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SpACEd Out

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

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Incognite

Hi there, I'm new here and was wondering how do you guys feel about your non-ace friends? I personally feel de attached to them in the sense that being teenagers all they talk about when getting together it's sex or getting drunk at parties or who screwed who. I have no ace friends so I would love to hear opinions about this.  

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Incognite
33 minutes ago, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

Hi! Personally I'm not 100% sure I'm ace, but I feel pretty comfortable with that tag for the moment, so I'm just gonna go for it, and if it changes some time in the future it's still ok. 

 

Also, not every person is the same just as not every ace is. Go with what makes sense to you or feel comfortable with. 

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SpACEd Out
49 minutes ago, Incognite said:

Hi there, I'm new here and was wondering how do you guys feel about your non-ace friends? I personally feel de attached to them in the sense that being teenagers all they talk about when getting together it's sex or getting drunk at parties or who screwed who. I have no ace friends so I would love to hear opinions about this.  

I sometimes feel less connected because of that stuff. I don't relate to any of it but I'm not into any part o the idea of partying, not just the sexual aspect. I also don't have any ace friends. 

 

Also, I have this friend (not super close) but I sort of think everything she does is pretty awesome. Idk if I just admire her or if it's some sort of squish or crush. Don't think it's a crush. How do you guys define a squish?

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Cloudpie
2 hours ago, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

I can't be sure that I'll be ace forever, but I'm right now at least I'm positive the label fits

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Laurathenerd
16 hours ago, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

As of right now, I am pretty sure that I am ace, but I sometimes wonder if I am too young to know, and if it will change in the future.

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HufflepuffSupreme
3 minutes ago, Laurathenerd said:

 I sometimes wonder if I am too young to know, and if it will change in the future.

Girl, if you say you ace, then you ace. And if it changes, that's ok too.

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thoughts.of.one
6 hours ago, HufflepuffSupreme said:

Girl, if you say you ace, then you ace. And if it changes, that's ok too.

That super legitamate, @HufflepuffSupreme Sexuality can really change like it is totally okay to move between labels. I also feel like I should take my own advice oh well.

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BionicPi
On 12/11/2017 at 9:21 PM, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

At least at this moment, I'm absolutely sure.

 

On 12/11/2017 at 9:54 PM, Incognite said:

Hi there, I'm new here and was wondering how do you guys feel about your non-ace friends? I personally feel de attached to them in the sense that being teenagers all they talk about when getting together it's sex or getting drunk at parties or who screwed who. I have no ace friends so I would love to hear opinions about this.  

I only really detach when it comes to sex and parties. Generally, I don't actually notice references to sex, which is maybe why my friendships with allo and a-spec people are rather similar.

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Dreammaker
On 11/12/2017 at 8:21 PM, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

Very sure. Ever since I adopted the term I've never doubted (and am actually kind of glad for it hehe).

It's okay of you do though. A lot of people question themselves, and it was one of the first challenges I heard about even before most firms of outside discrimination. It's very common.

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Quality_Penguins
On November 12, 2017 at 9:54 PM, Incognite said:

Hi there, I'm new here and was wondering how do you guys feel about your non-ace friends? I personally feel de attached to them in the sense that being teenagers all they talk about when getting together it's sex or getting drunk at parties or who screwed who. I have no ace friends so I would love to hear opinions about this.  

My allo friends don't really talk about that kind of stuff (we are a bunch of nerds though and we watch Disney movies for fun). To be honest, my one ace friend and I make more sex jokes than anyone in our friend group. But I remember being in a class where people talked about that kind of stuff a lot and I did feel kind of isolated. But I still feel pretty close to all of my allo friends. I think it's more the kind of friends you have than the fact that they're allo. I'm not trying to say you have to find new friends, but maybe you just haven't found the right group yet.

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2 hours ago, Quality_Penguins said:

My allo friends don't really talk about that kind of stuff (we are a bunch of nerds though and we watch Disney movies for fun). To be honest, my one ace friend and I make more sex jokes than anyone in our friend group. But I remember being in a class where people talked about that kind of stuff a lot and I did feel kind of isolated. But I still feel pretty close to all of my allo friends. I think it's more the kind of friends you have than the fact that they're allo. I'm not trying to say you have to find new friends, but maybe you just haven't found the right group yet.

That's so true! My friends do not talk much about sex and relationships.

With the right people around you you will feel fine.

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BritishGentleman

Honestly I do kind of feel attached from my allofriends only if they don’t try to understand my point of view.

