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Annoying Things Sexual People Say

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On 20/01/2017 at 10:15 PM, A-Scale said:

When your friend says they "understand asexuality" and then proceeds to ask you "which base would you go to if first base was kissing, second base was groping erogenous zones, and third base was sex"

im like

are bases still a THING? like wtf

I'm not even going up to bat.

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On 1/20/2017 at 0:52 PM, James121 said:

I didn't realise that people are totally grossed out by sex. Yes ok my children would probably think it's disgusting but not an adult. I simply thought it was more a case of failing to have and wish or a desire to do it. 

Oh yeah, that common thinking (especially by males, but nowadays all-too-often females too) that all your problems are due to not having enough sex... :P   I mean seriously, what's up with that?!  (So many problems are caused by having sex, speaking from experience...)

 

On 1/21/2017 at 5:15 AM, A-Scale said:

are bases still a THING? like wtf

That "bases" thing must be a US thing? As I've only ever heard that word used in that sense in an episode of Friends... ;)  

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14 hours ago, Florenna said:
On 1/20/2017 at 8:15 PM, A-Scale said:

are bases still a THING? like wtf

That "bases" thing must be a US thing? As I've only ever heard that word used in that sense in an episode of Friends... ;)

It's an allusion to baseball in which there are three bases (1st, 2nd, 3rd) that you run around to get to home base. When it comes to romantic stuff, each base refers to how far one got with a date - first base is, I think, cuddling? (not sure), and each subsequent base is the next step in the process of getting to home base (full out hanky-panky).

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I've heard of it before but never really knew what they were. So I googled it.

1st base is kissing/making out

2nd base is feeling/touching (such as boob grab)

3rd base is oral sex

4th base/homerun is full on sex

 

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"You're just wallowing in your misery from your breakup."

 

"You just need to get out there, you'll meet someone."

 

"You must have really low self-esteem/are depressed." This is something I've gotten from doctors and therapists. I believed it until I sat down and connected the dots. No real or sustained sexual desire during any period of my life, and I'm 49 and super-healthy? 

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"You can't be asexual because in order to feel pleasure, you need to feel attraction."  ~dickhole of a friend. 

 

 

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2 hours ago, AsexualMemeTrash said:

"You can't be asexual because in order to feel pleasure, you need to feel attraction."  ~dickhole of a friend. 

 

 

Guess I must be attracted to my nice, warm, snuggly blankets then.

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On 12/26/2016 at 8:40 AM, CakeSpadeAce said:

1. How do you know if you've never tried it?

2.Its just a phase!

3. You're too young to know!

 

And many, many more.

 

Accurate 

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"Oh look, he's cute. You should ask him out." :mad:

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On January 8, 2017 at 5:46 AM, Florenna said:

These from a guy (man) I was really interested in, and stayed the night at his place but didn't want to have sex with him - his comments afterwards:

 

"Your behaviour is like women's liberation never happened." 

"When a woman comes to my bed, it's (or should be) obvious that sex will happen."

 

That whole "women's liberation" thing, like you're obviously somehow sexually repressed, like a Victorian puritan or something, if you just don't want to have sex, at any given time or place (or possibly never)... Jeez!

 

 

I totally never got the whole female promiscuity = women's lib thing. If anything, I'd think the more sex a person goes out and has for the sake of sex, the more potential loose ends that can come back to haunt them.  Pretty much the opposite of "liberation" as I understand it.

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On January 22, 2017 at 9:17 PM, Miss Anne Thrope said:

I'm not even going up to bat.

Heh... the umpire threw me out of the game long ago.

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On 24.1.2017 at 0:35 AM, tgif said:

I've heard of it before but never really knew what they were. So I googled it.

1st base is kissing/making out

2nd base is feeling/touching (such as boob grab)

3rd base is oral sex

4th base/homerun is full on sex

 

Strange - what if someone is ready for groping before they're ready for kissing? Is every human supposed to proceed in that order?

Oh, and why does oral sex come before "full sex"? :/ I can imagine that for many, oral sex would be more uncomfortable. Those make no sense.

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47 minutes ago, sindi said:

Strange - what if someone is ready for groping before they're ready for kissing? Is every human supposed to proceed in that order?

Oh, and why does oral sex come before "full sex"? :/ I can imagine that for many, oral sex would be more uncomfortable. Those make no sense.

I agree - I've definitely gone "out of order" before. I've done things further down on the list before open-mouth kissing, for instance. I also think cuddling can be just as great as sex, and I would gladly have a platonic cuddle buddy with no sex necessary. The idea of a pre-defined physical touch escalator is pretty silly, in my opinion. :P

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5 hours ago, Woodworker1968 said:

Heh... the umpire threw me out of the game long ago.

Can't resist without mentioning getting wood 

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2 hours ago, sindi said:

Strange - what if someone is ready for groping before they're ready for kissing? Is every human supposed to proceed in that order?

Oh, and why does oral sex come before "full sex"? :/ I can imagine that for many, oral sex would be more uncomfortable. Those make no sense.

I assume because #4 can make babies, which is a 'higher' level I suppose (women is pregnant, man has scored).

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I'm sure it's been mentioned in several threads like these since AVEN's creation, but in the past 2-3 years it seems like the snowflake comment has become more common. People associate certain sexualities and gender identities with Tumblr now because they haven't heard of them outside the context of Tumblr and thus assume they were made up on there.

 

I don't personally involve myself in those kind of conversations since I don't have the energy for it, but I once saw on Facebook someone mention asexuality on a photo and one of the comments was "Asexuality isn't a thing, go back to tumblr". Little do people like that know that asexuality has been known about as a concept since before Tumblr even existed. 

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A sexual friend telling you about their exploits in detail like you want to know :blink:

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You really need to get laid 

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16 hours ago, Azrael said:

You really need to get laid 

The implication that you need to get laid by the person telling you "you really need to get laid" as if that will magically fix everything.

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4 hours ago, Hey you in the corner said:

The implication that you need to get laid by the person telling you "you really need to get laid" as if that will magically fix everything.

Magic wand ;)

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4 hours ago, Hey you in the corner said:
21 hours ago, Azrael said:

You really need to get laid 

The implication that you need to get laid by the person telling you "you really need to get laid" as if that will magically fix everything.

 

42 minutes ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

Magic wand ;)

The idea is that sex, being the work out it is, can be a great way to relieve tension and help people relax.

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Everybody, can we all please remember the AVEN ToS clause on elitism. Fair enough saying that some things people say are annoying, but please make sure you avoid implying one orientation is better than another. Thank you, Skycaptain, moderator Musi-rants

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When in video games like Mass Effect or Dragon Age people are all like "I want to bang everyone!!!!" and all I want is to just form friendships with the characters.

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