mariposaeloie Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Hello! As I said in my presentation in the new member part of the site, I am questionning my romantic attraction. For the longest time I thought of myself as pansexual and panromantic. But I've come to question that. I have had romantic attraction and feelings and have been in relationships. But it never lasted long. I went with the flow for most of them and just went "ok, fine, whatever" when they suggested being partners. And when I was the one with romantic feelings asking to be in a relationship, my attraction lasted for three months at most. Also, I think I have confused romantic attraction for other type.of attraction before? And, since my last serious romantic attraction from 4-5 years ago, I have felt almost no desire and no romantic attraction toward people and when I have I didn't feel like pursuing it. So I am toying with the idea that I might be in the aromantic spectrum. Mostly close to the romantic side, but still in the romantic spectrum. I know no one with similar experience. There is a side of me that thinks my lack of serious romantic attraction might be because I am starting to transition to be happier in my body and it is a big change and I don't have the mental space to let myself feel? But I always doubt all my instincts so I don't know. They tell me I am on the aro spectrum. I am a bit confused. So I decided today to start refering to my romantic orientation as WTFromantic for now. And to register to this forum. Link to post Share on other sites
Mezzo Forte Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Welcome! Honestly, transition is a confusing enough time even when you feel like you had your orientations figured out beforehand. I dealt with a lot of expectations for my sexual/romantic orientations to shift with my transition, and the insistence of some people just drove me up a wall because I had to defend my identities during a time that I wanted to wait and see what would happen. You probably don't need me to say it, but be sure to take others' opinions with a grain of salt. I'm just as aro-ace as I was before I started transition. Perhaps getting farther along in transition will clear some dust for you, but I'm glad that you have a label that you're comfortable with at the moment. I hope that your experiences on this site help you! (If you don't mind me asking, are you calling yourself a sprout in reference to You're So Brave? ) Link to post Share on other sites
mariposaeloie Posted February 20, 2017 Author Share Posted February 20, 2017 Thank you! (And totally!!! I LOVE THEM SO MUCH!!!! ) Link to post Share on other sites
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