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What would mean a indifferent asexual ?


Lucas Monteiro

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Lucas Monteiro

I was thinking if one indifferent asexual means that he does not care for sex but don't have repulse for sex and if he does sex, he don't care too. Is that right ? I think I fit in that term, because I don't have repulse, but I don't have a powerful desire for. Can someone explain better to me, this term ?

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Some asexuals are sex-repulsed and some are not. And some asexual had or have sex but not that they had or have desire for it. Some Asexuals have sex for their partner's happiness or for some other reasons. So, those who are not sex-repulsed and are indifferent toward the idea of being involved in sex are most likely called indifferent asexuals. 
You said it yourself, you don't have repulse and you don't have a powerful desire for sex. I suppose you do fit in that term.

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Lana Overland

Yeah, that's about right 

http://wiki.asexuality.org/Indifferent

http://wiki.asexuality.org/Repulsed

When most people think of Asexuality they think of sex repulsed which would be an aversion to sex either with their own body and/or thinking about it without themself (which is a valid reason to identify as asexual and normal to feel). Sexually indifferent is basically when you could do with or without, it may be because it's not what you're looking for in a relationship, but you wouldn't care if that was a part of the relationship. I would also say that you could use it case to case if that better describes you like "I'm not sexually repulsed when it comes to watching porn or talking dirty, but I am repulsed by the idea of engaging in a sexual act with someone else." It's also important to note that this is different from your orientation, while it may be a factor, your orientation is about the sexual attraction (or lack there of) you have towards people. You can be sexually repulsed or indifferent in different areas of sex and you can be sexually repulsed even if you're not asexual. You can also not be sexually repulsed and not want to have sex. 

 

On a personal note, before I came out as asexual I was completely sex repulsed, I could barely get through sex ed (the like five times our school had us go through that). My teacher thought I was going to faint, it was that bad. I couldn't talk about sex or think about sexual things, but after I came out I became more comfortable and indifferent towards certain aspects of sexual behavior. I can make sexual jokes myself, and think about the concept as long as I don't put myself into those situations. Which is why my explanation might be somewhat debatable because I think of sex and comfort levels about sex in multiple different sections which may or may not involve the actual act or personal involvement, but this is what it means for me. It's complicated for me, so I think of it as a scale like we think about asexuality. I'm indifferent about some things, but repulsed when it comes to myself. 

 

It's really all about how comfortable you feel with your chosen identity, you're never going to get something that describes you fully, but these terms can be helpful in discovering and describing your feelings.

 

I hope this helped, but I think you have it about figured out for yourself given what you've said, so if you feel like it describes you don't be afraid to say you identify as indifferent no one's going to argue with you about it (or at least really should argue with you on that). :cake:

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