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Just ordered my first toy...

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k_pixel   
k_pixel

So I'm 24 and have never used a sex toy of any description. But since I've been questioning my sexuality, I was thinking I need more experience and buying myself something was a good way to get it, seeing as I'm not with anyone right now and don't want to sleep around hahahaha.

 

I was just wondering how many others on here use them? I'm actually pretty excited for it to turn up as it'll 1) help me find out what I like and 2) hopefully make me feel more relaxed overall as I get a lot of anxiety

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argar   
argar

I think it is awesome you are trying to define yourself for yourself.

 

A little off topic, but this reminded me of a conversation I was having with someone over the weekend.

 

I mentioned the double standard that we seemed to have over "toys" when it comes to men and  women.

 

If a man has a toy like a blow up doll, or something else,  he is considered a weirdo or something is wrong with him, but if a woman has a toy it is perfectly acceptable in most cases.

 

It seems strange to me that we have this standard.

 

To answer the question though, no toy for me, although I did briefly think about getting one.

 

I don't orgasm, so I thought it would be an interesting experience.

 

 

 

 

 

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Sean-Kat   
Sean-Kat

I have the weird thing where I'll experience arousal a lot but not have a sexual target. It took me about a year of practice with a vibrator (age 20) until I could figure out how to orgasm at all.

 

Once I learned how to, it made me not dependent on my partner at all for anything sex related, since I didn't have excess random arousal. (Sex was boring/not fun, and this both solved and created problems in the relationship) I found that masterbating regularly also regulates my emotions on a day to day basis. (I have terrible anxiety)

 

Have fun! :)

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swirl_of_blue   
swirl_of_blue

I've thought about getting one but decided against it. I would like to try one, because frankly I'm growing bored with the things I can do just with my hands. But if I even try to fantasize of using a toy, I start feeling like I'm actually having partnered sex with an inanimate object. And that is to me an extremely repulsive thought, even moreso than partnered sex with another human. So unfortunately no toys for me.

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Nowhere Girl   
Nowhere Girl

I have similar thoughts. Plus, you know... there is some curiosity about what it feels like, but I'm more scared of all the pain and blood stuff... and, given my anatomy, it would be almost certain. So nope. I could be interested in some little gadget for external massage, preferably something not explicitly made for sexual activities.

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Willgracefan   
Willgracefan

I only masturbate when I'm drunk for whatever reason. In the past though I was obsessed with toys, I would go to different sites and compare and compare. I enjoyed them very much. I accepted I was ace a few months ago and I've also tried to drink less so maybe because of those two things I have masturbated in a awhile and the thought of toys hasn't entered my mind.  Seeing what@swirl_of_blue said above though makes me think that I too now think of using a toy would be like imitating sex with another person which is a no no for me.

 

all that said, I totally think you should experiment, because I really did like the toys I bought. 

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Snao Çoñé   
Snao Çoñé

I've bought a couple, but they don't really do anything for me. I have a vibrating dildo that was quite expensive, but it just doesn't do anything for me. :( It looks nice, though. (Not that I have it out on display...)

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sea-lemon   
sea-lemon

I bought a couple at the beginning of the year for similar reasons - I was questioning myself and I wasn't sure if I'd just not found what I liked. 

Idk why but I spent extra to get a really pretty aqua blue coloured one :lol: They ended up not really doing a lot for me, but using them made me a little bit more comfortable with experimenting like that.

 

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nanogretchen4   
nanogretchen4

Over the years I have bought a couple of dildoes, which I rarely use. I have bought cheap battery powered vibrators, which I used until they soon stopped working because they were very flimsy and there is no warranty on most sex toys. But I also had a Hitachi Magic Wand, which is a well made appliance with a warranty. On paper it is a massager, not a sex toy, and you could indeed massage your back with it if you wanted to. However, it is also much stronger and more effective than the cheap vibrators as long as you prefer a vibrator for external use only. I used mine for about ten years before it broke. I haven't replaced it because using a vibrator is not really my go to method of masturbation and I'm not with a partner right now so it doesn't matter how long it takes me to orgasm. If I were to start a sexual relationship I would run right out and buy another one to speed things up during partnered sex.

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Snao Çoñé   
Snao Çoñé
7 hours ago, sea-lemon said:

I bought a couple at the beginning of the year for similar reasons - I was questioning myself and I wasn't sure if I'd just not found what I liked. 

Idk why but I spent extra to get a really pretty aqua blue coloured one :lol: They ended up not really doing a lot for me, but using them made me a little bit more comfortable with experimenting like that.

 

Mine is a pastel aqua colour. :D I bought it off the recommendation of a dude friend of mine who bought one for a previous girlfriend. It seems like an odd place to get dildo advice from, but it came up in conversation so why not? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

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Nowhere Girl   
Nowhere Girl
5 hours ago, nanogretchen4 said:

I have bought cheap battery powered vibrators, which I used until they soon stopped working because they were very flimsy and there is no warranty on most sex toys. But I also had a Hitachi Magic Wand, which is a well made appliance with a warranty.

And have you heard of the woman who discovered that her vibrator was spying on her? The device was not battery-powered, but had an accumulator with USB connection and the owner discovered that every time she connected the device to her computer to power it up, it connected to the internet and sent data to the producer. Supposedly the producer wanted to know how often, how long etc. its products were used in order to improve future versions, but still you'll admit that the thought is kinda disturbing... And also funny, especially to non-dildo-users who don't have to worry about this kind of intrusion on their privacy...

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roland.o   
roland.o

I had a phase for a few years where I bought something every few months, to try out how it feels. Different forms, different materials. But then the interest faded, and I rarely use the toys anymore.

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Fifi123   
Fifi123

I have a few toys. Sometimes I use 'em, sometimes I don't. I bought the first one around 5 years ago or so. An online friend recommended it, she said it was awesome and insisted I should try it. :lol:

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