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[TMI] Questions About Bodily Functions

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Galactic Turtle   
Galactic Turtle

Hello humans. ^_^

 

It's kind of embarrassing that AVEN has supplied me with like.... 80% of my sex ed but... alas....

 

In my ongoing journey to not think of sex as something inherently disgusting (but let's face it, all those germs, all that mess, I think it's fair to say it is inherently disgusting) BUT THAT ASIDE. In my attempt for my gut reaction to my friends talking about their sex lives to not be immediately calling the cops and having everyone involved arrested, I have forayed into the jungle of NC-17 fan fiction. I have for quite a while now.

 

But my question is one about libido. I've read about it on AVEN as it relates to masturbation but it still leaves me a bit confused. I'll be reading something and everything seems normal. Like, my cheeks don't get all hot, there's no tingles happening anywhere, me touching any part of my body doesn't even cross my mind. Nevertheless, sometimes later on when I go to the bathroom or stand up, I've got dampness happening down below.

 

I've never masturbated. I'm still not entirely sure where the opening to my vagina is? I've never seen it or anyone else's? The diagram is just that dinosaur looking thing. I tried reaching down there once but the immediate revulsion I felt ended that journey in about five seconds and during those five seconds it felt similar to like... touching the back of my ear (as in, wow this is random place to be feeling around I bet I look funny). 

 

So in essence I'm wondering why my body is aroused but at the same time I don't feel arousal...? It only happens when I'm reading this stuff so obviously something from my brain is being sent down to my nether regions but emotionally there's no desire there and physically there's no following chain reaction. Like... idk... getting goosebumps but not feeling cold or shivering. 

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Snaocula   
Snaocula

It's normal. The body does things when the mind says there's no reason to. We're a sack of fleshy mystery. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

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Galactic Turtle   
Galactic Turtle
3 minutes ago, Snao Çoñé said:

It's normal. The body does things when the mind says there's no reason to. We're a sack of fleshy mystery. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

But I'm confused because when I see other people talking about a libido they always want to do something about it. I was wondering if I'm also supposed to be doing something about it. Like in my case I don't see the connection between arousal and the inclination to touch.

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m4rble   
m4rble

The vagina sometimes does its own thing. That doesn't mean you're actually horny. 

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Galactic Turtle   
Galactic Turtle
3 minutes ago, m4rble said:

The vagina sometimes does its own thing. That doesn't mean you're actually horny. 

Oh... what a mysterious dinosaur it is.

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Puck   
Puck

Actually, the book Understanding Asexuality talked about this some. Sometimes the vagina gets damp when it sort of "suspects" something might happen, even if one doesn't feel aroused. Some theorize that this is simply because the vagina can incrue a lot of damage if it's dry and something does happen. It may be less a proof of arousal than a proof that the body doesn't want to get hurt. Everyone's body is different, but some people's parts might just be extra ready incase something does happen, even if one is not aroused at all.

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Galactic Turtle   
Galactic Turtle
2 minutes ago, Puck said:

Actually, the book Understanding Asexuality talked about this some. Sometimes the vagina gets damp when it sort of "suspects" something might happen, even if one doesn't feel aroused. Some theorize that this is simply because the vagina can incrue a lot of damage if it's dry and something does happen. It may be less a proof of arousal than a proof that the body doesn't want to get hurt. Everyone's body is different, but some people's parts might just be extra ready incase something does happen, even if one is not aroused at all.

I must say... that's pretty cool! I guess I'm just trying to understand if this is my libido or not too.

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Snaocula   
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11 minutes ago, Galactic Turtle said:

But I'm confused because when I see other people talking about a libido they always want to do something about it. I was wondering if I'm also supposed to be doing something about it. Like in my case I don't see the connection between arousal and the inclination to touch.

Libido isn't necessarily tied to vaginal self-lubrication, as m4rble and Puck have said. While individual parts can be aroused in a physiological way, what is most often meant by "aroused" is having built up an urge to be pleasured. In your case it seems isolated to a specific response. I wouldn't consider that a sign of a libido - just a normal thing most female bodies do.

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Galactic Turtle   
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20 minutes ago, Snao Çoñé said:

Libido isn't necessarily tied to vaginal self-lubrication, as m4rble and Puck have said. While individual parts can be aroused in a physiological way, what is most often meant by "aroused" is having built up an urge to be pleasured. In your case it seems isolated to a specific response. I wouldn't consider that a sign of a libido - just a normal thing most female bodies do.

Ok. And it doesn't give you infections or anything does it? Like I wouldn't think it's the healthiest thing to sit in your own pee which is also a bodily fluid. 

