Tanwen Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 *First in queue for the tiramisu :D * Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Toothless Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Doeyes, I'm new, but hello and welcome, as well thanks for the mention of acebook; hadn't heard of it, but looks interesting for those who date. Guess I really do need to get out more often Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Toothless Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Hmm, a queue already, (off to patisserie for another batch, or 3.. "But good sir, one cannot Love a dessert, for they are but a transitory experience, unworthy of such depth of feeling". "Au contraire, their very brief nature makes them all the more worthy of adulation, unlike a lover the morning after"... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted June 6, 2011 Share Posted June 6, 2011 Exactly - the transitory nature of tiramisu demands that we should value it's presence all the more :lol: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rena Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Hi I am asexual and I think that I will meet someone who is also:) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Turunah Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yes, we all hope. I am asexual by nature, most here is by choice. Although I deal with my condition quite well and even consider this as a rare privilege, I am amazed to know that there are people who choose to leave out of the empire of sexuality. Know that this choice of genre is the most hated of all, is suffering more with prejudice. After all, the meaning of life, which makes society walking, the most effective advertising appeal, subject to all hours and so on .... is sex! I consider myself an outlaw simply by refusing to take sex into account in my assessment of the existence, against the most basic instinct of all life forms more evolved. Although my asexuality is a natural fact, is quite difficult to convince people that you can be happy without sex. People simply do not accept that there may be someone like me, and when I describe how I am, they say - " I do not believe it ". I laugh about it ... to some extent. For if I can easily demonstrate that it is perfectly possible (and even very good) living without sexuality, no longer can do the same regarding the possibility of living alone. I'm getting old and lonely and I'm sorry the fact of not having anyone beside me. Loneliness is a major side effect of this situation. I hope we all succeed... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yes, we all hope. I am asexual by nature, most here is by choice. That's not really true -- You may be thinking of celibacy, where people choose not to have sex. Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction to other people. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KattViki Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Hi,I'm a new member, I've posted yesterday in the Welcome Lounge, but I think this is the better place for me.I'm probably the oldest AVEN member, female, asexual since childhood, always thinking there was something wrong with me. I tried and had a few boyfriends and even got married, still hating having sex. Last time I had it, it was just to get a baby, 26 years ago! :D Finally, I stopped having sex. Now I'm divorced and happy to live alone. People push me to date and find a new partner, they don't understand...Any old old old asexual member around my age? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Turunah Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yes, we all hope. I am asexual by nature, most here is by choice. That's not really true -- You may be thinking of celibacy, where people choose not to have sex. Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction to other people. A hormone replacement solves the problem of anyone who has low rate of libido. But when someone refuses to take medication or have no interest in doing the treatment, it will have which source? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KattViki Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Well, how can you tell me if there are members around my age if I don't tell you it?? Sorry , I forgot, I'm 58... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Welcome, Kattviki! Have some . You are definitely not the oldest AVENite (but you have me beat by a few years. I'm 54, going on 55) Welcome to you, too, Turunah, but you are mistaken. Asexuals are not asexual by choice and it's not about choosing not to take medication to enhance libido or anything. By definition asexuals do not feel sexual attraction. That's no more a choice than someone being heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual or pansexual or any other sexuality. There is no medication or therapy that can change that. You might as well expect someone to be cured of right-handedness. Yes, people can be trained or forced to use their left hand instead, but they're still right-handed. So, what do you mean when you say you are "asexual by nature"? Are you just choosing not to be "cured"? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well, how can you tell me if there are members around my age if I don't tell you it?? Sorry , I forgot, I'm 58... You're just a young thing! :lol: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Turunah Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Welcome, Kattviki! Have some . You are definitely not the oldest AVENite (but you have me beat by a few years. I'm 54, going on 55) Welcome to you, too, Turunah, but you are mistaken. Asexuals are not asexual by choice and it's not about choosing not to take medication to enhance libido or anything. By definition asexuals do not feel sexual attraction. That's no more a choice than someone being heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual or pansexual or any other sexuality. There is no medication or therapy that can change that. You might as well expect someone to be cured of right-handedness. Yes, people can be trained or forced to use their left hand instead, but they're still right-handed. So, what do you mean when you say you are "asexual by nature"? Are you just choosing not to be "cured"? By definition homossexuals feel attracted to same-sex - well, and...? In your opinion (and perhaps founded on scientific certainty), the asexuality (like homosexuality) is an congenital and not pathological condition. But there are those who fight for the cause of recognition of free will in choosing an sexual orientation. We must re-educate them? http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/62866-orientation-or-lack-thereof/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mackat5 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well, how can you tell me if there are members around my age if I don't tell you it?? Sorry , I forgot, I'm 58... You're just a young thing! :lol: I was going to say the same thing!! :lol: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 But there are those who fight for the cause of recognition of free will in choosing an sexual orientation. We must re-educate them? They are certainly free to choose to identify as whatever orientation they feel they are. Anyone is. However, there is absolutely no proof--not even any educated guesses--that anyone "chooses" their orientation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Turunah Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 And there is less evidence that asexuality is exclusively congenital. We should not propose a restrictive (and unnecessary) definitions as a political movement that is just beginning. The possible cause of asexuality (or any other sexual orientation) does not really matter in the struggle for visibility of differences. The subject in this topic that interested me was the loneliness. