Anthracite_Impreza Posted April 22, 2017 Share Posted April 22, 2017 ^ If anyone ever sent me pictures of dicks I'd throw a filing cabinet at their face. Link to post Share on other sites
TessaMe Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 On 4/20/2017 at 4:26 PM, Melinda22 said: I read an article once that said being asexual is a consequence of a trauma in someone's life and despite of all the other orientations, even bi and homosexuality, asexuality is an abnormal state. Hearing these kind of stuffs, sometimes makes me feel like i have a disease, something like a psychological problem. I'm pretty sure I've never suffered any kind of "trauma" that would have affected me the way these "experts" like to claim, and I hang on to the stupidest things sometimes. How about somebody do a report on how traumatizing and damaging making such claims are to people? There are more than enough people, sexual and non, who have/ had sex simply because they think they're supposed to and not when they want to because of media portrayals, peer pressure, and reports by knuckle-heads like this sexologist. How is that not detrimental to a person? I could care less about sex most of the time. You know when it does stress me out? When it gets rubbed in my face, and I'm made to feel like I'm weird, broken, and bound to be alone forever for having no interest or need for it. Unless something's a legitimate medical condition or causing a problem, stop trying to "fix" it. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 TMI warning This guy gave examples why his patients were still virgins. First one saw an exhibitionist and was scared penis can cause any damages in her vagina. Second, the girl was afraid of sex because heard how their parents were loudly screaming and cursing. I haven't heard such bull****t like this. Link to post Share on other sites
sarahb Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 On 4/20/2017 at 11:50 AM, andreas1033 said: People are mostly sexual, so they try and dominate the thoughts on sex, and that everyone should be doing it. ... If someone stays a virgin all there life, its a threat to how they saw a normal human should live. They want to think, they lived a normal life, and what they did was the right thing. Anything "out of the norm" causes people to second guess. The more religious say that you wait until marriage, and then you go forth and multiply. Another group feels that sex outside of marriage is perfectly fine. And EXPECTS that everyone has sex. Both of those are conflicting opinions. So then add someone who wants to remain a virgin for the rest of their life and heads turn. I wonder, what percentage of people die a virgin? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 6 hours ago, sarahb said: Anything "out of the norm" causes people to second guess. The more religious say that you wait until marriage, and then you go forth and multiply. Another group feels that sex outside of marriage is perfectly fine. And EXPECTS that everyone has sex. Both of those are conflicting opinions. So then add someone who wants to remain a virgin for the rest of their life and heads turn. I wonder, what percentage of people die a virgin? I'm not sure but this guy from the article stated there are more and more late virgins. I think it's a sign of our oversexualised times. Link to post Share on other sites
sarahb Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 2 minutes ago, Hayley_me said: I'm not sure but this guy from the article stated there are more and more late virgins. I think it's a sign of our oversexualised times. I can kind of understand "late virgins" ... but someone hoping and planning to remain a virgin for life is beyond my comprehension. But that is just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Religions (some not all) have often placed people in the path of life-long virgininity so its not all that rare to have examples of people making a concious decision to remain virgins. But even if the reason is not derived from any religion, the concept of sex has always been imposed (its not just today that no sex, similar to no offsprings or family has been seen as some sign of trouble) so people will become rather agitated at the prospect of somebody essentially defying a type of order of the world. Link to post Share on other sites
lionangel Posted May 2, 2017 Share Posted May 2, 2017 On 4/20/2017 at 2:13 PM, Hayley_me said: Today I've read an interview with a sexologist just about virginity. He stated that being 20 30 > virgin is sth strange and such women should have sex. He said being virgin in this age is a result of trauma or sth like that. There was also mentioned sex after marriage as a really bad thing. Why is virginity always portrayed as sth bad? How about people who don't want to have sex for their own choice? I think that due to modern society constantly encouraging sex, virginity can be looked down upon. Even though I am a virgin and a Gray Ace, I find information like this a bit discouraging. I do believe in sex after marriage and I also believe that sex should never be forced upon someone in any shape or form. Link to post Share on other sites
globetrotter85 Posted June 20, 2017 Share Posted June 20, 2017 Well... I'm a 31 year old virgin, and completely happy with that fact. I'm not entirely opposed to the idea of having sex but I'm really not that bothered about it either and don't feel like I'm missing out! I simply haven't met someone I felt ready to sleep with and I'm not making any effort to find one... I'd rather spend my free time hanging out with my horses than looking for someone to have sex with Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandmb Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 I'm 24 and I don't mind being a virgin. Say that being virgin is bad is just a bullshit statement from an oversexualized society, that's not their business if someone's virgin or not. Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 On 21.04.2017 at 1:08 AM, Gentle Giant said: What does sth mean or stand for? sth = something (and sb = somebody) Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 On 24.04.2017 at 0:28 PM, sarahb said: I can kind of understand "late virgins" ... but someone hoping and planning to remain a virgin for life is beyond my comprehension. But that is just me. Consider a simple thing: virginity is not necessarily really a big deal to people. It's not like every virgin considers it some great treasure. For an average asexual who hasn't had sex, hoping to remain a virgin is mostly a byproduct of not wanting to have sex. And that should be comprehensible for people who know about asexuality; it's pretty basic stuff that a lot of asexuals are sex-averse or sex-repulsed. That said, I'm not going to get rid of anatomical virginity just for the sake of, for example, being able to use tampons. Too messy and not worth the pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Gentle Giant Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 1 hour ago, Nowhere Girl said: sth = something (and sb = somebody) Thanks for answering my question, @Nowhere Girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Rhaenys Posted July 14, 2017 Share Posted July 14, 2017 Depends on the culture and society. Some parts of the world women have to do virginity tests before they marry and their grooms make a fuss if they aren't. Mostly as asexuality isn't known much still in the West I guess that is why we get articles like that. He probably was addressing sexuals not taking asexuality into account anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
hippiecat Posted July 14, 2017 Share Posted July 14, 2017 It was such a relief when I found out that I'm "allowed" to be a virgin for the rest of my life if I want to. But yeah, it's just a byproduct of asexuality, like someone already stated above. No idea why anyone would care about someone elses (lack of a) sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
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