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I do get the urges. And I can experience high sensual attraction for guys. That's why, I think, it was kind of confusing for me to identify as asexual. Actually, it is still sinking in for me. 

 

To deal with it, I just masturbate. :) I enjoy porn while I masturbate, but after I have finished, I generally feel indifferent about what I did. When I masturbate without watching porn and focus on how my body feels as opposed on what other people are experiencing (which is what I do when I watch porn), it is a much better experience and I am glad I masturbated haha! Anyone has a similar experience?

 

Finally, I think that as long as you don't - or very, very rarely - feel sexual attraction to someone, you can still be considered asexual. Like, I enjoy masturbation and porn, but I never find myself wanting to have sex with a guy - and boy have I had the chance!

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Not really, I have a rather low libido and I haven't truly felt the need to do anything down there since months.

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Yes I get them and I get them often. Mostly for stress though. And contrary to some of the posts above I'm female with a veeery high libido.

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To start, masturbation doesn't make you not ace in my opinion. 

 

Second, my libido tends to come and go over time: sometimes I have weeks with no libido, and sometimes I have a high one. Right now, for example, it's particularly high and I'm dealing with it by masturbating nightly (or most nights). Also, if I need to relieve myself and can't (like if I'm sharing a room) I tend it just get it over with as many times as necessary (sometimes 3 times back to back) as soon as I get home. 

 

I don't particularly like it, but it needs to be done. 

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10 hours ago, Brownace said:

I do get the urges. And I can experience high sensual attraction for guys. That's why, I think, it was kind of confusing for me to identify as asexual. Actually, it is still sinking in for me. 

 

To deal with it, I just masturbate. :) I enjoy porn while I masturbate, but after I have finished, I generally feel indifferent about what I did. When I masturbate without watching porn and focus on how my body feels as opposed on what other people are experiencing (which is what I do when I watch porn), it is a much better experience and I am glad I masturbated haha! Anyone has a similar experience?

 

Finally, I think that as long as you don't - or very, very rarely - feel sexual attraction to someone, you can still be considered asexual. Like, I enjoy masturbation and porn, but I never find myself wanting to have sex with a guy - and boy have I had the chance!

This is pretty similar to how I am. I get aroused by sensual things, but I'm not interested in sex. Sensual contact does usually lead to arousal for me but it's more like an emotional thing than me wanting sex. I regularly masturbate and watch porn when I do as well, but one thing I've noticed since discovering my asexuality is that it's was never the actual sexual acts that I was watching for, but rather the aesthetic of the women. 

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I do get urges occasionally (much less than I used to, though) and I do act on them when I have them. having a libido doesn't invalidate asexuality if you don't feel urges toward a specific person.:D

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I tried masturbating a few times in the shower when I got aroused. It felt dirty, animalistic and I couldn't orgasm.

 

Really weird though, in lucid dreams, I've been able to get aroused and orgasm with moderate effort, and have done so many times.

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I feel no pleasure from attempted masturbation. No electricity. Perhaps I didn't pay my power bill - bills are a ripoff in Australia.

 

I have no libido.

 

I have a non-active fetish (I do not engage in the behaviour) whereby I read stories. A new story written perfectly can really have an effect. I have twice ejaculated consciously, but never actually touched myself. The first time it happened I panicked and freaked out.

 

Attempts to masturbate feel unnatural and are ultimately futile. Even with morning wood, nothing.

 

I am worried about my prostate because it rarely does anything, and almost always ever in my sleep - which is awful!

 

In a nutshell, I have no urge to masturbate. I didn't learn about masturbation until I was in my mid-teens. Never had a desire to explore my body.

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Strange But Not a Stranger

I do. Sometimes once a week, sometimes once a month... and sometimes a few days in a row. There's no strict time table to it or something. It just happens when it happens.

 

I can feel "inspired" by my celebrity crush. It feels deeper than a crush though, maybe that is why I get inspired that way by him? I have (had) several celebrity crushes and they don't inspire me like that.

But anyway, yes... I am then capable of getting the urge to do something about/with(?) that so called inspiration. And I enjoy the feeling. Doesn't mean I want to have actual sex with actual available people though.

 

 

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Started masturbation at around 11 by accidentally putting shower stream over parts: just a very strong urge to pee then cum.

On 10/23/2017 at 3:30 PM, doggalogga said:

Attempts to masturbate feel unnatural and are ultimately futile. Even with morning wood, nothing.

Me too. Hands feel unnatural, despite almost instant orgasm by others' hands as inner thigh/butt massage even without arousal.

Had several wet spots and sudden daylight emissions while exercising at PE. Pretty shameful exp ( so been advised to use vibrator beforehand by a very close relative. It finishes the problem in seconds and desensitizes for several days without erection (esp nice since I like wearing grecian loose chitons or skirts). Feels much like forced urination still definitely better than wet undies.

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I do fantasize and masturbate, and it was more frequent when I was getting testosterone supplements.  But I still consider myself asexual, because that was all I wanted to do; there was no desire to actually have sex instead, to make anything I fantasized real.  

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I do masturbate, but only because I feel it's something my body needs semi-regularly. Maybe I'm wrong on that, but that's really the only reason I do it. I never have an actual urge to do so, and if I even get close to feeling it, it I start doing anything else, the urge goes away instantly. 

 

When I do happen to do the deed, I do use porn and such, but the second I finish I instantly hate whatever I'm looking at. It's the weirdest thing to me.

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I used to experiences urges but I havent for a very long time. I wonder if my urges before were a result of hormonal changes or something like that. Pretty much the only kind of arousal I experience now is in my dreams (seriously). Lately Ive been having a lot of dreams in which I am masturbating or something similar and 99% of the time I am alone in the dream. Sometimes I wake up with some residual arousal but usually the feeling has passed when ive woken up. I find that I can also l experience arousal from other forms of attraction other than sexual. 

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I dont even like to touch me down there even for shower or after toilet (but well i have to make my hygiene...). I wished i just had a tiny hole for the pee to come out, and not all that pointless stuff down there. I dont even like to look at it. Even erotic movie parts just annoys me, all those sounds and breathing, very annoying and boring, and explicit stuff like porn just make me sick, i think is animalistic and sickening. I have felt atraction but i dont really feel sexual urges, it is like pretty "cold" down here. And i am completelly ok with it.^_^

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13 minutes ago, Sibemarie said:

it is like pretty "cold" down here. And i am completelly ok with it.^_^

same. :3 at least I have no distraction from things that are actually important :D

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My body randomly tells me I should do it but I really hate it. I didn't hate it years ago but it became that way. I don't get the urge to do it but give my body the release about once a week. I'm on antidepressants and let's just say it makes it not so easy to achieve. This is something I never thought I'd discuss on a forum lol. :blush:

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19 hours ago, [noize:injekktion] said:

same. :3 at least I have no distraction from things that are actually important :D

oh yeah ;) i actually feel that in certain situations it helped my mind to be clearer, even with all the struggles in my life (economic problems). For example, i have seen so many people who regret stuff they did last night with some random person because alcohol+high sex drive=anything can happen .

I didn't. Because it simply wasn't there. ( i am not judging, anybody can do whatever, but to me has been an advantage to be asexual)

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