TimberWolfPac Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 While this is very new for me, I felt like it might help if i'd ask for advice on this sort of stuff on the forms here. About two maybe three years ago, I found out i was asexual. Now that's not what I'm quite here to ask about so I'll very quickly go through that. Before I found the term asexual, I never really understood what the big whoop was over sex. Once I found the term, I was enlightened with this new found knowledge, and quickly came to terms with that identity. Fast forward a couple years to the present, and my romantic orientation now is much more complicated. Of course to me at least. Before now, I kinda had the idea the that i might be aromatic in the back of my mind. It was something that I truly didn't think much about because I was so sure I was heteroromanic. Recent events however has made me really rethink on that and a lot of my past so called romantic feelings. About a two month ago i was in this short romantic relationship. It lasted a little less then a month, but i ultimately just ended it off. Not because the person was a horrible significant other or any other outside reasons. It was because I didn't have any real romantic feelings for her even though I truly thought I did at the beginning. Here's the thing though. That is how it's always been for me, or at the very least that's how I think it's been. Anyone that I've gone out with never lasted too long, and usually I'd be the one ending it. Again most of the time it's just because i didn't even have any real romantic feelings for the person even though i thought i did at the beginning. This has got me really thinking. Maybe I've never truly had those feelings. Maybe what I thought was these amazing romantic feelings that come with a crush were just stronger platonic feelings or aesthetic feelings i was confusing with romantic ones. I don't even think I've ever had a real crush. It doesn't quite stop there though. Whenever I was in a relationship, I never really got anything from physical parts of the romantic stuff Kissing, holding hands, etc. It was all just dull. Like I was touching a wall. There was no emotion from it. It was just touching. So all of this as lead to me just being really confused. I don't quite know what to think. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Taijavu Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 Well, you're in good company, because beyond enjoying holding hands I'm quite the same way Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 I feel the same way about kissing, it does absolutely nothing for me. Maybe you should browse the Romantic and Aromantic Orientation page. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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