Infernales Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 On 9/3/2017 at 5:02 AM, BinaryFission said: I have a silver ring on my right hand on my middle finger, for I never had a black ring nor did I really look for one. I wear it not for other asexuals or people to recognize my orientation (nor would they really be able to because there really is no such thing as a silver ace ring) but rather for myself. I wear a silver ring as well, I had a black one but, yeah it broke, and I haven't gotten round to finding another one. I like wearing it as a comfort sign really, that yes I am this. Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 On 12/1/2017 at 12:11 PM, GryphonLover said: I have a black ring, but I very rarely wear it. Any ring that can fit past my knuckle is uncomfortably wide around the base of my finger. I do have the 'ace necklace' I made that I wear fairly often, but no one's commented on my color choices yet. I might take to threading the ring on the necklace, or wearing them together, and see if at least the lesbian couple at work notice anything. There's a lesbian where I work and I was wondering if she'd notice my ring, but nothing. I think a very small % of people have any idea what it means. One concern is if someone accidentally mistakes it for a swinger ring (yikes). Which is a black ring on any other finger. Link to post Share on other sites
Perilous Poozer Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 13 hours ago, Infernales said: I wear a silver ring as well, I had a black one but, yeah it broke, and I haven't gotten round to finding another one. I like wearing it as a comfort sign really, that yes I am this. I've noted before that I had one that broke too I have two tungsten ones now, shiny 4mm and matte 6mm depending on what look I'm after that day. Recommend them. Link to post Share on other sites
Infernales Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 4 hours ago, Perilous Poozer said: I've noted before that I had one that broke too I have two tungsten ones now, shiny 4mm and matte 6mm depending on what look I'm after that day. Recommend them. Ooh. I like those. Might look into getting some one day. Thanks for the rec. Link to post Share on other sites
nimbus Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 I had a black silicone ring that was fine until it started tearing apart. It would catch on things like the edges of my pockets because the rubber had too much friction. Now I'm getting a much nicer tungsten carbide one instead – tungsten carbide being a metal that's super durable and almost impossible to scuff (not to be confused with plain tungsten). I've only had 2 friends ask about my ring so far. One of them mistakenly thought it meant I was engaged! She said she thought that's what the right middle finger meant in Chinese culture, but I suspect she was confused because I found no info online to confirm it. Wearing the ring is definitely a continual reminder to myself that I'm ace. I feel a bit vulnerable with it on, though, because I don't yet know exactly what I should say when people ask about it, but I'll figure that out over time. Link to post Share on other sites
happykitten62 Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 I don't, because I work in chemistry labs, so I don't wear anything on my hands or wrists in case they get damaged by harsh chemicals. I do have an asexual necklace that I just bought, and I plan to wear it daily. It is very small, so I doubt anyone would notice it, but I wear it for myself Link to post Share on other sites
InfiniteHeart Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 I recently bought one for 10 bucks on Amazon, and I plan on wearing it daily. I love the sense of solidarity I feel by wearing it. 🖤💜 Link to post Share on other sites
Mirari Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 I've been wearing my ring almost 24/7 ever since I got it for Christmas, and I've gotten so used to it that it feels like a part of my finger now. I haven't been out so much so no one's asked about it yet, and only my close friends know what it means, but I'll be open to anyone who would ask. It makes me feel comfortable and happy whenever I look at it, and it also reminds me that I'm not alone and that I am valid. <3 Link to post Share on other sites
Tortuga Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 I have an obsidian arrowhead necklace with black string. I also have a ring, but I sometimes forget to wear the ring and wear just the necklace instead. (I like obsidian. A lot. A lot a lot.) Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra Kale Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 I do. When I am at home I take it off, because sometimes it's uncomfortable to take it off every time I wash my hands or something like this. But when I go outside I always wear it. I feel really weird and kind of guilty if I forget about it (it happened few times). When I can't find it sometimes I start to panic and I say that I won't go out. 😂 All in all, I do wear it. Link to post Share on other sites
AwkwardAxolotl Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 I've worn a black ring for about 5 years now. I've never really had anyone recognize what it means, but I kind of like having a reminder that there are others like me, that I have a community if I need it. And I just like how it looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Fantastic Name Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 I've had one for a few months now, and I like it a lot, despite not being much of a ring person. I like the idea behind it all: to help aces identify each other and to subtly tell the world, "Hey! I'm asexual!" It makes me feel less alone in a world full of sexual people somehow. I find myself feeling naked when I don't wear it. It feels like I'm missing a piece of my identity without it on, and I feel vulnerable. It's really strange. Another thing: I was able to come out to a really close friend of mine on New Year's Eve after she asked why I wore the ring, so I guess there's that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ya Boi maxwell Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 I will be soon. I just bought one cheaply from China, it'll be here by February. I'm pretty excited to wear it. Not for other people, but for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Jordikatte Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 On 9/17/2017 at 1:07 AM, Flowertheflower said: I am on the lookout for one, so I can wear it when I feel a bit sad. I love that. I think that is the essence of the symbol. I think I would probably get bored wearing the same thing every day, but sometimes you need that special something whether it is a sweatshirt, piece of jewelry or even a blanket that just perks you up. Link to post Share on other sites
