The Drafting Ninja Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 My sister told me. I started to look information up recently and found this site. Reading through everyone's experiences it sort of clicked for me. I had similar ones. So thank you guys. This site has cleared things up for me. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 @The Drafting NinjaIt helped me a lot too. I'm very happy with my situation and nothing could change it. By the way, are you a draftsperson (going by your nickname)? Link to post Share on other sites
The Drafting Ninja Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 Yes. I sometimes doodle too when I get a chance. Created a little cartoon of a dancing ninja once on a break. It wasn't anything spectacular. So I figured it would make a good username here. It says a lot about me without needing to post too many specifics. Link to post Share on other sites
nothinbuttrouble Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 Underneath my denial, I started to become aware of it around twelve. Also, the first time I heard the word "asexual" in this context, I knew it applied to me right away. I just couldn't accept it. I don't know why I couldn't, I just COULDN'T. I always have to test everything to its absolute limit. Well, the test results are back... twenty years later. Congratulations, it's an asexual! Link to post Share on other sites
A_Osmyde Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 I figured it out when I was 16 (I think). I do remember how--a google search for, "am I the only guy that doesn't want sex??" In high school there was a lot of innuendo and relationship dynamics that I just couldn't understand. The first group of friends I found was particularly horny (I go so sick of it I found another group of friends later), and one gay student kept hitting on me. Many of those in relationships would have PDAs that were obviously sexual in nature. I rode the bus home and there were often so many sexual conversations I was disgusted. Even my dad had hinted at sex being a vital part of a relationship when I talked to him about how infrequently I'd care for it in one. While still experiencing strong crushes, I couldn't understand any of this sexual stuff, so I searched and found my answer. Link to post Share on other sites
d3v1l Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 About 2 years ago my friend was watching a LGBT+ pride YouTube video interviewing people with all sorts of sexualities. She was pointing out all the different peoples sexualities and I recognised most of the names except two, pansexual and asexual. I looked them both up and realised asexual described me. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentScientist Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 On 8/30/2017 at 2:03 PM, The Drafting Ninja said: My sister told me. That's how I found out too. Almost 6 years ago now. Though I had known for quite sometime that I wasn't sexually attracted to other people. I just never had the words to describe it. When I finally researched what it meant to be asexual, I was ecstatic! I grew up pretty sheltered until I went off to university, so I was unaware that people like me existed. Link to post Share on other sites
Apersonontheinternet Posted September 11, 2017 Share Posted September 11, 2017 Before summer in school conversation girl 1, who ships everyone together(literally talk to a person and you will be shipped): Oh, I ship you and *insert worse enemy's name* together you would be so great together me: nope I hate him, I have absolutely no interest in dating guys at all throughout school in fact. girl 2: wait are you...? me: nope, I have no interest in dating anyone throughout high school sometime in summer somehow ended up talking about dating, sexuality, and other stuff me: so what would someone who just doesn't like people be called? friend, who is really deep into the LGBT+ community (thanks if you somehow see this): Ummm.... You mean Aromantic or Asexual? me: oh, thanks later After much googling and reading through aven posts. IS THIS WHAT I AM? HAVE I FOUND MY PEOPLE? Link to post Share on other sites
Perilous Poozer Posted September 11, 2017 Share Posted September 11, 2017 I just have never been interested, despite being super social and it never occurred to me that it was anything other but a personal deficiency until this year at age 41. It's always been too intrinsic to be a realisation. I'm so happy there's a whole community of people out there! Thanks internets 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
OwlEyed Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Was talking to a friend about gender and sexual identities, all the terminology. This of course involved talking about ourselves. For me, it was how I like to look at people but don't want them to touch me. Then it was like a light bulb went on. And I started doing research. This was just three months ago! Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 20 hours ago, Perilous Poozer said: I just have never been interested, despite being super social and it never occurred to me that it was anything other but a personal deficiency until this year at age 41. It's always been too intrinsic to be a realisation. I'm so happy there's a whole community of people out there! Thanks internets 😊 Kind of sucks that in some cases it takes so long. If I hadn't read an article that mentioned AVEN back in '05, I don't know if I would've figured it out on my own. I know I wasn't doing any research about my lack of sexual interest. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 On 8/31/2017 at 8:11 AM, The Drafting Ninja said: Yes. I sometimes doodle too when I get a chance. Created a little cartoon of a dancing ninja once on a break. It wasn't anything spectacular. So I figured it would make a good username here. It says a lot about me without needing to post too many specifics. I took drafting in high school (before CAD/CAM) ended up being a tool & die maker in my working days Link to post Share on other sites
Perilous Poozer Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Yes! @will123 I guess I was a little flippant, but I did really struggle to understand my lack of attraction to other people and it totally did my head in when I met my partner - I thought that I must not really love him if I did not sexually desire him. I do wish I had known a LOT earlier! Link to post Share on other sites
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