cooliocool Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 This question is about when a person who you are not close to asks you about your sexuality or what you are attracted to. I usually announce my romantic orientation and my sexual orientation to make it very clear that I'm not attracted to anyone in anyway. If it's a complete stranger, I ignore them and walk away. Or I tell them to mind their damn business. Link to post Share on other sites
Podsnap Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 No one in real life has ever asked me. Link to post Share on other sites
cooliocool Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 2 minutes ago, podsnap said: No one in real life has ever asked me. If they do, how will you respond? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I don't really announce either so much. I explain how I feel about both, if they're interested. A label doesn't tell them much. Link to post Share on other sites
Tanwen Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I consider it's no-one's business but mine. It's only a part of who I am, it does not define me. I do love the line from Shakespeare though 'Man delights not me; no nor woman neither' Link to post Share on other sites
Mychemicalqpr Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Depends on wording. If they ask, "What is your sexual orientation?" then the answer is asexual. But more often they word it as, "Who do you like?" which has a different meaning to me if not to them. If they're just an aquiantance I don't feel like explaining everything to, I'll tell them I'm bi, which they will understand to mean I can like "either" gender, and this adequately answers their question. Not exactly my romantic identity, but close enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Podsnap Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 27 minutes ago, Lemonasculine said: If they do, how will you respond? I guess I'd just say I don't like sex. As a side note, I've seen lots of online what-is-your-sexual-orientation polls on just regular message board forums and asexual is never even listed as a survey option. Link to post Share on other sites
Spiritus55 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 33 minutes ago, Lemonasculine said: If they do, how will you respond? My answer would b none of your business unless I was planning getting into a relationship with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Anime Pancake Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Who I am talking to gets a different answer Acquaintance: I'm straight/hetero Friend: I'm hetero romantic People on aven: I'm grey romantic asexual Link to post Share on other sites
Yatogami Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I tell them its nunya bizness. If they persist, I say I am straight. If they get to know me, I say I don't like sex or people now leave me alone. Eventually they give up. Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 "I don't care about either subject. At all." Link to post Share on other sites
Blue_Chamomile Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I have a tendency to loudly announce it to the world. "Hey, I don't want sex or romance with any of you!" Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Usually people automatically assume I'm a straight woman, and neither is true, so. ._. It means they don't ask. But if anyone does, I say "I don't give a shit". Link to post Share on other sites
Gloomy Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I just say "I prefer being single" and/or "I'm not really interested in anyone". Link to post Share on other sites
Larkaloke Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I've hardly ever had anyone ask, so there's a very small sample size, but so far I've just gone with "asexual" or "not interested in anyone at all". I'd specify more if people were curious, I suppose, but those seem to have been good enough thus far. Link to post Share on other sites
deltaX Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Depends on the person, really. There are a lot of people that I haven't come out to, but have no issue telling them I'm asexual if they ask. There are others that I would be uncomfortable telling for fear they wouldn't accept it. And if it were just some random person asking out of nowhere, well, then it's none of their business and I'd tell them to get lost. Link to post Share on other sites
m4rble Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I just say I'm bisexual because it's easier to explain than to say I'm asexual, but I'd be a bit cautious about saying that to a stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
Bezzy-Loo Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I only give sexual orientation unless the person expresses an interest in knowing more. 'Course, that's also partly because it's pretty recent that I settled on a romantic orientation, and it's not a super clear one to anyone not already familiar with it all. ^^; Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I have never been asked by anyone as to what my sexual orientation is, but if I was I'd tell them that I am an aromantic asexual because people rarely ever ask what your romantic orientation is and that would be the perfect opportunity for me to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
oldgeeza Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I've only ever been asked my orientation on application forms, as it never has the option of asexual, I never answer the question. same when they ask about marital status, because most forms are computer generated these days, they normally don't have the option of single on them, especially if they generate the forms from age related questions Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Teacakes Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I'd ususally just reply "who knows???" and then elaborate. (Although not using labels like aro or hetero because I find them spectacularly not useful). I might tell/imply to a stranger that I'm gay just to make things easier but I'm more inclined to ignore the question. Link to post Share on other sites
Ettina Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I say I'm asexual, because that feels more significant than my romantic orientation. Partly because I figured it out sooner, and partly because I'm sex-repulsed and romance-favourable. Link to post Share on other sites
Squirrel Combat Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Most people assume I'm heterosexual. But the few who have asked, I told it straight, and got defamed for it. Link to post Share on other sites
m4rble Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Just now, Squirrel Combat said: Most people assume I'm heterosexual. But the few who have asked, I told it straight, and got defamed for it. Told it straight, haha. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyaway4me Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 If they want a short answer, I don't bother. If they're willing to stick around I'll try to explain my sexuality, even if I don't entirely understand it myself Link to post Share on other sites
Kuebiko Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 I don't remember ever being asked this in real life, but I'd probably give a shrug and go like, eh. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 I'll say both, as an aro-ace it's nice and easy Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 I have no idea. What even am I, truly? 知らない Link to post Share on other sites
Hollieee Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 If someone were to ask me what my sexuality is I'd tell them my sexual orientation because before I found out there was a difference between sexual and romantic orientation, I know I'd probably have been confused if someone had told me their romantic orientation. It also saves me explaining it to people who probably don't care. For the people who do care, I'll happily explain both if they ask, and this happens quite regularly. When I told a friend I was asexual, she said I might still be in a relationship later on which could change my mind, and then I told her my romantic orientation. I suppose it's not a massive deal to me either way though. I just do what's easiest because I don't feel like saying 'I'm an aromantic asexual' and having them be like 'u wot' Link to post Share on other sites
borkfork Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 People don't ask. They speculate and make assumptions. Link to post Share on other sites
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