RyanR Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 What are your views on the sexual speaking dirty or incinuating sexual talk or discussing fantasies? Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 As long as you are both up for trying dirty talk etc then it's fine. I'm not sure what the problem with discussing fantasies could be though, beyond something illegal or ethically wrong. Even grey area stuff should be ok to talk about with someone you trust a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanR Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Personally, I'm not into it "dirty talk", but if both people in the relationship are, then go for it. As for discussing fantasies, unless the other person says not to, it can be good to share. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanR Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 I just felt if I could discuss things she enjoys like kissing & cuddling & touching if I could bring that in to an erotic conversation hopefully she too would feel comfortable! Link to post Share on other sites
swirl_of_blue Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 I'm comfortable talking about sex, even dirty details, only with people I'm not having sex with. But someone I'm in a relationship with? The last thing I'll want to do is do or even talk about anything remotely sexual. So no dirty talk for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Cat Lady Lisa Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Swirl-of-blue, I'm exactly the same! Quite happy to make dirty jokes and talk about sex with platonic friends of both sexes but if my husband talks about that stuff it makes me really uncomfortable :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 21 minutes ago, RyanR said: I just felt if I could discuss things she enjoys like kissing & cuddling & touching if I could bring that in to an erotic conversation hopefully she too would feel comfortable! Hmm. I don't know, you'd have to talk to her and see if that's something she'd be OK with. Personally, if someone tried to turn kissing/cuddling into anything erotic/sexual like that, it would be a turn off, but different people are different. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanR Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 @Serran this is something she is comfortable with as it's been expressed before. She finds the kissing & touching to be pleasurable as long as it's taken no further! I just love her so much & would never want her uncomfortable in anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Ricki Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 26 minutes ago, RyanR said: I just felt if I could discuss things she enjoys like kissing & cuddling & touching if I could bring that in to an erotic conversation hopefully she too would feel comfortable! Relationships are mostly about communication. You can communicate whilst you're trying stuff out, or discuss what you want to do before hand and then maybe change your mind down the line. Just keep each other informed Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Invisible Pumpkin Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 In the context of a relationship, I'll be ok with certain kind of talks? dirty talks? But maybe not if it's too sensual or ones that involves my body, however could involve activities, feelings etc. I'll be fine with fantasies, considering that if I agreed to be in a relationship without someone their fantasies aren't all that creepy to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Someone Else Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 I think it's fascinating to hear about people's (safe, legal) fantasies, the side of them they might keep hidden from the prudish public. Link to post Share on other sites
ChickenPadSeeEew Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 4 hours ago, RyanR said: What are your views on the sexual speaking dirty or incinuating sexual talk or discussing fantasies? I mostly hate it. But each to their own. I've had a think about why, and I think I hate it because it's expected to do something for me or to me. It does nothing and so I want it and any associated expectations to stop. So, yeah, deeeefinitely check with your partner before partaking, or it could turn them right off. And maybe check in again afterwards/before the next time too, just to ensure it was well received and is actually wanted again. Link to post Share on other sites
flesh-pocket Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 if you are trying to talk about sexual fantasies while kissing or cuddling she may take that as a hint that you want to try them out with her. 13 hours ago, RyanR said: @Serran this is something she is comfortable with as it's been expressed before. She finds the kissing & touching to be pleasurable as long as it's taken no further! I just love her so much & would never want her uncomfortable in anyway. are you saying that shes just comfortable with kissing and cuddling, or dirty talk too, here? if you aren't sure she'd be comfortable with dirty talk, then what serran said still stands. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 14 hours ago, RyanR said: What are your views on the sexual speaking dirty or incinuating sexual talk or discussing fantasies? Total turn-off. Disgusting. Unappropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
JDP Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 15 hours ago, RyanR said: What are your views on the sexual speaking dirty or incinuating sexual talk or discussing fantasies? It depends. Link to post Share on other sites
RyanR Posted July 29, 2017 Author Share Posted July 29, 2017 Thanks for everyone's help! Just to clarify she is happy with dirty talk while kissing and cuddling etc. Link to post Share on other sites
gisiebob Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 dirty talk like conversations about the under decks; maintenance hallways designed for the solitary engineer? the long undisturbed dust that darts fearfully in all directions as you struggle to pry open the hatch? (oiling that hinge doubtlessly was just another corner cut on the maintenance schedule) no one has been down this way in at least a year, no one to log in the clogged moisture collectors, no one to complain about the unresponsive temperature control, no one coming through to replace these lights. it's just you and the ship down here. and maybe you haven't loved her as much as you thought you did. or were you talking about something else? Link to post Share on other sites
erf Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Meh... I don't really like it. Link to post Share on other sites
arekathevampyre Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 not into that unless you are talking about dirty literally . lol Link to post Share on other sites
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