ArcticWolfies Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 Today in my group chat someone made a dirty joke that I didn't get and I asked them to explain because I felt really stupid. When they explained it, I freaked out and I feel like everybody thinks I'm really socially inadequate because I don't get certain jokes. I'm kind of in a state of panic, don't really know why, it's weird. I feel like an idiot because I'm really sheltered - never had an interest in watching porn, haven't learned more about sex than we were taught in school because I find it repulsive, etc. - and therefore I don't understand the jokes people make. I got weirded out as well, when someone made a sexual joke about me (the one I asked them to explain). Is it normal to be annoyed/disgusted when someone makes a joke about you that conflicts with your sexuality? I'm so confused 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SelRivers Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 I don't think it's necessarily linked to sexuality. Like I have met a couple sexuals who who find sex jokes gross and unfunny. I've also seen some asexuals on here who can not only understand sex jokes, but laugh at them as well. No idea why it's like that. There is no shame in being disgusted by sex jokes though, everyone has a different sense of humour. So if it makes you really uncomfortable that someone makes a sexual joke about you, maybe tell them it makes you uncomfortable and hopefully they respect that Quote Link to post Share on other sites
roland.o Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 It is normal to be annoyed when someone makes a joke about you, period. Especially if it's a joke you don't understand. The disgusted part comes in through the sexual joke, also quite normal. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 5 hours ago, ArcticWolfies said: Today in my group chat someone made a dirty joke that I didn't get and I asked them to explain because I felt really stupid. When they explained it, I freaked out and I feel like everybody thinks I'm really socially inadequate because I don't get certain jokes. I'm kind of in a state of panic, don't really know why, it's weird. I feel like an idiot because I'm really sheltered - never had an interest in watching porn, haven't learned more about sex than we were taught in school because I find it repulsive, etc. - and therefore I don't understand the jokes people make. I got weirded out as well, when someone made a sexual joke about me (the one I asked them to explain). Is it normal to be annoyed/disgusted when someone makes a joke about you that conflicts with your sexuality? I'm so confused While I can only speak for myself, I can totally understand your feeling as I had to go through it many times as well, leaving me with a deep churning feel of disgust and anger. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
StormySky Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 I relate... but if no one explains the joke you're better left innocent. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Joyd Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 I can agree with the fact that sex jokes aren't for everyone. I think people should at least respect that. If someone makes a chemistry joke and you don't get it because you're not into the subject, does it make you socially inadequate? No, not really. In the same way, sex jokes shouldn't either, though I suppose most people don't think that way for some reason. I personally have no issue with them, and can find them amusing without being interested in the mentioned sexual activities, but I can understand the pain of not being on the same page as other people. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Treesarepretty Posted September 28, 2017 Share Posted September 28, 2017 11 hours ago, ArcticWolfies said: I got weirded out as well, when someone made a sexual joke about me (the one I asked them to explain). Is it normal to be annoyed/disgusted when someone makes a joke about you that conflicts with your sexuality? I'm so confused Yes, it is normal, especially if you don't yet feel used to hearing about or thinking about sex. I typed "yet" to emphasize that even sexual people like me have been weirded out by it. When I was in high school, two hot girls weirded me out by saying that they were lesbians who wanted to have sex with me in the restroom. I am sure they were messing with me, but at the time I wasn't sure and decided not to go with them. They took one of my friends instead, but he got cold feet also. I had discovered lesbian porn by that time, and was turned on by it, but the idea of trying it with two strangers, in a public restroom, who might just be joking anyway, made me very uncomfortable. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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