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m4rble
13 minutes ago, Galactic Turtle said:

Ok. And it doesn't give you infections or anything does it? Like I wouldn't think it's the healthiest thing to sit in your own pee which is also a bodily fluid. 

I think it's fine. It lubricates itself just as a matter of self cleaning anyway. Sitting in your own pee would be pretty uncomfortable, but luckily I think vaginal fluids are much less irritating than urine. 

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Puck
13 minutes ago, Galactic Turtle said:

Ok. And it doesn't give you infections or anything does it? Like I wouldn't think it's the healthiest thing to sit in your own pee which is also a bodily fluid. 

As long as you are doing routine hygiene care, no infections should occur (at least, not overly concerning ones and if they do happen they will be rare). Yeast infections are always a thing that could happen, but taking precautions such as wearing clean and dry cotton underwear that you change every day, not leaving tampons in too long, and not doing things that might upset the balance your vagina has within itself like douching.

 

I mean, honestly, it's just functioning as per usual like any part of the body.

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Snaocula   
Snaocula
18 minutes ago, Galactic Turtle said:

Ok. And it doesn't give you infections or anything does it? Like I wouldn't think it's the healthiest thing to sit in your own pee which is also a bodily fluid. 

It's really clean, actually. This is a very normal function of the body part that births healthy babies, after all. :) A lot of dirty connotations are given to female anatomy that don't have any scientific basis.

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1 hour ago, Galactic Turtle said:

Ok. And it doesn't give you infections or anything does it? Like I wouldn't think it's the healthiest thing to sit in your own pee which is also a bodily fluid. 

It's just lubrication, not pee. You're fine. Some people produce a lot though when aroused and if that happens, it's best to change underwear, or you can develop stains and / or smells as it dries up. 

 

And the body being aroused when you're not feeling it is pretty normal. I can get "wet" quite easily, but I rarely feel anything and hardly even notice it... sometimes don't even notice it at all unless I go to shower or something. :P Bodies just randomly do things without wanting anything from it sometimes. 

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Graveful
2 hours ago, Snao Çoñé said:

We're a sack of fleshy mystery. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

I want this quote included in every sex ed class.

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flesh-pocket   
flesh-pocket

its completely normal. it could even just be discharge, which is just clear gooey stuff that happens randomly, whether you were aroused or not. unless its a really strange color or starts to hurt you shouldn't worry about it. 

 

also if looking at pornographic material isnt doing anything for you, its ok to give up on it. it doesnt do something for everyone.

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m4rble   
m4rble
21 minutes ago, flesh-pocket said:

also if looking at pornographic material isnt doing anything for you, its ok to give up on it. it doesnt do something for everyone.

Yes, it's also a very poor source of accurate information. 

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1 hour ago, flesh-pocket said:

 

 

also if looking at pornographic material isnt doing anything for you, its ok to give up on it. it doesnt do something for everyone.

Personally, I find porn repulsive. But, I like certain things with the right person. So... it's not even a good way to judge repulsion, honestly. 

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Galactic Turtle   
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8 hours ago, flesh-pocket said:

its completely normal. it could even just be discharge, which is just clear gooey stuff that happens randomly, whether you were aroused or not. unless its a really strange color or starts to hurt you shouldn't worry about it. 

 

also if looking at pornographic material isnt doing anything for you, its ok to give up on it. it doesnt do something for everyone.

Thank you! I find that I don't mind as much when it's just kind of.... inserted into fan fiction somewhere as part of a larger story because it's nice I guess when people care about each other? It also really depends on the language used so half the time I find myself skimming through unless it's my like.... "let's become desensitized to erotica" time. My way of trying to become less prude I suppose. XD   

 

But with the dampness I was puzzled because I didn't know if that was discharge or if I'd had like.... a secret orgasm without knowing. @__@  

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m4rble   
m4rble
18 minutes ago, Galactic Turtle said:

Thank you! I find that I don't mind as much when it's just kind of.... inserted into fan fiction somewhere as part of a larger story because it's nice I guess when people care about each other? It also really depends on the language used so half the time I find myself skimming through unless it's my like.... "let's become desensitized to erotica" time. My way of trying to become less prude I suppose. XD   

 

But with the dampness I was puzzled because I didn't know if that was discharge or if I'd had like.... a secret orgasm without knowing. @__@  

You don't have to become desensitized to erotica. Being sensitive to sexual content doesn't mean you're a prude, it just means you react in that way. If you're not judging anyone else for their sex lives I don't see why anyone would find that objectionable. 

 

Also, you can become wet or aroused without having an orgasm. The wetness almost always comes first because it is a way of protecting you from potential damage. Of course in this situation it could have just been discharge. 

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