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 And there is less evidence that asexuality is exclusively congenital. We should not propose a restrictive (and unnecessary) definitions as a political movement that is just beginning. The possible cause of asexuality (or any other sexual orientation) does not really matter in the struggle for visibility of differences. There is no evidence, period. You're right that the cause doesn't matter as far as visibility, but using the word "choice" does not aid in visibility, since that indicates that rather than being different, we've simply made a choice. That's really important, because I've not seen anyone on AVEN in my four years of being here say that they have chosen to be asexual. They simply are. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Turunah Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 And there is less evidence that asexuality is exclusively congenital. We should not propose a restrictive (and unnecessary) definitions as a political movement that is just beginning. The possible cause of asexuality (or any other sexual orientation) does not really matter in the struggle for visibility of differences. ... because I've not seen anyone on AVEN in my four years of being here say that they have chosen to be asexual. They simply are. Just because this site its guided by the strict definition of asexuality that all MUST be congenital. And the police here is very strong. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well, how can you tell me if there are members around my age if I don't tell you it?? Sorry , I forgot, I'm 58... You're just a young thing! :lol: I was going to say the same thing!! :lol: Mac - great to see you back :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hugger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Hey everyone, I'm new here too, just thought I'd say Hi to all you lovely folks :-D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Hi and welcome to the 'oldies' area...not that you need to be over a certain age :D Have some welcome :cake: :cake: :cake: :cake: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KattViki Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Well, how can you tell me if there are members around my age if I don't tell you it?? Sorry , I forgot, I'm 58... You're just a young thing! :lol: I was going to say the same thing!! :lol: :lol: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
KattViki Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Thanks for all the !! Great to have found other asexuals, I 've been thinking for ages to be sort of odd alien on the earth... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DaylightFading Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I almost stopped coming to this forum because of the age factor... Everyone here seemed to be very young (16-20) and while I know we have one very important thing in common, most younger people have not had a lot of "life" experience and thus it can be very hard to find middle ground. Then I remembered there's a place for those of us who are a little older.... Glad I didn't bag it. Fairly sure I belong on this board... I'm Holly. I'll be 30 next month. I know I'm not OLD but I also know this is OLDER than the average around here... lol So hi, everyone, and to all of you. - H Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 Welcome Holly...have some more welcome :cake: :cake: :cake: :D We don't have a lower age limit...but the usual teen angst topics are discouraged. Does that sound 'elitist' or too much like censorship? Don't intend it - I just hope you understand what I mean. :D Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DaylightFading Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Welcome Holly...have some more welcome :cake: :cake: :cake: :D We don't have a lower age limit...but the usual teen angst topics are discouraged. Does that sound 'elitist' or too much like censorship? Don't intend it - I just hope you understand what I mean. :D I don't think that sounds to elitist... I think that's what should be expected for the tiny portion of the forums that is kind of a refuge for older people who want to talk about things they have in common within their age group. ;) And thank you!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
biromanticseniorgal Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Hi, I'm a 60 year young woman interested in connecting with other asexuals around my age. I've been out as asexual and have lived alone by choice for around 15 years. I always knew I wasn't interested in sex but participated reluctantly for various reason. What was that Norman Cousins quote something about death and that the worst part is what dies inside you? It has been such a relief to be out and to have finally found AVEN. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
CompassRose Posted July 9, 2011 Share Posted July 9, 2011 Hi, I'm a 60 year young woman interested in connecting with other asexuals around my age. I've been out as asexual and have lived alone by choice for around 15 years. I always knew I wasn't interested in sex but participated reluctantly for various reason. What was that Norman Cousins quote something about death and that the worst part is what dies inside you? It has been such a relief to be out and to have finally found AVEN. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Welcome to our little corner of AVEN. I too felt tremendous relief finally knowing I wasn't alone in feeling the way I do. I spent so long just "knowing" I was broken that it took years before it occurred to me to look for others like me. Live and learn, eh? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
my_name_is_coco Posted July 16, 2011 Share Posted July 16, 2011 hello... will I count as an "older asexual"? I'm turning 28 by the way.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Cidre Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Hi, I'm a 60 year young woman interested in connecting with other asexuals around my age. I've been out as asexual and have lived alone by choice for around 15 years. I always knew I wasn't interested in sex but participated reluctantly for various reason. What was that Norman Cousins quote something about death and that the worst part is what dies inside you? It has been such a relief to be out and to have finally found AVEN. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Welcome to our little corner of AVEN. I too felt tremendous relief finally knowing I wasn't alone in feeling the way I do. I spent so long just "knowing" I was broken that it took years before it occurred to me to look for others like me. Live and learn, eh? I've just joined. I'm 50 and I live in Scotland. I'm male. I went to the chatroom but everyone was talking about having sex and watching pornography. I'm finding it very confusing here. When I said that experience no sexual attraction at all, someone suggested that I must have a medical problem. I'm not sure if I'll stick around here. It's quite baffling. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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