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What age did you discover you were asexual?

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nijikazegirl

17 when I saw an article about it in a magazine and realized that it fit me.

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Gorogor

With 14, I had this really big crush on one girl (my first one) and I got closer to her and hung out with her (and her friends) every break, we would play a card game and at first I thought my love was a pretty normal one I was happy to spend time with her.

Then during a theatrical play we were supposed to play a couple. Up until then I never really thought I wanted something like that with her and I didn‘t really care for the idea during the play we we were supposed to hug and pretend to kiss and such and I thought it was weird that I just felt nothing.

During the later parts of the play we also started having swimming class together, and even then seeing her in her bathing suit triggered nothing I realised I didn‘t care for her body.

At first I thought Something was either wrong with me or everyone else but I then did some research and found out about asexuality, and now I‘m here.

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miettaisace

3 years old i told my mother i didnt want to have sex

 

5 i told my mother penises scared me 

 

9 i googled "dont want to have sex" i found out about asexuality 

 

11 years old i came out to my mother as ace.

 

but i knew from the start sex wasnt for me. my lack of sexual attraction towards people wasnt what made me realise, it was my disinterest in sex. it started as a fear (at age 3) but grow into a boredom towards sex. at 11 i realised i didnt look at boys and wanna sit on them kinda thing. 

 

all my crushes were me not wanting to fuck them but me wanting to be them. id look at boys and wanna wear there shorts and id look at girls and wanna have there hair...it was never i want to kiss and touch you. never ever.

 

my kindergarden teachers (age 3-4) called my mother telling her that i said "i dont want to have sex" they asked her how i knew about sex at such a young age all i can say is i knew my body i knew i had a whole down there and that i didnt want anything going up there. 

 

im not sex repulsed 

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Karret

I "knew" long before I knew there was a word for it. If someone asked me "are you gay straight or bi?" I often replied with 'or' or 'none of the above', sometimes I even straight up would basically define asexuality by saying I was like 'the opposite of bi'.
However, I first found out there was a word for it when I was about 19 [which is the year I joined here, iirc].

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NoLongerHuman

I struggled with my sexuality for years. I couldn't figure out what I was and wasn't attracted to, and it got worse after I graduated. It wasn't that long ago that I discovered that I had misinterpreted aesthetic attraction for sexual attraction, and that pretty much cinched the whole asexual thing. Shortly thereafter I discovered I was aromantic as well, and even though that didn't take nearly as long to figure out, it was a lot harder, since romantic attraction is a lot more difficult to define.

 

This was all this year, by the way. I'm eighteen years old. :)

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LoopingBear

I was a teenager and feeling left behind by all the crushes that my friends had. I wasn’t bothered at all but knew that I was different for feeling that way. It was only last year that I first heard the term and realised that it was a real thing. I was so relieved! I’m 40 now!

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manly unicorn

I always knew I guess, but the thing is, I thought that was "normal" and that everybody else felt the same way I did. It was only until mid teens that I realized this is not how most people feel about this. Heck I didn't even know what a penis even looked like until I was like 16 because it never interested me to really know. I discovered the word asexual a lot later and I'm not completely closed to the idea of finding out at some point that this term doesn't apply to me anymore but I figure this will continue to be true unless proven otherwise. 

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tofu24

I was 18 years old. My friends could not stop talking about sex at the time, and not only did it make me uncomfortable, I just wasn't interested! I declared I wouldn't start dating until after university, which is when one of my friends joked about me being an asexual. Never hearing this word before, I went home, googled the word, and never looked back since! 

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awkward_pterodactyl
On 9/28/2017 at 11:58 AM, Ka'el said:

From what I remember I was 16 or 17. Wasn't really sparked by anything, was just like "oh well this explains a lot" and moved on, also I find that knowing what to do with said knowledge is often more important that acquiring it (but that's just me).

Me too. I kinda assumed that since I was a tomboy, I just wasn't feeling it yet, but now I'm 17 and I happened by some asexual posts on Tumblr that made me realize- oh yeah, that makes sense. I always assumed sexual attraction was just a stereotype or exaggeration, but turns out I'm just out of the loop.

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nate-1234

I discovered I was asexual at 18 years which was just a few weeks ago.

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FinneganCatch

I realized in my teens that I really didn't have the same views that a lot of my friends had when it came to sex and dating but it wasn't until I was in my 20's (21-22 ish?) that I found out there was a word for it. I'm 26 now and just starting to use the word asexual for myself.

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will123
On 12/4/2017 at 6:50 PM, LoopingBear said:

I was a teenager and feeling left behind by all the crushes that my friends had. I wasn’t bothered at all but knew that I was different for feeling that way. It was only last year that I first heard the term and realised that it was a real thing. I was so relieved! I’m 40 now!

As a teen I didn't seem interested at all in dating, even though I knew girls as friends. It didn't know anything about asexuality until I was in my early 40s.

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Adventurefreak

At around 20

Actually I first thought that I was straight since I was attracted to guys only. 

 

I heard people saying "Yeah sex is something that you must wait till you're married..... "

I was like its normal, definitely not hard at all to wait...

 

I never understood why some people rush over for sex in a relationship...  even if it gives them pleasure....as there are MANY other ways to have fun as a couple....

 

I could understand if couples wanna kiss & caress but when one says they badly want to have sex, I always thought they were joking or exagerrating xD....

 

I do experience sensual or aesthetic attraction & I actually thought that was sexual attraction xD

 

I never thought that wanting badly to have sex was a real thing till recently. I thought only rapists were like that though xD

 

& I was like phew that explains a lot of things!!

I am not the only one 😊

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Flump222

I found out this year (I'm 15). I knew what it was, but always thought that I wasn't. Now, it's really apparent that I am (I've only had one crush which was purely romantic, and I can't really fathom the idea  of wanting to have sex with a specific person). Whenever I told people about it, they said that I was probably ace, but I just dismissed it. Now, I've finally accepted myself.

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EnterCreativeName

I was 14 (I'm 17 now) when I first heard of it through an LGBT assembly at my school. It was the last definition in their presentation, and took up less than half the slide. I didn't think much of it until over the summer, when I had more time to think. I never thought I was any different than any other strait person, but the second I searched the definition of asexuality, I knew it was me. I realized how different I was from my friends, and within an hour I had fully accepted that I was an aromantic asexual. 

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Hermit Advocate
6 hours ago, EnterCreativeName said:

It was the last definition in their presentation, and took up less than half the slide.

Well that's more information than most people give. 

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EnterCreativeName
8 hours ago, Hermit Advocate said:

Well that's more information than most people give. 

Yes, it is. Above it was the definition for pan and I believe gray-A. They were all squished together on one slide. If I heard right, there is an asexual in out GSA. I thought about going to a meeting once and saying hi, but I haven't had the time. 

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