 

MOST of the time they say they “understand” or put my “sexualitiy into perspective” but then constantly shower me in sexual thoughts or photos or whatever to see my reaction. However, my best friend is Bisexual and highly romantic, but she steps out of her way to understand where I’m coming from. Oddly enough I have asexual friends, but I can go to her more often with my ace problems because she is such a wonderful listener. 

 

Even other asexuals will have different ideas or perspectives of things, so listening is required. I think it really just depends on the person. In return I ensure to understand why my friend enjoys sex or romance and I avoid devalueing her preferances or choices since she works hard to understand my odd sex-repulsed needs.

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Fantastic Name
On 11/15/2017 at 11:26 PM, Quality_Penguins said:

My allo friends don't really talk about that kind of stuff (we are a bunch of nerds though and we watch Disney movies for fun). To be honest, my one ace friend and I make more sex jokes than anyone in our friend group. But I remember being in a class where people talked about that kind of stuff a lot and I did feel kind of isolated. But I still feel pretty close to all of my allo friends. I think it's more the kind of friends you have than the fact that they're allo. I'm not trying to say you have to find new friends, but maybe you just haven't found the right group yet.

I wish I had friends like that. I've been friends with a group of people for a few years, and they're all coming into their sexuality right now. Half of the things they talk about nowadays revolves around hot guys or so-and-so's boyfriend or whatever. I usually try to tune it out, but it's difficult since these discussions happen all the time. It's alienating.

 

Oh, and sorry for barging in here without an introduction. I'm kinda new here.

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I haven't really been here since I signed up, so nice to meet you guys :) Call me Doodle.

 

On 11/20/2017 at 6:15 PM, Fantastic Name said:

I wish I had friends like that. I've been friends with a group of people for a few years, and they're all coming into their sexuality right now. Half of the things they talk about nowadays revolves around hot guys or so-and-so's boyfriend or whatever. I usually try to tune it out, but it's difficult since these discussions happen all the time. It's alienating.

 

Oh, and sorry for barging in here without an introduction. I'm kinda new here.

I feel ya. So much of the "drama" that goes on in our school passes over my head simply because it's mostly about who's dating who, who did this with that person, etc. etc. I am glad that I don't have to deal with that mess- school is pretty tough without it. But there is that miserable feeling of distance sometimes.

 

When I told one of my peers I never felt romantic attraction for anyone, ever, they told me they were jealous and wished they were me because I didn't have to go through the hardships of romance. I didn't know how to feel about that. A part of me was pleased about the easy acceptance and even moderate admiration. The other part of me was thinking, "No, you really don't." because it feels like it's getting harder and harder for me to relate to and be comfortable around friends when the conversation spirals off into a romantic one. You can call me out if this is flawed thinking, but sometimes I wish I was LGB because at least there's someone among my friends who identifies as such, and people get it easier. I dunno.

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Space-Ace-Android
On ‎13‎/‎11‎/‎2017 at 2:21 AM, SpACEd Out said:

Guys, unrelated question: how sure are you that you're ace. Like, I think I am but maybe I'm wrong... Thoughts?

also you guys are so awesome! This community is the best 🍰

I am certain right now :3

 I am certain due to weeks of research and finding that the label fit like a rug (what's the real metaphor please send help:blink:) :cake: Also that I am very asexual, as in does not want to experience sex instead of just not minding it, and finds kissing a little bit yuck.

 

Image result for Galaxy cake

 

Currently I am questioning  whether I am aromantic or not, but that is it :)

 

Now go off and Sp'ACE' your day :3

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arekathevampyre

@Space-Ace-Android Omg Galaxy cake !! 😱😻

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arekathevampyre

y'all so young . I feel old 😱😕😭

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Hazel_Elise

I'm 16 (17 in March), and I am very confident that I am asexual. I also strongly believe that I will always be asexual. 

Ever since I started telling people, I'm constantly told that I can't know that I'm asexual either a) because I'm too young, b) because I'm a virgin, c) because I'm probably just a late bloomer, or d) because I just haven't found the right person yet. It really annoys me... But I try not to let it get to me too much. 

Anyway, I'm really glad there are so many people and other teens on AVEN that understand/accept me.

<3

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Lirpaderp
1 hour ago, Hazel_Elise said:

I'm 16 (17 in March), and I am very confident that I am asexual. I also strongly believe that I will always be asexual. 

Ever since I started telling people, I'm constantly told that I can't know that I'm asexual either a) because I'm too young, b) because I'm a virgin, c) because I'm probably just a late bloomer, or d) because I just haven't found the right person yet. It really annoys me... But I try not to let it get to me too much. 

Anyway, I'm really glad there are so many people and other teens on AVEN that understand/accept me.

<3

I get the same things. Now I don't tell people unless they ask or the topic is sexuality. I don't hide it, but I'm not open about it either.

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