Repulsion?

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I don't think I've ever talked about this but if I see nude people, especially genitallia, I automatically react with feelings of nausea, it can even make me gag

I obviously don't seek such images and I've always not understood why people would enjoy porn...

It doesn't necessarily have to be explicitly sexual imagery, just nudity is enough, and applies to all genders >_>

Is this what people mean by "sex repulsed" even if it's more like "nudity repulsed"?

Does this seem like an immature reaction for someone who is older than 20? It's not like I choose my reactions >_<

Does anyone else have this kind of response?

 

[Rainbow~Sprinkles]

Hello Mystic Maya, 

 

I am 21 years old and am also repulsed by the things you described. I still can't walk into the underwear section in the shopping centre. Even though I know that all girls have to wear them. I just can't stand all the 'sexy' side of it. Makes me feel nauseous. I've also found movies with sexual scenes or innuendo physically repulsive and I've almost thrown up or had panic attacks or dissociation periods that have lasted for hours. 

 

I'm a lot better now so don't worry. This doesn't happen anymore. What worked for me was gentle exposure. Introducing myself to things at home that I felt comfortable with. I would always check plot lines and movie reviews before seeing a movie at the cinemas or watching one at home. This way, I was prepared before I went. Watching it at home gave me the flexibility to pause it and stop watching it for a week until I felt comfortable again. I always took care of myself afterwards if I panicked. For example, I would go for walks, distract myself, talk to a support person, etc. 

 

Gentle exposure to it helped me to not react so obviously in public or with friends and family. It also gave me piece of mind. However I can still react when I'm exposed to something above my limits. Knowing your limits and what you can handle and standing up for yourself to avoid exposure is really important. At least until your comfortable with some things and feel confident handling it. 

 

I'm here if you need to talk about it or want advice. Good luck

[Myssterry]

I don't think the majority of people look very attractive nude and I certainly don't want to see their private parts.  I wouldn't gag, I don't think, but I would much rather they covered up.  Beach wear is fine on beaches, you won't find me on a nudist beach.

 

I don't think that is immature, I think lots of people would share that opinion.  Lots of sexual women don't enjoy seeing male parts - I know because I have heard their comments when in female company. 

[Cognition!]

From my perspective, that's a completely rational thing to do. I tend to avert my eyes during films, or leave the room if sexual acts (or even passionate kissing) goes on for more than a minute. I don't have an issue with people being naked for non-sexual reasons, for example, it's okay in changing rooms for sports etc, but even lingerie models can be repulsive. I can't even go on some sites which have mildly explicit ads down the side. That's definitely not an immature reaction.

[Galactic Turtle]

I almost started crying in front of Victoria's Secret when my older sister tried to take me on my first bra shopping trip because of the images of the models and that everything in the window sported its fair amount of lace that I knew was intended to be sexy. We ended up getting plain white/black sports bras from a sporting goods store instead and to this day I only wear sports bras and camis. Even seeing my roommate's padded bras laying around makes me uncomfortable.  I think there's something suggestive about overly decked out/matching underwear because it implies that underwear is something that is meant to be seen by other people and the only reason I can come up with as to why one would want to look good in just their underwear is for various sexual/intimate altercations. My mom is very bothered by the state of some of my quite tattered underwear. I'm not sure why I had such strong opinions on underwear at age twelve seeing as I believe that was just before I even knew how sex worked or had been exposed to sexual situations through TV shows. Perhaps enough suggestions of sexuality are in everyday media (like commercials) that I just... picked up on pictures of Victoria's Secret models being repulsive... in my view.

 

I find unnecessary exposure to be very off-putting. It's why a lot of more mature themed American dramas/movies make me uncomfortable during randomly inserted sex scenes. I've never seen an actual picture of male or female genitalia but I feel terrified at the prospect of seeing it. I think the main reason I've avoided being disgusted by my own body is because I've never seen or touched the vaginal area. The only evidence that I even have a vagina is because I bleed once a month and even that makes me feel wrong in a whole lot of unreasonable ways. My friends who wear clothing that exposes a lot of their skin always confuses me. The only time I ever wear shorts is when I'm playing sports like lacrosse and even then for most games I have on socks that go up to my knees and the shorts/skirt always come down to at least mid thigh. 

 

These thoughts were confusing to deal with in the midst of the cultural rise of positivity as it relates to female displays of sexuality as empowering. It's not something I disagree with, it was just odd to tell people that I didn't cover up because I was ashamed of the way I looked but because it's how I feel pretty/elegant/of worth. I admire modest/conservative fashion and recently I've seen an addition to the movement of empowering female sexuality to include this mindset as well which is nice.

[StrangeStory]

I always turn away from images of genitals. They look like something out of a horror movie. Why would anyone want to look at that stuff?

 

I have no understanding of attraction to women's breasts. I think a lot of men like them because society says they must.

 

I am also repulsed by any thick curly hair, and somewhat repulsed by the curves of a woman's body (the hour-glass shape which I'm "supposed to" love).

 

I fast-forward through sex scenes. They're the same in every movie, so why do movie makers choose to include them?

 

I could never watch porn. Disgusting.

 

I love that I have this repulsion - it makes me different at a fundamental level, and that's something to celebrate! Your reactions are not immature at all. Whenever society says you should be a certain way, ask why! If there's no logical answer (which there usually isn't) then just ignore and be who you want to be.

 

(I'm kinda envious that you feel nauseated at the sight of nudity...)  

 

 

[SithAzathoth WinterDragon]

I'm in my late 20's never been sexual and have no desire to try sex. I do not masturbate either and that's how repulsed by sex I am and the thought of having someone on me is too unsettling, I rather stay who I have remained for all these years and only have a platonic friendship but not romantic at this time. I like being alone most of the time. 

[gymgirl]

On 31.1.2017 at 1:35 PM, Mystic Maya said:

I don't think I've ever talked about this but if I see nude people, especially genitallia, I automatically react with feelings of nausea, it can even make me gag[...]

It doesn't necessarily have to be explicitly sexual imagery, just nudity is enough, and applies to all genders >_>[...]

Does anyone else have this kind of response?

Yes, it is almost exactly the same for me. Obviously nudity and sexuality are somewhat connected, at least in my brain.

The reaction is even stronger, however, in case of males. Females are not quite as repugnant.

Luckily I have learnt how to manage that and avoid getting into difficult situations.