A-ok Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 I now identify as asexual femme-romantic/homo-romantic, but I previously had a boyfriend, whom I really did have feelings for. I'm now stuck believing that: 1. I am really pan-romantic( but only like guys like 1% of the time) 2. I only felt platonically for him, but misunderstood my own feelings 3. My romantic attraction is fluid. I accepted the thought of fluid attraction pretty fast, but I'm having my doubts now. The LGBTQ+ community have fought so much for the fact that love isn't a choice it's genetic, however fluid attraction might go against this? By saying my sexuality/romantic attraction changes, I also say that I was not born with this. I'm just confused and want to know what you guys think Link to post Share on other sites
TheyCallMeMiles Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 I see how it seems to contradicts one another. But the fluidity in itself is also involuntary and still not a choice is what I personally think.. Not being born with it doesn't equal choosing it. Did that even make any sense? Link to post Share on other sites
Assemble Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 27 minutes ago, TheyCallMeMiles said: I see how it seems to contradicts one another. But the fluidity in itself is also involuntary and still not a choice is what I personally think.. Not being born with it doesn't equal choosing it. Did that even make any sense? probably not, or my English just sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
A Kangaroo Rat Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 On 01/01/2017 at 3:20 PM, TheyCallMeMiles said: I see how it seems to contradicts one another. But the fluidity in itself is also involuntary and still not a choice is what I personally think.. Not being born with it doesn't equal choosing it. Did that even make any sense? I’ve been trying to pay attention to my various fluidities for a little while now and one thing I can say is that I have no control over the changes and they have most likely been changing even when I wasn’t aware of them. My interest in romance/romantic activities/reading romance stories varies between none and I feel like I’m missing something because I sometimes have an interest in these things and find them pleasing. That sentence was confusing. Basically, what I’m trying to say is I believe fluidity of romantic orientation is definitely a thing, even though it still confuses me, and can occur over different timescales. I use months as a unit of measurement, but years or decades are also valid scales. Link to post Share on other sites
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