Curious attraction or desires?

[ArcaneSiren]

This is probably going to sound like crazy nonsense, and I don't expect anyone to agree with me, but hear me out - I've been pondering for some time about my (a)sexual spectrum. For ages, despite being asexual, I was wondering why I kept thinking about sex, even though I don't feel sexual attraction to anyone. Now, I identify myself as an asexual who is open to some sexual things, and I've been bicurious for some time (a long time, rather), so I'd figured I was grey-asexual, because of my openness to some sexual things, but now I'm second-guessing that claim. Here's why:

 

I've been thinking, that since sexual attraction/desires/drive exist, as well as romance attraction/desires/drive, why can't curiosity? I mean, 'bicurious' is a thing, as well as bisexual and biromantic, so maybe there should be a thing for curious attraction, curious desire and curious drive? While some people have high sex drives, I've always had a high curious drive; many things that curiously attract me entice my curious drive, and I have the curious desire to learn more about them, or even experiment some things. In this case, with having a high curious drive and all, I see myself as bicurious. Normally, sexual people would experience sexual attraction/drive/desires (and romance, too, yadda yadda); some asexuals experience romantic attraction/drive/desires, but also some have sex drives and have some sexual desires (for whatever reason).  As an asexual, I obviously don't experience sexual attraction, and I have a little sex drive, but I have some sexual desires, in a curious way - curious desires.

 

For as long as I can remember, I would watch porn because I was merely curious on the bodily functions and whatnot; it was never out of pure lust or sexual stimulation. I have always been curious about the human body and its functions, so sex has always been rather intriguing to me, even though I have no desire to engage in actual sex, and don't experience sexual attraction, as I said several times already.

 

I'm sure my sexual thoughts are due to curiosity. I would get confused why I think about sex, and think that I'm not asexual because of it, even though the sexual attraction and libido are still nonexistent. Does anyone think a curious attraction would make sense, in a way? Bicuriosity exists for a reason, right?! I apologize is nothing here makes sense

[roland.o]

Isn't curiosity enough by itself? Why do you want to turn it into an attraction? AIUI, the term "attraction" in this context is used to express various types of attraction towards a person. You seem to be curious about some sexual activities, but not about a specific person. I'm not sure whether "kink" or "fetish" would be fitting qualifiers. But I'd avoid "attraction", unless your curiosity draws you to a person.

[ArcaneSiren]

I changed the title to prevent contradiction to my post, but to respond to your post:

 

I'm sorry for the contradiction regarding the title and the original post. I can understand your question, but I'm sure the ancient Greeks would ask us this: Isn't sexuality enough by itself? The ancient Greeks thought so, because labels did not exist, but then people started coming up with labels for individual attractions, and now bicuriosity is a thing. But isn't curiosity an attraction already? If "sexual" refers to sexual attraction and "romantic" refers to romantic attraction, why can't "curious" refer to curious attraction? Since bicuriosity is a term... I know bicuriosity means one who shows curiosity to the sex naturally not favored, but, in some cases, would that mean someone is curiously attracted to someone of the sex they don't favor? 

 

I'm not curiously attracted towards people, but, since there is a bond, I am actually curiously attracted to someone, but I'm not sexually attracted or romantically attracted to that person. That person doesn't turn me on, nor do I want to date that person. I'm just curious. Also, you could say that I developed some kinks or fetishes due to being curious (shrug).

[CozyPosie]

I feel the same way. I'm insatiably curious about everything, it drives the vast majority of what I do, especially kink and sex. If someone piques my interest enough, I'm comfortable with them, and the context feels right, I will probably engage in behaviour that's uncharacteristic of me. For instance, I ended up getting a little frisky with a couple of friends at a party I went to last night because of those factors. So I totally relate to what you're saying.

[GLRDT]

I would say the three times I was "sexually attracted" to someone in my life,  I would get a strong curiosity to have sex with them to see if it would be different, passionate, and if I would feel something special because I felt drawn to them so much. But even then I didn't feel desire. I felt strong curiosity.

[PixleyDust✨]

I feel like curiosity is a huge force in all of my sexual fantasies, with only some, if only very little physical attraction being a part of it. In fact, I'm pretty sure that curiosity might be the driving force behind that too. 

 

But I don't know if I would create a whole new area of attraction based on it. I think curiosity really is just curiosity, and not necessarily what defines an orientation but a personality type.