex drive is like owning a car that you start up in your garage but never drive anywhere. Am I asexual? I would love some advice. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
flyco Posted October 2, 2017 Share Posted October 2, 2017 Welcome！An asexual is someone who never experiences sex attraction, Whether masturbation or sex has nothing to do with sexuality .Sexual attraction does not mean sexual desire，you said you didn't enjoy sex，maybe you are asexual . The definition of sexual attraction may be a bit vague.If you see someone then you fantasy her naked，that would be sexual.Anyway，You can stay here to explore yourself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted October 2, 2017 Share Posted October 2, 2017 If you: Masturbate Have sex Are married / in a relationship Have kinks / fetishes or anything remotely related you can still be ace If you: Are sexually attracted to someone Masturbate over / have sex with someone you're sexually attracted to you are not ace 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
JCur Posted October 3, 2017 Author Share Posted October 3, 2017 9 hours ago, Lichley said: If you: Masturbate Have sex Are married / in a relationship Have kinks / fetishes or anything remotely related you can still be ace If you: Are sexually attracted to someone Masturbate over / have sex with someone you're sexually attracted to you are not ace I guess I'm trying to work out what I think and feel. Identifying stuff is hard. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 Yeah it is quite hard. The important part is just staying true to yourself and how you feel. Take your time and dont ripush into things. I'm sure you'll find the label you're looking for. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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