Scott1989 Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 28 minutes ago, fuzzipueo said: OK: "Money, Money, Money" ABBA I work all night, I work all day, to pay the bills I have to pay Ain't it sad And still there never seems to be a single penny left for me That's too bad In my dreams I have a plan If I got me a wealthy man I wouldn't have to work at all, I'd fool around and have a ball Money, money, money Must be funny In the rich man's world Money, money, money Always sunny In the rich man's world Aha aha All the things I could do If I had a little money It's a rich man's world It's a rich man's world A man like that is hard to find but I can't get him off my mind Ain't it sad And if he happens to be free I bet he wouldn't fancy me That's too bad So I must leave, I'll have to go To Las Vegas or Monaco And win a fortune in a game, my life will never be the same Money, money, money Must be funny In the rich man's world Money, money, money Always sunny In the rich man's world Aha aha All the things I could do If I had a little money It's a rich man's world Money, money, money Must be funny In the rich man's world Money, money, money Always sunny In the rich man's world Aha aha All the things I could do If I had a little money It's a rich man's world It's a rich man's world Lol that song was annoying me as I couldn't find the actual song I meant and every google result pointed me to the Abba song instead I now know it's the Ojays For The love of Money Link to post Share on other sites
Ettina Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 On 1/23/2017 at 1:33 AM, sindi said: Are you saying, that first of all aromantics are oppressed in society? And secondly, any kind of romantics are not? I hardly agree with that. Heterosexual romantics certainly are not oppressed, but other types of romantics, especially if they're asexual on top of it, are just as "oppressed" as aromantics. In a lot of cases, I think people are more accepting of an aromantic person, than a homoromantic one, for instance! And what comes to the potential partners, all asexual romantics are at a big disadvantage, while aromantics don't even need to worry about partners in the first place. As far as I can tell, heteroromantic asexuals experience less oppression than aromantic people. On a list of 16 heterosexual privileges, aros scored 1-3 and hetero aces scored 7. http://abnormaldiversity.blogspot.ca/2017/01/do-asexuals-and-aromantics-have.html?m=1 Probably one of the biggest challenges for aros in our society is finding non-romantic relationships that provide things our society thinks only romantic relationships should provide. Just because I don't feel romantic attraction doesn't mean I want to be alone. And most friendships don't have enough commitment to really meet my needs. Plus if I want a co-parent (which I do - I want to be a mother and I'd like someone there to help), it's tricky to find a non-romantic co-parent or to ensure their legal rights to my child if I can't look after them anymore. If you think finding a romantic partner who doesn't want sex is tough, imagine trying to find a best friend who'll really let you come first in their life. Link to post Share on other sites
Ashmedai Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 I was gonna say "I'm to asexy for my shirt," but then I remembered this is the aro thread. You didn't see this. Aro's are cool too you know. Link to post Share on other sites
sindi Posted January 27, 2017 Author Share Posted January 27, 2017 15 hours ago, Ettina said: As far as I can tell, heteroromantic asexuals experience less oppression than aromantic people. On a list of 16 heterosexual privileges, aros scored 1-3 and hetero aces scored 7. And that's why I took homoromantics as an example, if you didn't happen to notice... Link to post Share on other sites
Ettina Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 6 minutes ago, sindi said: And that's why I took homoromantics as an example, if you didn't happen to notice... "Heterosexual romantics certainly are not oppressed, but other types of romantics, especially if they're asexual on top of it, are just as "oppressed" as aromantics." Heteroromantic asexuals are not heterosexual romantics, therefore they are included in that statement. Plus, if you look at the list of 16 heterosexual privileges, an aro-ace has only one of those. A homoromantic has none. Not a big difference. And that's using a list specifically focused on the issues that gay people face. I'm pretty sure that there are also issues that are unique to aros. And as for some people preferring aros to homoromantics, well, the reverse is also true. I've heard from many aros who've had a talk from parents saying "if you're gay, it's OK to tell me" while refusing to believe them or being very sad for them when they come out as aromantic. I don't have a problem with the topic of this thread - anyone can be annoying, often in ways particular to their category of people - but we shouldn't downplay the significance of the oppression that aromantics face. Link to post Share on other sites