Jordikatte Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 I'm curious how many of you go with just a black band (with or without design) vs. a black ring that has a more stylized look. I like the idea of having one as a symbol of community, but I'm also considering a ring that is an actual ace symbol of some sort. I'm pretty pale so black washes me out and is almost aggressive with my skin tone. I feel like anyone who would recognize a black ring as a symbol of asexuality would make the leap if it was an ace of spades or something similar. However, maybe not? Link to post Share on other sites
Perilous Poozer Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 @Jordikatte I like the simplicity of plain black (and I’m a bit on the ghostly side of pale too), mine is narrow and has a beveled edge with a raised band around the middle for interest, but I’ve seen others link highly ornate pieces including a black tungsten filigree band set with purple stones. All down to personal taste. Link to post Share on other sites
Dean. Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 I do wear one, I have yet to see another person were one, but I still like to have it, it's something that I am proud of it, I also thought of getting a white ring, but I figured the silver rims on it counted enough if anyone asked, which they haven't. Link to post Share on other sites
Tiny-Grey-Dinosaurs Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 I do! https://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Tungsten-Brushed-Beveled-Comfort/dp/B01465T08W/ref=sr_1_60?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1515094335&sr=1-60&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=black+ring+tungsten This one, I got it off amazon. I found another ace when they saw it. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeBena Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 I'm thinking of getting a silicone one. I would love it if another ace recognized me because of that, but I am a little nervous about what to say if someone asks me, like one of my students for example.... Link to post Share on other sites
Lifesaver Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 1 hour ago, HopeBena said: I'm thinking of getting a silicone one. I would love it if another ace recognized me because of that, but I am a little nervous about what to say if someone asks me, like one of my students for example.... I tend to avoid the question with: Because I like it. Go for the silicone though, I love mine Link to post Share on other sites
Te•gurah Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 I use to always wear a Ring so that nobody would try to ask me on a date or my telephone number. I will start doing that again because, honestly I do not like having sex but, I will with the man I truly love and he hates me he does not like me so obviously I will never have sex period. So yes I will start wearing a Ring again. Link to post Share on other sites
Te•gurah Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 On 1/4/2018 at 11:34 AM, Tiny-Grey-Dinosaurs said: I do! https://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Tungsten-Brushed-Beveled-Comfort/dp/B01465T08W/ref=sr_1_60?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1515094335&sr=1-60&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=black+ring+tungsten This one, I got it off amazon. I found another ace when they saw it. It is for men? I use to wear a regular Ring should I purchase one without the stone something like this one. Oh yeah I actually have a Ring like that however it is titanium. Link to post Share on other sites
Eva River Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 my sister actually gave me one for Christmas - she's amazing i don't know what i did to deserve her. It's silicon and so far it seems to be holding up well though I've only had it for 10 days so maybe it's not a good indication (I've only taken it off to shower though, apart from that I've been wearing it constantly, so that might suggest it's fairly good.) she got it from knot theory rings (knotheory.com). it's pretty genderless too if anyone's worried about that. Link to post Share on other sites
Coily the Spring Sprite Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 Just now learned this is a thing. I may have to go out and get one. I'll need to go have my finger measured but I'll probably get tungsten ring linked above. Link to post Share on other sites
PittAce92 Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 I do, absolutely! My parents gave this to me as a holiday gift. Wearing the ring makes me feel: 1) part of something; 2) increase in pride regarding the asexual community. Link to post Share on other sites
IvoryStardust Posted January 7, 2018 Share Posted January 7, 2018 I used to but it broke. I ordered another, a plain black band with a small crystal captured in the center. Can't wait for it to get here! Link to post Share on other sites
StarkRomanoff Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 I got one a few months ago when I joined AVEN and found out the black ring was a thing. This is the one I got. Been wearing it every day since. No one's recognized it's meaning and I don't think they ever will but I like the feeling of community even though I don't know a single Ace person. This is the first piece of jewelry I've worn so my mom got super excited when I started wearing it since she's been trying to make me more feminine my entire life. She asked me what it was for and I said "a ring was an inevitability so I wanted to practice getting used to it." (Yeah, she doesn't know I'm Ace.) Link to post Share on other sites
Jordikatte Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 On 1/3/2018 at 11:45 PM, Perilous Poozer said: @Jordikatte I like the simplicity of plain black (and I’m a bit on the ghostly side of pale too), mine is narrow and has a beveled edge with a raised band around the middle for interest, but I’ve seen others link highly ornate pieces including a black tungsten filigree band set with purple stones. All down to personal taste. I like it. I ended up going with this one for the moment. It is a white wood ring with an ace of spades on it. It is just overt enough that another ace could probably make the leap but not exactly the black ring. I'm not exactly "out" yet so while the idea is awesome, I'm not really sure it feels appropriate yet. Anyone who knows me well knows the ace of spades is my favorite card in the deck. In hindsight, it was just one more hint I never picked up on Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 It's tempting to buy a black ring but to put on my left ring finger for these two reasons: A sign of asexuality (obviously) People will think that I'm married - reduce chances of ever being flirted with Link to post Share on other sites
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