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humantoafault

"The great porn experiment"

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humantoafault

I think I've mentioned before that it's been actually observed that heavy usage of porn can actually have a horrible impact on one's irl sexual health. 

 

I'm Christian and was raised Christian,  so I grew up hearing about how horrible and immoral porn is.  Well, I'm actually not against porn altogether. I discovered "lemons" in fanfiction in my teens and occasionally still seek them out. I also think masturbation is healthy. 

 

But, this video has hard evidence and science backing it: heavy usage is detrimental,  and became a larger problem with the wide usage of the internet. 

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Lovelykat

Oh, I absolutely believe heavy usage can be damaging to a relationship...I saw it happen first hand. My ex watched porn constantly, to the point where he was not satisfied with a normal sexual relationship. He wouldn't even enjoy sex unless there was some aspect of humiliation or degradation, which is fine on occasion of course since we both agreed to it...but it got to the point where he was never ever satisfied with just loving, intimate sex. It got to the point that he didn't think of sex as a loving and emotional connection, but as a way to try to live out his porn fantasies. And he was never ever satisfied with our sex life no matter how adventurous we were being...he always wanted more. Ultimately, his porn addiction is the reason I broke up with him. 

 

I think the danger of porn comes when you can't separate it from real life, and feel the need to bring in every single thing you see in a porno to your own bedroom. Some of the things those actors do are just not safe in any way, and porn does tend to be very demeaning towards women.

 

Also the fact that so many young men basically get their sexual education from porn, so when it comes time to their first sexual relationship they expect the girl to basically be a porn star....you have no idea how many relationships I've seen ended this way. Nearly all of my friends have been on this type of situation at one point. 

 

So, bottom line I guess...when you can no longer separate porn from your own bedroom, you're in trouble. Of course I'm not against porn when used cautiously and actually use it myself, but the difference is I would never try to enact some of the more dangerous stuff in real life...I watch it on occasion to help masturbation, that's it. I know it is a fantasy...and that's all it should be. Real life sexual relationships should be kept completely separate, always. 

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JDP

Porn has value to someone who cannot experience sexual intimacy at all, with anyone.

 

The sex in porn is intentionally better than it is in real life. It is, after all, completely fake. It's acting, and hard work.

 

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Grinchmer

So watching porn is not any different than any other activity, be it drinking, gambling, doing sports, shopping, cleaning or whatever you can think of. Heavy usage can have an actual, negative impact on your life.

 

What else is new?

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Rhaenys

So like with everything else use with moderation.

 

 

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humantoafault

Lol. Well there's also research to suggest that the brain can get too acclimated to sharing it's sexuality with a screen which can affect real life, though this video focuses more on addiction. But it definitely boils down to moderation,  yeah. 

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Ray Nimrod

Agree with the moderation thing.

 

However, I was wondering if there were differences about if  (or how) you become addicted on one hand, and regarding side effects on the other hand, could depend of the media you're consuming (porn video, comic/hentai, simple images, written erotica...). Is anyone got evidence about this ?

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JDP

I would ask how addiction is defined in the first place.

 

Unlike a dependence on chemical substances, there is no physical harm to someone who masturbates either to visual images or to the written word.

 

There is also no harm to a relationship where sexual intimacy isn't possible anyway.

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