sindi Posted January 28, 2017 Author Share Posted January 28, 2017 19 hours ago, Ettina said: Heteroromantic asexuals are not heterosexual romantics, therefore they are included in that statement. Oops. I was thinking of all kinds of heteroromantics. My bad. 19 hours ago, Ettina said: Plus, if you look at the list of 16 heterosexual privileges, an aro-ace has only one of those. A homoromantic has none. Not a big difference. I never said that it was a big difference, I only argued against the fact that homoromantics would be less oppressed. I'm not trying to downplay the oppression of aromantics, merely trying to say, that they're not so uniquely oppressed that making a joke about them, or mentioning annoying things, should be completely off-limits. (and yeah, in some cases aromantics might be more oppressed, in some cases less, but I never intended to prolong a debate about the exact level of oppression that different orientations face. My point was what I stated above, about aromantics not being super duper oppressed in comparison to others.) Link to post Share on other sites
Randomchaos Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 "why the heck do you need to find an SO? They are just time wasting/fun ruining pieces of junk." Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 I find the complaints a lot of aromantic people say about romantic people annoying. but it's dumb'cause I'm demi so it's like... I see their point... and that's what's more annoying.... Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn Season Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 "Just break up (already)" Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 "Aromantic people are oppressed" Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 Ban all PDA, it's making me uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
Éadweard Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 9 hours ago, ohdearIzzy said: "Aromantic people are oppressed" I guess only you are. Typical Link to post Share on other sites
Ruru+Saphhy=Garnet Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 Link to post Share on other sites
Visenya Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 "[Only] aromantic people make great friends"Three seconds later..."I've finally told my friend that I couldn't care less about her recent break up! Geez, I'm so sick of her whining about it!" "Why can't you be happy without a relationship?" - To be fair, I hear romantic people saying that to other romantics, and it kind of annoys me too. When an ace says "Why can't you be happy without sex? Can't you just masturbate? Maybe you should find new hobbies. Go hiking, play an instrument, make new friends... You can't depend on others to be happy and fulfilled. That's not healthy. Maybe you should get some therapy", everyone jumps it and says that we should respect sexual people's needs. However, a lot of people (aro or not) don't complain when people treat romantics like that. I find it a bit hypocritical, tbh. "Romance is what makes relationships bad, toxic, controlling, possessive, unhealthy, etc." - People who said that probably have had better friendships/platonic relationships than me. Well, I think that is all I could think of. Even though I'm romantic, I can understand most of aromantics' complaints, especially about movies and tv shows being too "romance-oriented". Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 1 hour ago, Just like Jughead said: I guess only you are. Typical I'm not oppressed 😕 Link to post Share on other sites
NerotheReaper Posted January 29, 2017 Share Posted January 29, 2017 Friendly reminder to keep things civil Link to post Share on other sites
hekky1 Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 I don't know if that counts but from my experience with talking to aros, they are veeeery emotionally cold? Or am I just unlucky? Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 9 hours ago, hekoppetaca1 said: I don't know if that counts but from my experience with talking to aros, they are veeeery emotionally cold? Or am I just unlucky? I don't think of myself as being a cold person because of my aromanticism; A little reserved maybe, but I don't freeze people out when first meeting them. I am selective with who i spend my time with. Link to post Share on other sites
crazitaco Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 I take no offense at the existence of this thread, and have some probably annoying habits of my own to contribute: "Ew, they're making out! I don't want to see their cooties in action." :Actual quote by me Or when I complain when two characters end up in a romance by the end of a story. I'm sure yall romantics just roll your eyes, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 37 minutes ago, crazitaco said: Or when I complain when two characters end up in a romance by the end of a story. I'm sure yall romantics just roll your eyes, lol. I was so happy at the ending of Rouge One when they didn't turn it into a romance. Link to post Share on other sites
TRexPhilbo Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 10 minutes ago, Hey you in the corner said: I was so happy at the ending of Rouge One when they didn't turn it into a romance. YES! It was definitely a refreshing change! One Steven Moffat, on the other hand... Link to post Share on other sites
Mychemicalqpr Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 19 minutes ago, Hey you in the corner said: I was so happy at the ending of Rouge One when they didn't turn it into a romance. OH MY GOSH YES. I don't caps lock often, but I was braced for that the whole time, and then I was so happy when it didn't happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.